pricillia Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 Hi all, I decided to discuss something other than MM. I lost my mom to Lung Cancer in April of this year. She was the 3rd youngest of 8 brothers and siters and the first to go at age 60. The brothers and sisters have basicly broken up into groups so the family is a split one. This is due to my grandfather not being a nice man and my grandmother having the gift of gab and talking about everyone to everyone else which created a wedge between the group. My mother and Father were divorced and used to fight all the time.(He passed away about ten years ago and got re-married) To see pictures of them now when they were younger and together fills my heart with love for them both. I definately took my parents for granted and would give all I have to have us all together again happy even for a moment to take a picture, so I can cherish what could have been. It took a long time to get everyone together for the service which was this past Sunday. (she was cremated) Only one of her sisters were there along with her friends and neighbors that could attend. A few of the sisters were unable to come but the other brothers and sisters did not attend by choice. How sad. Seeing realitives and friends of the family that I have not seen in such a long time made me miss them appreciate them and made me so happy to have the chance to see them again to remember what impact each person has on anothers life. It was nice to reconnect and honor at the same time. It was also nice to hear how my mother helped her frends and family with the little things they had funny stories and would talk about all the pranks that she used to pull. She was a beautiful woman but was so unhappy that it overcame her and in the end the cancer kicked her ass as well. I have learned a lesson to make sure that I cherish moments with those near and dear. I always knew it but now I will never forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 I'm sorry for your loss, Priscilla. It's too bad that it takes a personal tragedy like this to help one appreciate the positive ties that family can bring. A good lesson, though you paid far too high a price for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted August 29, 2006 Author Share Posted August 29, 2006 Thanks for your reply. I always know and always knew what a family can bring the joy ect I am just saying that because of My grandmother and grandfather there was alot of pain. Things would be different if they had a different attitude about thier family. The sisters and brothers (my aunts and uncles) don't talk very very sad!!! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 I'm so sorry for your loss. My Dad has terminal lung cancer right now. He had a lung removed in April of this year, actually. Throughout this process I've grown more and more appreciative of family. I find myself looking at photo albums with love a lot more lately. Good luck to you.... I guess in ways I'm lucky, my family has pulled together and become much closer in the last few months. Things were forgiven that I never thought could be.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted August 29, 2006 Author Share Posted August 29, 2006 I'm so sorry for your loss. My Dad has terminal lung cancer right now. He had a lung removed in April of this year, actually. Throughout this process I've grown more and more appreciative of family. I find myself looking at photo albums with love a lot more lately. Good luck to you.... I guess in ways I'm lucky, my family has pulled together and become much closer in the last few months. Things were forgiven that I never thought could be.... Yes that is exactly what I am talking about, being more appreciative. Reflecting on the past photos... you start to remember. I know what you are going through and what your dad is going through. It is not easy at all. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 29, 2006 Share Posted August 29, 2006 It's good to know that others out there understand. It's so freaky when you have a family member with cancer, you suddenly realize how MANY people have had family members suffer with this horrible disease.... Stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted August 29, 2006 Author Share Posted August 29, 2006 It's good to know that others out there understand. It's so freaky when you have a family member with cancer, you suddenly realize how MANY people have had family members suffer with this horrible disease.... Stay strong! You too!!! Family and love and bonds are one of the greatest joys!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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