why do taken men look at porn??

[a4a]

Humungous insecurity issues. Short of killing off every other woman on the planet, it's completely unreasonable to expect your partner to never look at another female or appreciate the looks of anybody but you.

 

You can't tell me you don't look at guys, don't drool over at least one movie star, don't read any romance stories or see romance movies and not fantasize that your guy would be ideal if he was only one of those heroes.

 

It's starting to sound as though an awful lot of women would like to add 'poke the man's eyes out' to the marriage ceremony.

 

nope I don't look at guys and think "I wanna do him"...I do notice peoples conformation, but I actually do not/cannot recall people based on looks alone...never ever drooled over a movie star even as a kid/no posters on my wall........ don't read romance stories, and movies are just movies......(laughing right now because I am thinking of my H playing the part of James Bond...... it just does not compute) :lmao:

 

I guess I am weird.

 

And I do know a handful of men that just don't get off on porn. Some are turned off by the women in porn as they are "trashy or just nasty"......including my own H. So not every man on earth wants to wank to porn.

 

 

 

I have to wonder why a persons feelings are so easily dismissed by telling them to just get over it, this is the way it is, deal with it, your acting stupid, and you are wrong....... is this productive advice? Is this how a person should be treated because something upsets them? I think a little understanding and gentleness is needed...... insecurity is fear based isn't it?

 

Although this topic may be old to us it is not to the new poster. Perhaps circumstances are different for this poster? I mean could not past history make the porn viewing worse for one poster than another? rape or molestation could be part of any posters past and this could be part of it.

 

What I am saying is to tell a person all men do it (which is not true), your insecure and need to get the F over it........ is not exactly helpful to the individual.

[Adunaphel]

Humungous insecurity issues. Short of killing off every other woman on the planet, it's completely unreasonable to expect your partner to never look at another female or appreciate the looks of anybody but you.

 

I guess that there could be a difference between appreciating the looks of a female that passes by (or of a female in a movie or in a pic you accidentally see) and going looking for pics (or real females) to look at and fantasize on.

 

 

You can't tell me you don't look at guys, don't drool over at least one movie star, don't read any romance stories or see romance movies and not fantasize that your guy would be ideal if he was only one of those heroes.

 

I think that watching a movie just to drool over an actor starring in it would not be really respectful to my SO.

 

I also would find it very reasonable if a guy asked his SO to stop reading romance novels if he feels insecure with them, and very hypocrytal of a woman to expect his partner to renounce to porn but refuse to part with her romance novels/her vibrators/her collection of movies featuring avery hot actor/anything else that rocks her boat in case her bf/H was unconfortable with it.

 

Also, I'm sure that quite a lot of women would be glad to stash romance movies away if their partners offered to give them romance (within reasonable limits- of course you can't expect a huge diamond ring every other day from your bf) whenever they wanted. it.

Not so many guys, at least judging from the posts on LS, would be equally ready to stop watching porn even if their gfs and wives were willing to give them all the sex they want(always, within reasonable limits).

 

Sorry but it has been too long since I last played devil's attorney about porn.

[Outcast]

and going looking for pics (or real females) to look at and fantasize on.

 

If you honestly believe that your SO never fantasizes, think again. Go read Men In Love someday - a study of men and their private thoughts about sex. If he's not fantasizing about a stranger, he'll fantasize about a past encounter. In my books, I'd rather have him think about some stranger he didn't care about than some ex that he did.

 

I have to wonder why a persons feelings are so easily dismissed by telling them to just get over it, this is the way it is, deal with it, your acting stupid, and you are wrong.

 

This is about insecurity and jealousy - two 'feelings' which are counterproductive to a healthy and happy life in anyone. People are being told to seek help and to rationalize their thoughts. Here's the OP thinking her partner PREFERS the people he sees to her and therein lies the problem. It's not true. And you don't help yourself or anyone by insisting on believing something about someone that is simply untrue.

 

We know that thoughts create feelings - change your thinking and you'll change the way you feel. If what you happen to be thinking is irrational and you are feeling awful based on your irrational thoughts, then obviously the thing to do is change the thoughts. Whether it's thinking that your husband would rather marry the person in the porn photo or that you are the ugliest woman alive because you have love handles, those negative sorts of thoughts need to be dealt with because they spoil life for you and for the people around you.

[wildanduntamed]

OK. I know that I do not speak for everybody on here, but personally speaking, I have to say that porn can be a good thing. In my relationship, I have to say that I probably look at it more often than my husband, and in fact I sometimes even make a dvd of it from downloads and leave it for him to browse as well. There is something mystical almost in it, lol, in that you can learn many new things, you can have some questions answered for you by watching some of it, and some stuff may be a little beyond what you yourself care for, but you just gotta wonder at its practicality.

Another factor in it being 'right' in my mind to look at it is that we are human, and I am sorry, but your partner (and you FOR your partner) are not available 24/7 and there are times when you just need a bit of excitement or pleasure, or whatever it is that each person gets from it.

You can watch porn, and have so much information without having to utter a word, and you can apply that knowledge to the bedroom later to keep things spicy and fresh. Who wants the value menu every day when you can super size it?!

I love being able to have the confidence to approach some of the finds with my husband and it is almost like foreplay, never knowing where it will lead each time, and something setting off a bell in my head that "this" would work here and be fun.

I say don't worry about his watching porn, unless it affects the two of you intimately or everyday things like getting to work, and stuff like that. He needs 'alone' time as much as you probably do... and don't say that you never take care of business on your own, cuz we both know that it's a lie!

in all, RELAX and maybe you could loosen up a little... get a bit of it for yourself and watch it as well, be it to learn new things, to see what he likes about it, or simply to overcome being a little of a prude about it. It is meant to be fun, so enjoy it. If nothing I have said sits well with you, at least enjoy what he is getting from it and using when he is with you, because in the end, he is with you, not the girls on screen!

[littlepiggy1]

I have to wonder why a persons feelings are so easily dismissed by telling them to just get over it, this is the way it is, deal with it, your acting stupid, and you are wrong....... is this productive advice? Is this how a person should be treated because something upsets them? I think a little understanding and gentleness is needed...... insecurity is fear based isn't it?

 

Although this topic may be old to us it is not to the new poster. Perhaps circumstances are different for this poster? I mean could not past history make the porn viewing worse for one poster than another? rape or molestation could be part of any posters past and this could be part of it.

 

What I am saying is to tell a person all men do it (which is not true), your insecure and need to get the F over it........ is not exactly helpful to the individual.

 

It's true that not all men do it. I'm sure there are some men that don't (I've never met any mind you, and this includes married men). But most do. So odds are, if a woman is with a guy, he's probably looking at porn.

 

And you're right, that telling a person, "you're insecure, get over it" is not helpful. Insecurity sucks, I know. I used to be pretty insecure about myself, too.

 

BUT, if insecurity is the root cause then women need to at recognize that fact and start taking the steps to deal with it. If a woman's first reaction to finding out her SO is looking at porn is, "omg, I'm not enough for him?!" That's not a healthy reaction. She needs to develop some self-esteem so she doesn't feel threatened like this. I said it before and I'll say it again, insecurity is not an attractive trait.

 

Now, obviously things are much more complicated that just this. Maybe the woman did have something bad happen in her past that is causing these insecurities. Well, if that's the case, she needs to deal with that too. If it's something like sexual molestation, rape, whatever, then she needs to be in therapy. Porn ain't the issue there.

 

And there are situations where maybe the guy is looking at porn because he finds his SO unattractive or there are other problems in the relationship. In those cases, those issues need to be addressed, too.

[Interloper]

C'mon girls, stop feeling threatened by electronic digital pixels on a computer screen. You girls have your vibrators. How come we guys never get upset about those? And you can't say that with vibes that there isn't another person (of sorts) involved, because you imagine fantasies and scenarios in your heads, which in alot of ways is worse than the just the purely visual. And don't try to tell me that when your fantasising that it's always about your boyfriend or husband. It's more likely to be the guy that sat across from you on the train or at the food hall. Come on. fess up, your not fooling anyone :laugh:

 

I've been pretty lucky that in my relationships, the girls have never had a problem or worried about it. I guess it's because they knew that i loved them. Are you sure that you girls that are offended by their boyfriends/husbands looking at porn don't want to discuss any underlying issues as to why this is the case? Unstable or insecure relationships perhaps?

[littlepiggy1]

Also, I'm sure that quite a lot of women would be glad to stash romance movies away if their partners offered to give them romance (within reasonable limits- of course you can't expect a huge diamond ring every other day from your bf) whenever they wanted. it.

Not so many guys, at least judging from the posts on LS, would be equally ready to stop watching porn even if their gfs and wives were willing to give them all the sex they want(always, within reasonable limits).

 

I wonder if this would be really true (about women stashing things away if their partner was upset). But when was the last time you can remember a guy bringing up such an issue? I don't think too many guys are that concerned over their wives being into porn, romance novels, or Brad Pitt movies.

 

Something else that needs to be understood by women is that guys don't necessarily watch porn for porn's sake. They may be just using as a tool for solo masturbation.

 

I was actually told by a psychologist that research has shown that men for a strong link in adolescence between porn and masturbation. Hence, they want to masturbate, they look at porn. Hence, telling a guy to give up porn could be equivilant to telling him to give up masturbation (in his mind's eye).

 

To reiterate, though. If insecurity is the root cause (for guys or girls), then that needs to be addressed. Insecurity sucks.

[Pink Amulet]

Hence, they want to masturbate, they look at porn. Hence, telling a guy to give up porn could be equivilant to telling him to give up masturbation (in his mind's eye).

 

 

Great post- the unfortunate discovery I have made (on LS) on this subject is some women are even shocked and appalled to discover their partner still masturbates

[chrissy123]

See why does it ALWAYS have to be the "insecure" women who has to change. If a women has a problem with a man looking at porn and finds that it is degrading then either he needs to stop or they both need to find a new SO. Women should not have to accept that they are 2,3 or 598th best in their mans eye.

Well if he prefers me to the chick from the porn picture why even bother looking at her. If I tell him it hurts me and I don't like it why would he want to do something to hurt me?

 

and don't say that you never take care of business on your own, cuz we both know that it's a lie?>>>>>> Well yeah of course I do but not once have I done it while staring at some naked guys picture or while thinking about the hot guy from the store.

 

or simply to overcome being a little of a prude about it. >>>> only thing I am a prude about is my boyfriend looking at other women naked or thinking about having sex with them.

[littlepiggy1]

See why does it ALWAYS have to be the "insecure" women who has to change. If a women has a problem with a man looking at porn and finds that it is degrading then either he needs to stop or they both need to find a new SO.

 

The woman doesn't have to change. She can dump her BF and go on the quest to find the rare man that doesn't look at porn. That's her choice.

 

But if it stems from insecurity, then the woman should do what she can to become more confident in herself. Insecurity is not a good trait. Not in men or in women.

 

For example, you said:

 

Women should not have to accept that they are 2,3 or 598th best in their mans eye.

 

Just because a guy is looking at porn, doens't mean he prefers it to his SO or that he finds his SO less attractive. Jumping to conclusions like the one above is NOT emotionally healthy. There are plenty of reasons for looking at porn, and while dissatisfaction with one's SO is one of those reasons, it's not the exclusive reason.

[fishtaco]

See why does it ALWAYS have to be the "insecure" women who has to change.

No, sometimes it's the man. If a man insists that his girlfriend throw away her vibrator because she has a man now and has no need for it, then I'd say he's the one that's insecure and needs to change.

 

I have ex girlfriends that actually own more porn than I do. I just download porn, watch them, and forget them. They actually liked them enough to go out and buy the DVDs and keep them in their speical box o goodies.

 

Some people think it's okay, some people are uptight about it.

 

Personally I prefer women that are more open about this sort of stuff. Porn is just porn, it doesn't indicate the coming of the apocalypse. There's no need to read stuff into it.

 

The key is to get into a relationship with someone that think the same way as you do. I would never be with a woman that is appalled by porn and sex toys, and only have sex for procreation reasons in the missionary position. But there are guys that are okay with that, more power to them.

[chrissy123]

The key is to get into a relationship with someone that think the same way as you do. I would never be with a woman that is appalled by porn and sex toys, and only have sex for procreation reasons in the missionary position. But there are guys that are okay with that, more power to them>>>>>

 

 

I am not appalled by sex toys. In fact I own a few. However if my boyfriend was appalled by them I would get rid of them in a second. He is means more to me then a vibrator. And I don't really like the missionary position I find it kinda boring. Also I NEVER plan to have kids so only having sex for procreation is kinda not gonna happen for me. The only thing I really have a problem with is when a man looks at porn and compares me to the women or makes a comment about how hot the big chested red head is.

[catgirl1927]

I will never, ever understand how wanting a guy to be faithful or give one flying rat poop how you feel makes you "insecure."

 

I say again, "insecure" is the label that men place on behavior they find inconvenient.

 

If men are only visually stimulated, and the stimulation they choose is of these perfect women, then it follows logically that those women are what they are attracted to. How is that crazy? It makes sense to me. I like the color purple. I buy purple stuff. Because I like purple.

 

It's what I hate about this site. The message is, "One woman is never enough, you as a woman are NEVER going to be enough. Just be grateful for the scraps we men are willing to throw you. Your feelings do NOT matter."

 

No wonder so many guys on here hate women. Look at what you're putting out there. It's no wonder you can't find a good woman.

 

To the OP: Talk to him. He probably has no clue how you feel. What's important here isn't the porn, it's how he reacts to your feelings. He may convince you that it's nothing to worry about, he may not. But you need to talk to HIM. Because frankly, we probably can't help you much...

[littlepiggy1]

I will never, ever understand how wanting a guy to be faithful or give one flying rat poop how you feel makes you "insecure."

 

I say again, "insecure" is the label that men place on behavior they find inconvenient.

 

Because a lot of the time, the reactions do stem from insecurity. When women start comparing themselves to women in porn and making judgements that their men prefer "porn women" to them (when that may not be the case), then yes, insecurity is the issue (or at the very least part of it).

 

As a guy, I wouldn't be bothered if my g/f masturbated to porn, fantasied about Brad Pitt and what have you. I can recongize that fantasy is fantasy and reality is reality.

 

And having had a very insecure g/f, I can tell you that it ain't fun. Insecurity is not a good trait in a person, whether a guy or a girl.

 

If men are only visually stimulated, and the stimulation they choose is of these perfect women, then it follows logically that those women are what they are attracted to. How is that crazy? It makes sense to me. I like the color purple. I buy purple stuff. Because I like purple.

 

You're leaping to conclusions here.

 

1) Women in porn are not necessarily "perfect women". Believe it or not, I (as a guy) find "regular" women more attractive than your stereotypical porn star type. There's more to attraction than just physical features.

 

2) Guys can find more than one woman attractive. Just because a guy is with a girl, doesn't mean he stops finding other women attractive.

 

3) People don't necessarily look at porn because they are dissatisfied with their SO or find them unattractive. Most people use porn as a solo aid in masturbation. Watching other people have sex turns them on.

 

4) Porn also allows people to explore fantasies that they may not engage in reality. For example, I occationally watch tranny porn. It doesn't mean I want to go out an boink a transexual. But it can be stimulating to watch. Fact is, most people (men and women) have sexual appetites that extend beyond one-on-one sex with a single person for the rest of their life. It's simply the way a lot of us are hard-wired.

 

It's what I hate about this site. The message is, "One woman is never enough, you as a woman are NEVER going to be enough. Just be grateful for the scraps we men are willing to throw you. Your feelings do NOT matter."

 

It's not that the woman's feelings don't matter. They do matter. But it's about recongizing the reality of the situation and not some idealized fantasy that may not be realistic.

 

Above all, it's about compatibility. If a man and a woman have differing views about porn and what-not, then maybe they just aren't compatible.

 

No wonder so many guys on here hate women. Look at what you're putting out there. It's no wonder you can't find a good woman.

 

Ah, right. Guys look at porn, therefore they hate women. Sure.

 

To the OP: Talk to him. He probably has no clue how you feel. What's important here isn't the porn, it's how he reacts to your feelings. He may convince you that it's nothing to worry about, he may not. But you need to talk to HIM. Because frankly, we probably can't help you much...

 

I agree with this. Communication is important and really the only way to deal with the issue. But taking a realistic approach is important, too.

[evilsponge]

I'm not going to sit here and write a thesis on why men watch porn. If it's such a problem for you, then leave the guy. I'd also recommend you buy a few more vibrators while your at it, most men like and watch porn, and most men don't like women who try to change them.

[catgirl1927]

Because a lot of the time, the reactions do stem from insecurity. When women start comparing themselves to women in porn and making judgements that their men prefer "porn women" to them (when that may not be the case), then yes, insecurity is the issue (or at the very least part of it).

 

As a guy, I wouldn't be bothered if my g/f masturbated to porn, fantasied about Brad Pitt and what have you. I can recongize that fantasy is fantasy and reality is reality.

 

And having had a very insecure g/f, I can tell you that it ain't fun. Insecurity is not a good trait in a person, whether a guy or a girl.

 

You're leaping to conclusions here.

 

1) Women in porn are not necessarily "perfect women". Believe it or not, I (as a guy) find "regular" women more attractive than your stereotypical porn star type. There's more to attraction than just physical features.

 

2) Guys can find more than one woman attractive. Just because a guy is with a girl, doesn't mean he stops finding other women attractive.

 

3) People don't necessarily look at porn because they are dissatisfied with their SO or find them unattractive. Most people use porn as a solo aid in masturbation. Watching other people have sex turns them on.

 

4) Porn also allows people to explore fantasies that they may not engage in reality. For example, I occationally watch tranny porn. It doesn't mean I want to go out an boink a transexual. But it can be stimulating to watch. Fact is, most people (men and women) have sexual appetites that extend beyond one-on-one sex with a single person for the rest of their life. It's simply the way a lot of us are hard-wired.

 

It's not that the woman's feelings don't matter. They do matter. But it's about recongizing the reality of the situation and not some idealized fantasy that may not be realistic.

 

Above all, it's about compatibility. If a man and a woman have differing views about porn and what-not, then maybe they just aren't compatible.

 

 

 

Ah, right. Guys look at porn, therefore they hate women. Sure.

 

 

 

I agree with this. Communication is important and really the only way to deal with the issue. But taking a realistic approach is important, too.

 

Your post was reasonable and interesting until this. I never said, implied, or made any allusion at all to the idea that a man who looked at porn hated women, and it is simply ridiculous to imply that I did. There are tons of men on this site who talk about how hopeless women are, they can't be trusted, they lie about everything, and then they say that women should just accept that men need the visual stimulation of porn because it's just something men do.

 

I will concede that some women have a problem with porn because they are insecure. But to say that a being who is singularly visually stimulated does not compare two similar visual stimuli is absurd. If a guy is looking at a porn movie and then seeing a "normal" woman come out of the shower, are you trying to say he sees no difference? That's nonsense.

 

Like I said, the bottom line is communication. She was shocked and initially hurt by his porn use. She should tell him how she feels.

[blind_otter]

I will concede that some women have a problem with porn because they are insecure. But to say that a being who is singularly visually stimulated does not compare two similar visual stimuli is absurd. If a guy is looking at a porn movie and then seeing a "normal" woman come out of the shower, are you trying to say he sees no difference? That's nonsense.

 

distorted Body image and standards of perfection. This statement above is simply untrue. I love who I love not only because of their good parts, but their bad parts as well. No one demands perfection, unless they themselves have a distorted idea of what constitutes physical attractiveness. As a woman who enjoys porn and dates men who do the same, I know that my body isn't perfect.

 

But you need to understand that men, summarily, do not look at women the same way women look at themselves, or at each other. Haven't you ever been with someone who had crooked teeth, or a bump in their nose? Are you repulsed by this but try to choke back vomit to make them feel better? Or do you find it endearing?

 

And it's really, really condescending to tell someone that their opinion is absurd. Communicate like this and you will guarantee a defensive response and subsequent flame war. I only recently learned this but thought it wise to pass on the advice.

[norajane]

I will concede that some women have a problem with porn because they are insecure. But to say that a being who is singularly visually stimulated does not compare two similar visual stimuli is absurd. If a guy is looking at a porn movie and then seeing a "normal" woman come out of the shower, are you trying to say he sees no difference? That's nonsense.

 

He might see a difference, but it might MAKE no difference to him that he sees it.

 

I've watched porn with my SO a few times, and I don't look anything like those women, but I've never, ever felt he was comparing bodies or that he wasn't turned on by mine or me. Quite the opposite!

 

I honestly don't know if he spends any, a little, or a lot of time with porn, but I do know he is totally turned on by me and our sex life is fantastic. So whatever he's doing, it doesn't change his view of me and us and seeing other women doesn't make him want my not-so-perfect body any less.

 

I also know what he gets from our sex life is a zillion times more intimate, loving, passionate and real than what he might get from wanking to a video. Nor do I have any issues with him masturbating and fantasizing about anybody else, and actively contribute to his wank fantasies through making our own personal porn. I don't worry that he looks at our stuff and compares my body to anyone else's.

[littlepiggy1]

Your post was reasonable and interesting until this. I never said, implied, or made any allusion at all to the idea that a man who looked at porn hated women, and it is simply ridiculous to imply that I did. There are tons of men on this site who talk about how hopeless women are, they can't be trusted, they lie about everything, and then they say that women should just accept that men need the visual stimulation of porn because it's just something men do.

 

I guess I read into your comment differently than was intended. I apologize for that.

 

And I agree, that men that generalize about women and make those kinds of comments probably do have problems with women. But to be fair, there are women that make similar comments and generalizations about men.

 

I will concede that some women have a problem with porn because they are insecure. But to say that a being who is singularly visually stimulated does not compare two similar visual stimuli is absurd. If a guy is looking at a porn movie and then seeing a "normal" woman come out of the shower, are you trying to say he sees no difference? That's nonsense.

 

Well, it's not true that men are only stimulated visually. I think it's a case of men tend to be more visually stimulated than women at least when it comes to sex.

 

However, this still doesn't mean a man finds his SO unattractive or is comparing other people to her. If he is, then he has issues (probably to do with his own self-esteem) and he needs to work on them.

 

Believe it or not, it is possible to find more than one person attractive and on different levels.

 

Like I said, the bottom line is communication. She was shocked and initially hurt by his porn use. She should tell him how she feels.

 

Well, the fact that she is shocked means she doesn't know this is pretty normal and common behavior for most men. She needs to at least understand that to help bridge this gap between them.

[littlepiggy1]

But you need to understand that men, summarily, do not look at women the same way women look at themselves, or at each other.

 

Quoted for truth. My ex used to do this. She'd complain that if I looked at her too much, I'd start finding all these "flaws" in her. Or I'd take pictures of her that I thought were really cute and she thought looked ugly. I always told her that I wished she could just see herself the way I saw her. I don't think she ever did.

[stoopid_guy]

But to say that a being who is singularly visually stimulated does not compare two similar visual stimuli is absurd.

 

Men are visually stimulated, but that not the only way we're stimulated. Yes, I like to look, but prefer touching any day of the week. Put it another way; Give your SO a choice between just watching you, or making love to you in pitch dark or with a blindfold on and I'll bet most will choose making love.

[Woggle]

Women who get all up in arms about porn are insecure. Just because I am married does not mean that I can't appreicate that other women look good. The more a woman nags about it the more she will lose her man to it.

[fishtaco]

Quoted for truth. My ex used to do this. She'd complain that if I looked at her too much, I'd start finding all these "flaws" in her. Or I'd take pictures of her that I thought were really cute and she thought looked ugly. I always told her that I wished she could just see herself the way I saw her. I don't think she ever did.

 

Double quoted for truth.

 

One of my ex's, who happened to be one that owned more porn than I do. Is a bit over weight, has stretch marks all over, boobs are a bit saggy, and that "pouch" thing on her stomach, all from having given birth several years back before I started dating her.

 

How does she compared to porn women (expecially the fancy porn)? Not even close. But guess what? What I love about her is the little dimples she gets on her cheeks when she smiles, and the way she shurgs her shoulders up when she claps her hand when something cool happens, and much, much more. I've been broken up with her since 2003, we've both moved on, but NO ONE will ever replace her, no porn women, no movie stars, not even my future girlfriends. She is who she is, and will deserve a special spot in my heart till the day I die.

 

Now tell me how will some fake-boobed porn chick in a DVD that I will never meet compete against that?

 

So while your SO is deeply in love with you, and adore the little funny things you do that are not even close to being sexy or attractive, you are ripping into him for some stupid porn.

 

Anyway, I doubt a few internet posts will change anyone's mind. People tend to decide issues based on emotions and then retrofit reasoning to it (both men and women do this). The only thing I have to say is to understand yourself, if you're not okay with porn, find a guy that also isn't okay with porn. Compatibility is very important, and it starts with an understanding of yourself.

[rainfall]

I have a hard time with my boyfriend looking at porn because I am always comparing myself to the women in the porn. I know he is probably not doing this (most of the time). However my problem is the women he looks at usually look totally different from me and I know guys look at porn of women they find attractive. It just makes me feel insecure because all the chicks he looks at in porn are tall, red heads with big boobs. I am however am very short, small chested chick with brown hair.

[megnog]

Ok,

after a page and a half i gave up reading because i don't want to spend my whole night on this computer! however,

in my opinion -

guys, you need to stop fighting it and ****ing understand how MOST women feel. if they feel insecure, tend to their needs and maybe don't look at porn 24/7.

gals, your man is going to do it no matter what. or at least most guys will. even when they say they wont .. they will. if they reduce the amount of times they look at porn.. be happy.

 

personally, it is a huge problem because guys tend to have these "not so sexy" bodies so they don't understand how women feel. i saw guys gone wild and i was in no way turned on! however, when guys watch girls gone wild , i'm sure they get big ass boners. the womans body is sexier and more pleasing to the eye than the guys body. because of this, i feel like a lot of guys don't realize how it feels for women. its the repetitive questions going on in the womans head "how come he needs porn to get off?", "aren't i physically stimulating to him?"

i mean.. for gods sake if a guy is with a woman, maybe even loves her, she should be the sexiest woman just because he knows and loves her.. so why does he need porn? eh.

i don't know

but ****.. boys will be boys. all i can do is hate the species but want to make babies..