The truth about one income households

[Outcast]

so I think if she was to stay home I would like to see a little more effort than just being with the kids and watching soaps all day.

 

Tudor, promise me that you'll arrange to stay home with the kids for at least one whole day while you send your wife to a spa. Preferably two days and send her for a weekend holiday with a gal pal. And then post how easy it was to do

[RecordProducer]

Did you not see this part... of my post

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

You're funny!

 

Just easy on the booze right before breastfeeding. My 2 cents.

[Guest]

I re-read your, "requirements" to post here.

 

I do believe that the man of the house should be the only one bringing home the paycheck. Especially if the couple plans to raise a family.

 

There are many reasons why.....some more obvious than others.

 

Why should the man be the only one bringing home the paycheck?

 

I like using my education and I have a successful career. I enjoy going to work every day. I work in healthcare and I'm very good at that. Yet you would propose I'm better off hanging around the house all day, cooking casseroles or something?

 

I HATE being home all day!

[Moose]

Why should the man be the only one bringing home the paycheck?

 

I like using my education and I have a successful career. I enjoy going to work every day. I work in healthcare and I'm very good at that. Yet you would propose I'm better off hanging around the house all day, cooking casseroles or something?

 

I HATE being home all day!

Are you married? Do you have children? My mom worked in healthcare most of her adult life. I never saw here as a child. She worked second shift, my dad worked first.

 

By the time we got home from school, dad would show up a few hours later already buzzed on beer.

 

I started smoking at 12 years old....hanging out with the wrong crowd, skipping school, tagging, beating up kids, just being a real destructive punk....

 

I'm not saying that I would've been 100% different if mom was around, but I guarentee, it would've only been a positive change had she been there.

[Roo]

You're funny!

 

Just easy on the booze right before breastfeeding. My 2 cents.

 

Seriously I think you are making too much of this, trust me its a single glass a couple nights a week if that (you know doesnt really do much for the old trying to loose weight after baby thing either) Let it go sweetie it's not an issue I assure you.

[a4a]

Tudor, promise me that you'll arrange to stay home with the kids for at least one whole day while you send your wife to a spa. Preferably two days and send her for a weekend holiday with a gal pal. And then post how easy it was to do

 

I don't think there is enough scotch in the world that could get him through that experience...... :lmao:

 

Go babysit (by yourself) 2 or 3 rug rats of friends..... get a taste of it now before you go forward with your plans.

 

oh and offer to do it when one of the kids is sick too.....

[Outcast]

Why should the man be the only one bringing home the paycheck?

 

I like using my education and I have a successful career. I enjoy going to work every day. I work in healthcare and I'm very good at that. Yet you would propose I'm better off hanging around the house all day, cooking casseroles or something?

 

I HATE being home all day!

 

I think that every man who says women 'should' do that should spend a few months at home all day every day with a couple young kids. I'm guessing you'd hear them all sing a very different song then. Well except the ones that don't believe women have brains and therefore don't need any sort of intellectual stimulation.

 

I started smoking at 12 years old....hanging out with the wrong crowd, skipping school, tagging, beating up kids, just being a real destructive punk..

 

And I had friends whose moms worked and they all turned out perfectly fine. It's bogus to blame others for one's own failings. And then to extrapolate that to blame an entire gender.

[Pink Amulet]

My mother is breadwinner- always has been... and quite frankly she completely kicked ass in the bread winning competition

[a4a]

My mother is breadwinner- always has been... and quite frankly she completely kicked ass in the bread winning competition

 

 

how shocking :eek:

 

:lmao:

 

she should be baking bread not earning it... how dare she. :lmao:

[Pink Amulet]

how shocking :eek:

 

:lmao:

 

she should be baking bread not earning it... how dare she. :lmao:

 

Hahaha

 

Yes, she certainly has sh*t all over the home maker role

 

My mother could probably buy a bread making factory at this stage

[a4a]

Hey this is OT but this suddenly just came to my mind..... you add it up. Do you see a pattern?

 

Tidy Bowl Man

The Brawny Guy

Mr. Clean

Scrubbing Bubbles male character

Pillsbury Dough Boy

 

 

phew!!! glad I got that out of my head and shared with all of you :lmao:

[RecordProducer]

Seriously I think you are making too much of this, trust me its a single glass a couple nights a week if that (you know doesnt really do much for the old trying to loose weight after baby thing either) Let it go sweetie it's not an issue I assure you.

OK, I am glad to hear that. You sound like a fantastic mommy and wife overall. I hope your husband appreciates that and I know your kids will love the sh*t out fo you some day.

[Roo]

OK, I am glad to hear that. You sound like a fantastic mommy and wife overall. I hope your husband appreciates that and I know your kids will love the sh*t out fo you some day.

 

Thanks, Hubby is wonderful and he does, and the kids seem to in the ways that they can at this young age.. K already says I LOVE you which just melts me!

[portableversion]

and my husband stays at home with our son. We are thinking about having another (I'm soon to be 31) and if we do, he'll stay at home with that one.

 

It's great. We are enlightened types, so we don't get down about the 'gender' issue. the only 'issue' we care about is E. and what is best for him.

 

Everything, and everyone else, can go ***KKKKK themselves.

[RecordProducer]

Are you married? Do you have children? My mom worked in healthcare most of her adult life. I never saw here as a child. She worked second shift, my dad worked first.

 

By the time we got home from school, dad would show up a few hours later already buzzed on beer.

 

I started smoking at 12 years old....hanging out with the wrong crowd, skipping school, tagging, beating up kids, just being a real destructive punk....

 

I'm not saying that I would've been 100% different if mom was around, but I guarentee, it would've only been a positive change had she been there.

I agree. As much as I favor all the things that are good for women and being financially independent is definitely a good thing for anyone, children benefit from SAH moms. Not their husbands (I don't think men nowadays care about a hot meal every day), not the women (being a housewife is emotionally very tough for many women), but the children.

 

When I was a teenager my mom quit her job due to health problems. At first I thought "Sh*t, now I won't be able to do all I want with her around!" but it turned to be the best thing for me. We not only had a lot of fun together, but I felt the warmth of having my mom and best friend with me every day. I didn't feel lonely anymore, although I didn't realize I was lonely before that. We became closer and I am sure I benefitted a lot from that.

 

When I told my kids that their cousin has more toys because his mommy also works and they have more money, I thought they would tell me to go get a job. But what they said was: "But it's good that you don't work, cuz you wouldn't be at home when we come back from school if you worked."

[RecordProducer]

and my husband stays at home with our son. We are thinking about having another (I'm soon to be 31) and if we do, he'll stay at home with that one.

 

It's great. We are enlightened types, so we don't get down about the 'gender' issue. the only 'issue' we care about is E. and what is best for him.

 

Everything, and everyone else, can go ***KKKKK themselves.

Whatever works for both of you is good. This is totally not about what your heinghbors think, but how both of you feel. And more than that, it's about what's the most practical and beneficial solution.

 

If you make enough for the 3 (some day 4) of you then you can afford to have a SAH dad as a husband. It's great that one of you is staying with the child at home.

 

May I ask what's your occupation? Does your husband want to work when the kids grow up a little?

[TUDOR]

I don't think there is enough scotch in the world that could get him through that experience...... :lmao:

 

Go babysit (by yourself) 2 or 3 rug rats of friends..... get a taste of it now before you go forward with your plans.

 

oh and offer to do it when one of the kids is sick too.....

 

For the record I was one of 5 kids growing up and I have 2 nieces and a newphew that I babysit for my sister all the time. Kids don't scare me and I have spent entire weekends with them by myself and didn't need to touch the scotch! ME thinks this staying home with the kids thing is no cake walk but certainly not the high wire act you ladies are making it out to be.

[a4a]

For the record I was one of 5 kids growing up and I have 2 nieces and a newphew that I babysit for my sister all the time. Kids don't scare me and I have spent entire weekends with them by myself and didn't need to touch the scotch! ME thinks this staying home with the kids thing is no cake walk but certainly not the high wire act you ladies are making it out to be.

 

read roo's roto virus thread........ :lmao:

 

but imagine all your buddies are going golfing and you cant because the kid is sick and you can't go.

 

And Tudor I was pullin' your leg.

 

I don't have kids so I am not acting.... I just observe the others and know I would not want to be in their shoes for nothin'.

 

I see them at the grocery store......three wee ones...one screaming....one running off.. and then watch them load up the kids and the gorceries. I cannot imagine 24/7 of that.

[superconductor]

Everything' date=' and everyone else, can go ***KKKKK themselves.[/quote']

Yep, telling the rest of the world to fark off is pretty enlightened. </sarcasm>

[blind_otter]

For the record I was one of 5 kids growing up and I have 2 nieces and a newphew that I babysit for my sister all the time. Kids don't scare me and I have spent entire weekends with them by myself and didn't need to touch the scotch! ME thinks this staying home with the kids thing is no cake walk but certainly not the high wire act you ladies are making it out to be.

 

babysitting ain't the same thing. I don't have any kids myself but I babysit a lot and it's a farking cake walk compared to 24/7 parenting. Fluids, screaming, and all that. Weekend, schmeekend. It's a finite period of time. And you get regular contact with adults. Not the nonstop baby talk deciphering for years.

 

Plus we all know that as kids we behaved better for strangers than we did for our own parents. Because we knew we could push them.

[Roo]

hey tudor.... really.. wanna dealwith my day today for me then....

 

k woke up at 5 am shii**ing her brains out... (gross)nasty nasty awful smell like something died inside her...

 

cleaned her up put her down

5 min later another gross nasty watery chuny nasty smelling poo...

 

REpeat till I've been thru 10-12 diapers...

 

I give her a hot bath after calling the pedi

(While I called the pedi daddy held her while she SCREAMED like someone was trying to kill her in pain and yelled for me so sad I nearly started crying for her)

who basically just said watch for fever and give her pedialyte. (while joey goes to store for the pedialyte)

she poops again in the tub, I get her cleaned up, run another bath she seems to feel a little better after that lies on me on the couch lets me lotion her and dress her and nearly falls asleep on me (I have her some water with a lil juice in it to sip)

 

she's ok now for an hour or so, when joey returns with the pedialyte etc.. she promptly gets up kneels over and pukes on the ottoman (thankfully her towel was still on it)

 

Since then she's taken down pedialyte and poo'ed twice more, she cries and screams while she poos and until Iclean of fher tush don't blame her it smells like it burns...

 

And to top it all off... I'm getting it.. (ooh and try to remember I have a 4 mo old to care for here too...and I Nurse her... how much fun will that be when I'm trying not to puke or ahemm....

 

Not that I don't think you are capable... I'm just saying;)

somedays its more than a highwire act, I don't get to taek a break when I'm tired or sick... I gotta trudge on thru...

[Roo]

read roo's roto virus thread........ :lmao:

 

 

AMEN... lol you posted this while I was cuttin and pastin..

 

dont mind me if I dissapear a while or am sporadic today I'm readin.. but I need to get me some rest too these poor kids .... Mama's tired and we're all sick.. I just hope the lil one doesn't come down with it..

[TUDOR]

I am not taking away from how hard being a staying at home parent is...I fully agree it is tough as any other job. My only argument is that if a parent that chooses to stay home with the kid(s) thinks all they have to do is take care of the kids and not contribute to house duties or other helpful things around the house then I don't think that is exactly fair.

 

I wouldn't mind supporting her and paying for what ever she needed or wanted but in return I don't think its too much to ask that I not also have to do all the laundry, clean the house, cook and all the yard work. It is still give and take and being a stay at home parent does not automatically releave you of your share of chores or responsibilities. I think most stay at home parents do pull their own weight and don't just sit around and watch TV. But I think before the decision to allow one person the opportunity to stay home that some expectations of what all would be done should be discussed.

[a4a]

AMEN... lol you posted this while I was cuttin and pastin..

 

dont mind me if I dissapear a while or am sporadic today I'm readin.. but I need to get me some rest too these poor kids .... Mama's tired and we're all sick.. I just hope the lil one doesn't come down with it..

 

see this is another reason why I avoid kids....

 

friggin invite me to a kids b-day party.. ... yeah goodie my big chance to catch something like this. :lmao:

[Moose]

I see them at the grocery store......three wee ones...one screaming....one running off.. and then watch them load up the kids and the gorceries. I cannot imagine 24/7 of that.

Who's fault is it that the kids are acting this way? Certainly, not the kids! I think with good parenting and discipline, 3 lil' wee ones can go to the grocery store and behave properly....it's not that hard.....