typical Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I just wanna know.... Why is it a big red flag if someone says "I love you" within 2 weeks of knowing and/or dating you? Its been said here before, and I am just trying to wrap my brain around the logistics of it all. Help would be appreciated. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Roo Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I'd imagine because it means the person is not mature enough to realize that 99% of the world wouldn't really KNOW if they were in love that soon it would just be infatuation.??? Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I don't know- my ex and were saying "i love you" within 3-4 weeks and we made it over six years. Sometimes you just know. I knew within an hour of meeting him that he was someone I could love. IMO, this is a red flag if the person has a history of relationships that ramp up really quick and then crash and burn. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 IMO, this is a red flag if the person has a history of relationships that ramp up really quick and then crash and burn. That, or the person tends to become clingy. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Because love is something that can only develop over time as you have shared experiences. Love is something you give to others; it's giving of yourself to others. In love, infatuation, crushes - those are things that are not about giving to the other person as much as they are about wanting the other person. To say "I love you" after a couple of weeks casts doubt on whether that person has any clue what love is, and generally means they're confused on the subject. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 That, or the person tends to become clingy. True 'dat. To say "I love you" after a couple of weeks casts doubt on whether that person has any clue what love is, and generally means they're confused on the subject. True 'dat as well. It's a gamble- I am sure if my relationship had ended after 6 months instead of 6 years, I'd be singing a different tune. Ah, the phases of love. From "I love you barely knowing you" to "I love you knowing every dirty nasty thing". Link to post Share on other sites
Roo Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Because love is something that can only develop over time as you have shared experiences. Love is something you give to others; it's giving of yourself to others. In love, infatuation, crushes - those are things that are not about giving to the other person as much as they are about wanting the other person. To say "I love you" after a couple of weeks casts doubt on whether that person has any clue what love is, and generally means they're confused on the subject. Well put!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted August 28, 2006 Author Share Posted August 28, 2006 So then, are we overlooking the ones that "just knew" such as Kittenmoon, when we say that they are clingy, infatuated, crushing or emotionally immature?? How about someone who knows just what they want and when they found it, didnt want to mince words, instead cutting straight to the point? I guess true love doesnt exist then? Or if it does, and someone really feels like that, they should just keep their mouths closed until, say, 6 months later? Is that an appropriate length of time to then say "I love you"? Anyone can say I love you, they are simple words. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 So then, are we overlooking the ones that "just knew" such as Kittenmoon, when we say that they are clingy, infatuated, crushing or emotionally immature?? How about someone who knows just what they want and when they found it, didnt want to mince words, instead cutting straight to the point? I guess true love doesnt exist then? Or if it does, and someone really feels like that, they should just keep their mouths closed until, say, 6 months later? Is that an appropriate length of time to then say "I love you"? Anyone can say I love you, they are simple words. I would say that they are a rare breed. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 How about someone who knows just what they want and when they found it, didnt want to mince words, instead cutting straight to the point? That's sorta how it felt. I knew it in my heart, but he actually said it first. I felt sketchy saying so early, but it wouldn't be ignored. I think this is one of those "No rules- use your best judgement thing." Link to post Share on other sites
silentcharon Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 That's sorta how it felt. I knew it in my heart, but he actually said it first. I felt sketchy saying so early, but it wouldn't be ignored. I think this is one of those "No rules- use your best judgement thing." Wow, that's pretty much what happened to me, my ex said it first except he said it the first day we met. Actually, he asked me out the day we met :lmao: God, we were so young. Link to post Share on other sites
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