why do taken men look at porn??

[Josue]

Men look at porn because we like the feeling of it, we just get a craving for it sometimes and love having an orgasm, for some men is our way of holding ourselves back from doing something stupid and regretfull like cheating.....now tell me ladies would you rather have your man jackoff infront of a Television screen when your not around or would you rather have someone else do for him???? lololol

[Krytellan]

Oh yes, NOW I remember why I havent read this topic in a week...

[Carbine]

No more than any sort of experimentation in the bedroom (or on the table or couch or whatever) is going to be. There's a whole lot of "put your leg there... no there... wait, it slipped out... hey that's the wrong hole" involved. One thing I was able to take away from porn is "hey, it is possible to make it work like that!" and try it again. Just because you didn't see it in a video doesn't mean it isn't going to be "impersonal, contrived, and enormously theatrical" or "laughable" until you both figure out how to do it right.

 

But you have to go through the experimentation sometimes, or you'll spend your whole life doing it the exact same way every time. And who wants that?

 

I never said you shouldn't experiment. I've often been the initiator of experimentation. It's just that I've always used my own imagination rather than just trying to imitate some porn flick. The sex I referred to as 'laughable' because he put too much emphasis on acting and seemed to forget about the sexual gratification bit! It was pointless and silly, from my POV anyway.

 

Well, not everything he does is about you. A guy can find several women physically attractive at once. He can find several completely different body types attractive at once. And he may enjoy the chance to see those body types in the throes of passion without actually cheating on you, and without finding you the least bit unattractive.

 

No, I don't think everything is about me. To me, sexual pleasure should be a mutual thing, but if his enjoyment is hindering my pleasure and enjoyment to the point where it's damaging, then he should think twice about what he's doing. I've wanted to do things that i'd find satisfying in a sexual sense, but he wasn't comfortable with these. I was only to happy to respect his wishes and try something else instead.

 

As for the body type thing, well it may apply for other men, but not for my ex personally. He admitted that the body types of the women he looks at in porn are his 'ideal' female. I'm just a poor second.

 

Why the hell can't you be enthusiastic and hell-bent on dirty fun just because you don't look like a porn star? Isn't the fact that you find him attractive enough to get your motor running? Why ruin it for him because you don't approve of the body he wants to ravage? Why worry about all the other different body types that he might like, when it's physically impossible for any woman to be all of them at once and he presumably knows and accepts that?

 

Because I know deep down that I'd have better sex, and that he'd have better sex with me if I had a better body. I feel that, because he's so intent on his porn, that's how he expects the whole experience of sex to be. No matter what I do, I can't live up to that.

 

Who says you have to be devoid of feelings, choices, and rights to get down and dirty in the bedroom?

 

I was responding to the wording of your post. Go back and read it objectively, you'll see what I mean.

 

And you wonder why the poor boy watches porn? You think maybe he gets turned on by seeing women who really, really want to **** and aren't too busy making sure he's been a good boy with all the proper thoughts before she lets loose and rips his clothes off?

 

Once again, I'm probably the least-proper person you'll never meet. In the past I was very very eager to rip off his clothes and ****, but he usually treated me like I was some annoying cow. I can't help but think that he would have been much more willing to have sex if I was better looking. He watches porn because he gets turned on by the actresses. Period. NOT because they act hot and horny.

[Jersey Shortie]

What I take issue with are the people that are like, "I'm insecure, so what!" Some people don't seem to want to take responsibility for that. I'm not saying that some onus does not fall on their SO's to be supportive and what-not. But it can't all be about the SO's behavior.

 

That was my point.

 

I believe you are relating to my post and you are twisting the words around. I didn't say "I'm insecure, so what"...I said.."so what, yeah sometimes it's about insecurity." Two different hings because yes one, negates responsiblity for the insecurity and the other doesn't. What I don't understand is how men DON'T expect women to feel insecure and lacking when they are always happy to remind us of how many different women they want to replace us with, and sometimes women with breast implants and other things that apparently men value.

 

 

 

Well, not everything he does is about you. A guy can find several women physically attractive at once. He can find several completely different body types attractive at once. And he may enjoy the chance to see those body types in the throes of passion without actually cheating on you, and without finding you the least bit unattractive.

 

Seriously, don't do us any favors. If you are more concerned with the women and the other different body types, don't commit to one woman. It's obvious where your main concern is.

 

 

Why the hell can't you be enthusiastic and hell-bent on dirty fun just because you don't look like a porn star?

 

Because you said it right there. Men think the porn stars are better looking. Why should I be enthusiastic about it if I am just going to be second best no matter what because his ideal of women is fake tits and good lighting that isn't real for any woman.

 

 

 

Isn't the fact that you find him attractive enough to get your motor running? Why ruin it for him because you don't approve of the body he wants to ravage?

 

Isn't she enought to get your motor running? Why ruin it for her by bring other women into the equation when you damn well know you wouldn't be happy with other men being brought into the equation.

 

 

 

Why worry about all the other different body types that he might like, when it's physically impossible for any woman to be all of them at once and he presumably knows and accepts that?

 

How wonderful..he "accepts" this. Well poor men that they have to settle for less and accept the fact that woman can't be what he wishes them to be in a porno. And you wonder why women are insecure? Hello.

 

 

 

And you wonder why the poor boy watches porn?

 

Poor boy???????? Lets see. Guys get one girl to come home to at night and they get x amount of sluts that they wish they could bang. Yeah poor boy. More like Poor girl because she has to settle for a man that is only thinking about all the women he can't have instead of thinking about the one he does have.

 

 

Men look at porn because we like the feeling of it, we just get a craving for it sometimes and love having an orgasm,

 

And some women don't like porn because they don't like the feeling that it gives them. You said it yourself, you use it as a temporary replacement for your girlfriend/wife. Do you really not wonder how that can make your woman feel? Are men this dense?

 

 

...now tell me ladies would you rather have your man jackoff infront of a Television screen when your not around or would you rather have someone else do for him???? lololol

 

If those are women's only options then that doesn't really speak to highly of men I am sorry to say. That is one of the saddest and pathetic statements I hear. It's either have your man really cheat, or he jerks off thinking about and wanting to cheat. Wow, women really get the raw end of the stick don't they.

[zeldazelda]

Porn is not "other people". Please understand this. Take a poll. Can we get some guys' opinions? I know I'm not alone in calling bull**** on this. It's a picture.

 

 

i mean actively focusing his attention, especially sexual attention, on something that is not his SO. if it isn't you, it is someone else, which is in essence other people.

 

the person exists whether in a reachable area or not; fantasizing about a porn girl or your boss is the same exact thing so long as you're really not going to do anything about it. which is or is not acceptable to some people.

[her_purple_pixieness]

The simple reason men look at porn is because they're an awful lot sadder than us :-) Besides, what I always have to remind myself is that were the guy looking at porn to meet one of the porn stars and try to chat them up, they'd laugh at his face. If the girl in the relationship was to meet a sexy male film star (or some such) you'd probably stand a chance! :-) That's how I temper it... I just remind myself that I'm a foxy babe. And I'm not riddled with STDs. :-)

[rainfall]

The simple reason men look at porn is because they're an awful lot sadder than us :-) Besides, what I always have to remind myself is that were the guy looking at porn to meet one of the porn stars and try to chat them up, they'd laugh at his face. If the girl in the relationship was to meet a sexy male film star (or some such) you'd probably stand a chance! :-) That's how I temper it... I just remind myself that I'm a foxy babe. And I'm not riddled with STDs. :-)

 

See why should he even want to stand a chance with someone esle. That is what I really don't understand.

[Trialbyfire]

I think there are two types of men who enjoy porn:

 

1) The relatively normal and healthy male who enjoys the stimulous without the interaction or demands of having to please someone else;

 

2) The dysfunctional male who has an addictive personality.

 

Type 2 will probably be an addict to other things, if not for or including porn.

[Toni_no12002]

would men actually want to go out with a porn star anyway?

 

There is more to life than sex and any mature man or woman will realise this.If a man wants to spend his life wishing he was with a porn star then let him he will be deeply dissapointed lol

[alextop30]

Women probably feel a little discusted or mad at us men for looking at porn because we may be cutting off of the pleasure time with them or because they might be viewing the porn stars as competition but I belive that there is a reasonable defence for guys, by the way it is not because I am a guy it is because maybe women dont understand that guys are animals that are irrational sometimes. Ok this is basically how it goes for personal experiance - if I am in a relationship I will not look at porn as often because I will be thinking about my girl friend and basically working up some mad day dreams but, sometime when I am looking for that satisfying rush I will look at porn- Some of you ask Why not fantacise about gf? well I actually do but still the fantacy is literally not enough for me to masturbate - if she was infront of me naked I will do it in less than 5 minutes LOL but the immage of her naked or fantacy really fades in my mind so that is why I resort to porn. I dont believe that visual excuse works coz it is kind of "Why dont you have your homework .... aswer - My cat ate it" so Guys do fantacise about their girls but sometimes it is not enough.

 

 

Here comes an offencive question "Why do you girls that like to masturbate use the shower head in the shower" it is the same way as guys porn. It is a help to get an orgasm and to masturbate so I believe both sexes have their own things.

 

Also when guys are watching porn I believe that there is absolutely no feeling - it is just a helping tool to masturbate instead when a guy is having sex with girlfriend it is way emotional and that is how it rises to a new level than just masturbate.

 

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Don't be mad at us we are just trying to sattisfy the biest :lmao::lmao:

[Carbine]

Poor boy???????? Lets see. Guys get one girl to come home to at night and they get x amount of sluts that they wish they could bang. Yeah poor boy. More like Poor girl because she has to settle for a man that is only thinking about all the women he can't have instead of thinking about the one he does have.

Thankyou Jersey, I couldn't have said it better myself. Poor boy my a**! Its bad enough for all the girls out there who worry about what their men are thinking, but I was TOLD to my FACE "I wouldn't feel comfortable coming home to someone like that [porn star attractiveness] because I wouldn't feel good looking enough to be with her".

 

So apparently he feels comfortable with me because I'm 3rd or 4th rate (or worse) compared to a porn actress, and 3rd or 4th rate is more his level. Jeeeez, that just sends my self-esteem rocketing through the roof, doesn't it??

 

would men actually want to go out with a porn star anyway?

 

There is more to life than sex and any mature man or woman will realise this.If a man wants to spend his life wishing he was with a porn star then let him he will be deeply dissapointed lol

It's a funny one, that question. It depends how you actually word it. Pretty much every guy whom I've asked has given me exactly the same answer; "I may love watching the chicks in porn, but I'd never want to go out with one of them!" Hmmm... sounds a bit suss to me. I think a lot of guys avoid the question by answering the question 'would you actually want to go out with a porn star?' as opposed to 'would you actually want to go out with someone who looks like a porn star?'. The first is easy enough to answer. I asked it of my ex and he said that he wouldn't want to date a porn star because he'd be worried about her lack of morals and lack of innocence and such.

 

But just because someone looks like a porn star doesn't mean they behave like one! In my experience, guys pretend to assume otherwise and/or use as an excuse to get out of answering the question!

 

To me it just does not ring true. If you find something visually appealing then isn't it just common sense that you'd want to surround yourself and decorate your life with that thing or similar things?

 

Women probably feel a little discusted or mad at us men for looking at porn because we may be cutting off of the pleasure time with them or because they might be viewing the porn stars as competition

Competition, yes! Decreased pleasure time, no, not for me anyway.

 

Here comes an offencive question "Why do you girls that like to masturbate use the shower head in the shower" it is the same way as guys porn. It is a help to get an orgasm and to masturbate so I believe both sexes have their own things.

How the hell are they the same thing?? They're TOTALLY different! A girl using a shower head is not that much different to a guy using his hand. But there's worlds of difference between a shower head and a porn actress! I get jealous and upset because by watching porn, he's bringing a real person into the equation - a person who can be compared to me - and that's where the problem lies. But you can hardly imagine a guy getting jealous of a shower head.

 

Anyway, I've never used a shower head, doesn't appeal to me and besides, my shower head is mounted on the wall, I'd have to be about 8-foot tall just to get the damn thing anywhere near my crotch!

[alextop30]

Ok there arent just porn star women with the big beasts and their looks --- there are also pornstar men the one that sleep with the porn stars- Ok here is your question "would you chicks/women/girls like to be going with them" It is you putting on our place. Personally If you want a f**k buddy you might be going for a porn star but otherwise you are never shure if they are not just sleeping with someone else. So as a guy If I was looking for the f**k buddy I would actually go for the porn star but if I was looking for a girl to have a real relationship porn star is out of the question PROBLEM WITH THE PORN STARS --- they dont get emotionally attached to the guy that they are sleeping with because probably it is someone different every time so I would like to have a girl friend that really loves me and cares about me than just the porn star that might not give a crap about you - so why do guys watch porn - because they think naked chicks are hot.

 

Another question to you girls " would you mind if your boyfriend taped a time that you have had some hot sex" and when ever he wanted to masturbate replayed it on the computer. IS THAT ANY DIFFERENT THAN PORN.

 

Just wondering what this big deal is "it is not a competition it has abosolutelly nothing to do with you, it is something that men use to masturbate just like the showerhead is for girls.

 

I dont believe that when gyus are watching porn they think of the women that they can have and are not turning any attention to the ones they have. This is a wrong thinking and you should stop it - I dont know how many guys tell you that they dont even think of the women that they see in the porn movies and they absolutelly adore their girl friends.

[Toni_no12002]

Its the whole idea of men getting off on another lass that bothers them i think.Men think a certain way yes but some women think that if a man gets off to another women it means somethings wrong with them.Even though this probably isnt true i can see how they come to that conclusion.

 

Its a shame though that people forget that looks arent everything.In this day and age though if you arent attractive people dont think your worth it.Its such a shame.

 

 

Another question to you girls " would you mind if your boyfriend taped a time that you have had some hot sex" and when ever he wanted to masturbate replayed it on the computer. IS THAT ANY DIFFERENT THAN PORN

 

That isnt another women there getting off to.So why would they mind?

[CATENZA]

My question is would men mind if their SO gets off on male porn??

[alextop30]

Ok first a responce to the previous answer - HOW MANY GUYS WOULD ASK THEY GFS TO TAPE TIME THAT THEY ARE HAVING SEX this way you say it would eliminate that scense of competition in the girl but what about the freaky look you would give the guy you might call him a perv or you might just kick him out because he is too wierd and you think that is so odd. Sorry but in today's world for guys to ask that question is quite wierd and it could be missinterpreted in so many ways.

 

And responce to the previous question by CATENZA --- Yes I am perfectly fine if my gf gets off on male porn - To guys porn is to stimulate the erection it is not like they will even be able to even remember what they watched 15 minutes after they watch it - I don't at least.

 

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I am gonna keep defending the guys

[CATENZA]

Hi Alex... Ok, lets really compare. Guys watch Porn to get off. What if your SO used a dildo as much as you watched porn. On her own, no u involved.

 

My SO watches porn and I don't really care but I am just curious to know!

[Carbine]

Ok here is your question "would you chicks/women/girls like to be going with them" It is you putting on our place.

 

*Shrug* depends. I don't find male porn stars all that attractive, they do nothing for me. If, however, I did see one that I thought was really hot, then sure, why wouldn't I want to 'go' with him? (providing he had the personality to accompany his looks) I don't see why it would be an issue. Hell, if he's hot as, then I'd love to have him on my arm! I'm not going to judge him solely upon his profession and make silly assumptions without getting to know him. The only thing that would bother me would be that he's used to interacting with above-average looking girls, which would make me feel that I was a dissapointment and thus, rather self-conscious.

 

Another question to you girls " would you mind if your boyfriend taped a time that you have had some hot sex" and when ever he wanted to masturbate replayed it on the computer. IS THAT ANY DIFFERENT THAN PORN.

 

Wouldn't bother me in the least. He'd be masturbating to ME, so it's not an issue.

 

I dont believe that when gyus are watching porn they think of the women that they can have and are not turning any attention to the ones they have. This is a wrong thinking and you should stop it - I dont know how many guys tell you that they dont even think of the women that they see in the porn movies and they absolutelly adore their girl friends.

 

Maybe they aren't thinking that specifically when they are getting off to porn, but I'm pretty sure that at some stage between thinking of buying a certain type of porn DVD, and putting the thing back on the shelf after a good wanking session, that it does cross their minds.

[alextop30]

Alright here is the final offencive to conclude this battle. Personal experiance, I would not even think of comparing my girlfriend with those fake plastic porn stars that are in the porn videos so she should have absolutelly no need to feel insecure about compeating with them because when you have feelings for someone it is not feel just like getting off. Second my ex girl friend was the definition of a sex friek and I would actually not even watch porn just because I was so tired from 3 sessions with her every day. I believe that guys do watch it as a tool only and they do not secretly dream about the porn stars because they know that they are fake first, they know they cannot be going out with one of they and most importantly they know that they love their girl friend and their girl friend loves them so there is absolutely no dreaming or secret desire of the fake pornstars. Again from personal experiance 30 min after I watch porn clip or something like that I cannot remember the pornstar's feartures not even recall her face features. This again proves my point that watching porn is absolutelly on the surface and that if a guy is going to dream they are going to dream about their fantacies which are way on the deep of their emotions which is their girlfriends.

 

And one more thing I believe if you are really that anoyed that your boy friends watch porn tell them because it is not really worth it to feel insecure that he might be dreaming of a different girl which you belive might be the porn star on the video that he watches.

 

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Guys are those irrational crasy creatures that you cannot live without!!!

[PracticalShade]

Men pretty much love sex. Don't let him looking at porn take the wind out of your sails. Besides, I know of a lot of guys that will see hot porn and if they're in a relationship they might think "I wonder what it would be like if my girlfriend and I tried it that way" and so on and so forth. I don't think he's looking for better eye candy or anything.

[BeachBlonde]

I really don't understand the big deal with men looking at porn?? It's just like getting mad at them for masterbating.

[kimberlyk]

I have a question...

what if you had told your SO on many occasions that every time they felt they wanted to 'get off', that you would be there to have sex or give them a BJ and they NEVER took you up on it? Does that mean the porn is an addiction?

 

Responses from men on this would be appreciated....

[Rhyla]

Ok first a responce to the previous answer - HOW MANY GUYS WOULD ASK THEY GFS TO TAPE TIME THAT THEY ARE HAVING SEX this way you say it would eliminate that scense of competition in the girl but what about the freaky look you would give the guy you might call him a perv or you might just kick him out because he is too wierd and you think that is so odd. Sorry but in today's world for guys to ask that question is quite wierd and it could be missinterpreted in so many ways.

 

My bf has asked. I never thought he was a perv. We've made plenty of pictures and videos. it's good fun, and plenty hot just making them nevermind watching them/.