Onwards Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I had a very nice (albeit short) relationship with a girl that ended in January. Seemingly out of the blue, with no-one else involved (at least I thought so at the time...but still don't know for sure). I handled myself pretty well after the break-up, athough I initiated NC when she wanted to stay friends BUT then I 'changed my mind'. After a couple of emails (my last one received no reply), I realised that she wasn't going to put any effort into being friends so I terminated it - with a nice email wishing her all the best That email also received no response at all so I continued on my merry way and have been doing well for the last 4 months. On Friday night however, I received a text message from her - just asking how I am, saying it had been a while and wishing me a good weekend (???). Strange to say the least. I repied with a short text saying that I was good - that I was away for the weekend and ended it with 'talk soon'. (although I have no intention of initiating contact). I guess I know that things must not be going well for her, but why seek ME out? I could very well have told her to go away or ignored her, so why put herself at risk of that by sending such a superficial text? A few months ago, this may have had me regressing, but not now - I'm puzzled by the contact but not hurting because of it. The reason I'm posting in secnd chances is because I *would* like to meet up with her as I feel our r/s never really got off the ground, but will only do so (reconcile) if I feel it is worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
LaraV Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 What are the conditions under which it would be "worth it"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onwards Posted August 29, 2006 Author Share Posted August 29, 2006 What are the conditions under which it would be "worth it"? Good question. I would like to know the reason for the break-up. If infidelity was an issue, then I would walk. If there was an honest reason that I felt was perhaps justifiable for ending the relationship (that was now no longer an issue) then I may see it as worth while to give things another shot. I guess my 'worth it' clause is all about protecting myself in an effort to ensure that something similar wouldn't happen again (although I know that there are no guarantees in relationships). I have some anger to work through in relation to the way she handled things after the break-up, and I'm not going to work through it (with her) if at the end of the day she can't explain just what happened the first time. Does that make sense? Link to post Share on other sites
LaraV Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 Does that make sense? Yes. That makes a lot of sense, and I think it's the smart thing to do. Has she contacted you again, besides that text asking how you are? You also have to make sure that she's putting forth a good faith effort, you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onwards Posted September 1, 2006 Author Share Posted September 1, 2006 Hey, No more contact from her at all. I'm going to put myself out on a limb and ask her to meet up....I am viewing this as her 'make-or-break'. If she doesn't step up to the plate, I wash my hands of her forever....and commit this saga to memory (lest she tries something similar in the future). A small step backwards for me I know, but one that will ultimately lead me to huge steps forward (free from her completely). I'm expectng nothing, so will not be disappointed if that is what I receive. Link to post Share on other sites
LaraV Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 Hey, No more contact from her at all. I'm going to put myself out on a limb and ask her to meet up....I am viewing this as her 'make-or-break'. If she doesn't step up to the plate, I wash my hands of her forever....and commit this saga to memory (lest she tries something similar in the future). A small step backwards for me I know, but one that will ultimately lead me to huge steps forward (free from her completely). I'm expectng nothing, so will not be disappointed if that is what I receive. Sounds like a reasonable plan. Please keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
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