reneet Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 your W is an idiot.... Let me clarify something. I am the ow. My married man's wife is the fool, idiot, moron. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 Let me clarify something. I am the ow. My married man's wife is the fool, idiot, moron. No thats what i meant SHE the W is an idiot, moron etc.... Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 No thats what i meant SHE the W is an idiot, moron etc.... I must have been having a blonde moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 I must have been having a blonde moment. very funny.... Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 Yousaveme, Let me ask you this: Doesn't it bother you that he is w/his wife? It kills me if he goes to the hosp to see his son & she is there. It really really bugs me. Even though he comes home to me every single nite. If it doesn't bother you in the least, then you will be in this place that you are in for a very long time with no decision made on his part. Otherwise, if it does bother you enough, you'll tell him to shi! or get off the damn pot. Isn't he the slightest bit worried that you'll meet someone? I bet that would force him to decide either to stay in the marriage or run to you real quick!! Whatcha think?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 Yousaveme, Let me ask you this: Doesn't it bother you that he is w/his wife? It kills me if he goes to the hosp to see his son & she is there. It really really bugs me. Even though he comes home to me every single nite. If it doesn't bother you in the least, then you will be in this place that you are in for a very long time with no decision made on his part. Otherwise, if it does bother you enough, you'll tell him to shi! or get off the damn pot. Isn't he the slightest bit worried that you'll meet someone? I bet that would force him to decide either to stay in the marriage or run to you real quick!! Whatcha think?? It drives me insane when he is with her. I try put it out of my head so i can function. OH....he has asked if i have been going out...I know its been bothering him Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 It drives me insane when he is with her. I try put it out of my head so i can function. OH....he has asked if i have been going out...I know its been bothering him ive been talking to my ex on and off....But its been about his niece and nephews which im very close with. His sister is a close friend on mine. i have to admit i havent been totally honest with my MM. He knows ive been talking to my ex but i havent said its been about the kids.... Its been bothering him...I can tell because of the tone in his voice and little comments he has made when i have mentioned him...Stuff like are you thinking about going back to him..You know he doesnt make you happy. I have been sweeping what he has been saying under the rug...But i know it bugs him... I hate saying this it makes me sound so weak. But i do love him and i know how he feels about me...I hate that we met like we did...I wish his situtation was different from the very beginning Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 ive been talking to my ex on and off....But its been about his niece and nephews which im very close with. His sister is a close friend on mine. i have to admit i havent been totally honest with my MM. He knows ive been talking to my ex but i havent said its been about the kids.... Its been bothering him...I can tell because of the tone in his voice and little comments he has made when i have mentioned him...Stuff like are you thinking about going back to him..You know he doesnt make you happy. I have been sweeping what he has been saying under the rug...But i know it bugs him... I hate saying this it makes me sound so weak. But i do love him and i know how he feels about me...I hate that we met like we did...I wish his situtation was different from the very beginning(It's the way it is & that's it. Harsh as it may seem. It was hard for me to hide for 2 years. Really effin' hard. When your mm says things like that to you, you can repeat them as questions to him. If he asks are you going back to your husb. you ask are you staying with your wife. If he says your husband can't make you as happy as mm can, say to him "I make you happier than your wife has" Or if that game bugs you, you can tell mm that your business does not concern him. IT CAN"T concern him til he leaves his wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 6, 2006 Author Share Posted September 6, 2006 (It's the way it is & that's it. Harsh as it may seem. It was hard for me to hide for 2 years. Really effin' hard. When your mm says things like that to you, you can repeat them as questions to him. If he asks are you going back to your husb. you ask are you staying with your wife. If he says your husband can't make you as happy as mm can, say to him "I make you happier than your wife has" Or if that game bugs you, you can tell mm that your business does not concern him. IT CAN"T concern him til he leaves his wife. thank you...I have to do that...Thanks I havent thought of talking to him like that...I mean i have but its always to myself trying not to be nasty... But when you look at it , its really not being nasty but staying the truth whether he wants to hear it or not..... I will do that next time we talk... Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 He cheated off and on and you still want him!!???!!! WOW! I think you should cut your losses. You could do so much better than what he is offering you. MM should come with references so we can ask their previous OW what the deal was. Yikes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 He cheated off and on and you still want him!!???!!! WOW! I think you should cut your losses. You could do so much better than what he is offering you. MM should come with references so we can ask their previous OW what the deal was. Yikes. yes he did cheat on his wife on and off for a good part of the marriage. I knew about it , since he told me about it after asking him. Only difference this is the only relationship he has had. The other were basically sexual things but not emotional etc..... We have actually talked about a future together etc....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 yes he did cheat on his wife on and off for a good part of the marriage. I knew about it , since he told me about it after asking him. Only difference this is the only relationship he has had. The other were basically sexual things but not emotional etc..... We have actually talked about a future together etc....... HE is driving me insane....i tired of hearing I dont know ..I sick of hearing it...I told him you want to end it fine go work on your marriage. He never says that...Never says Yes. just says he doesnt know what do about it.. Talked about me being happy...The minute i mention going out..."What are you going to look for guys?" I told him today maybe...And he got pissy.. Dealing with and having a relationship with a MM should come with a prescription of nerve meds Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 HE is driving me insane....i tired of hearing I dont know ..I sick of hearing it...I told him you want to end it fine go work on your marriage. He never says that...Never says Yes. just says he doesnt know what do about it.. Talked about me being happy...The minute i mention going out..."What are you going to look for guys?" I told him today maybe...And he got pissy.. Dealing with and having a relationship with a MM should come with a prescription of nerve meds Here's our RX: No MM no Rx would me needed I take 10 mg of Lexapro every nite. If I wasn't with a MM I wouldn't need to be on meds to deal with depression & anxiety!! Link to post Share on other sites
BUTAFLY Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 HE is driving me insane....i tired of hearing I dont know ..I sick of hearing it...I told him you want to end it fine go work on your marriage. He never says that...Never says Yes. just says he doesnt know what do about it.. Talked about me being happy...The minute i mention going out..."What are you going to look for guys?" I told him today maybe...And he got pissy.. Dealing with and having a relationship with a MM should come with a prescription of nerve meds My ex did that same thing. No divinative answers just, "'m confused", "give me time", jealous when I went out with other men. These are ploys to keep you hanging on longer. This man has you wrapped around his pinky...don't think your a match for a jerk like this he is seasoned cheater(his history proves it) He knows what he is doing. Let go and let him make his choice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 My ex did that same thing. No divinative answers just, "'m confused", "give me time", jealous when I went out with other men. These are ploys to keep you hanging on longer. This man has you wrapped around his pinky...don't think your a match for a jerk like this he is seasoned cheater(his history proves it) He knows what he is doing. Let go and let him make his choice. I dont know if its a ploy. I dont know what to make of it. I want to believe that i really do know him as well as i do. Damn i know he knows me. He says that i say things like im going out etc... to hurt him. Maybe i am, but i do know ive said to see what the reaction would be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 Here's our RX: No MM no Rx would me needed I take 10 mg of Lexapro every nite. If I wasn't with a MM I wouldn't need to be on meds to deal with depression & anxiety!! Haha...I now believe im not going totally insane. I know i have been extremely stressed since the relationship started but since the drama with the W its been unreal. Here i go calling the dr. I need to sleep at nights and think clearly instead of having this on my mind at nights. I know he has been taking something to sleep also... here's a question when does the meds stop? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 here's a question when does the meds stop? When you end the affair and all contact, and no longer have that unnecessary and debilitating stress in your life. When you have a good relationship with someone you can see any time you want. When you no longer have to hide your feelings and your relationship from friends, family, a wife, anyone. When you can feel proud of who you're with, and feel no anxiety about his intentions or desires. When you aren't sharing a man with his wife. Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 When you end the affair and all contact, and no longer have that unnecessary and debilitating stress in your life. When you have a good relationship with someone you can see any time you want. When you no longer have to hide your feelings and your relationship from friends, family, a wife, anyone. When you can feel proud of who you're with, and feel no anxiety about his intentions or desires. When you aren't sharing a man with his wife. First of all, norajane, I AM NOT SHARING. Second of all, if you read my post, you'd see that I say if we were NOT w/MM we wouldn't need to worry, cry, etc. etc. etc. So in other words DITTO!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 When you end the affair and all contact, and no longer have that unnecessary and debilitating stress in your life. When you have a good relationship with someone you can see any time you want. When you no longer have to hide your feelings and your relationship from friends, family, a wife, anyone. When you can feel proud of who you're with, and feel no anxiety about his intentions or desires. When you aren't sharing a man with his wife. Funny part without her ( the W ) in the picture which i hope will be sooner then later we have a great relationship...I didnt asked or plan to find a MM and feel like i do...As i know He didnt ask or plan for this either. It just happen. People have told me what comes easy isnt worth having. Sometimes i wonder if that applies to my situtation. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Funny part without her ( the W ) in the picture which i hope will be sooner then later we have a great relationship...I didnt asked or plan to find a MM and feel like i do...As i know He didnt ask or plan for this either. It just happen. People have told me what comes easy isnt worth having. Sometimes i wonder if that applies to my situtation. As you've told us, you're not the first affair that has 'just happened' to him. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 First of all, norajane, I AM NOT SHARING. Second of all, if you read my post, you'd see that I say if we were NOT w/MM we wouldn't need to worry, cry, etc. etc. etc. So in other words DITTO!! I wasn't responding to you. Your situation is entirely different. Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I wasn't responding to you. Your situation is entirely different. Sorry. I didn't mean to be loud with you. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Sorry. I didn't mean to be loud with you. No worries. Blame it on the meds. Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 No worries. Blame it on the meds. Maybe I will double the dose:p Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 No worries. Blame it on the meds. Called dr described how im feeling and in a few words....IM STRESSED Link to post Share on other sites
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