I "WANT" to get married, but I am nervous

[Nobel]

I have been engaged for 6 months and I have been seeing a therapist to overcome my anxiety.

Now I have one real fear about getting married, will my anxiety come back and ruin my relationship.

I mean, there are times when I am with my fiance and I am on the top of the world, I mean so good that I want to get married "NOW".

But the next morning the anxiety I am trying to overcome, which wasn't there last night is back, and it is very demoralizing.

Most (almost all) of my fears are irrational and I know it, but it is hard to stop them from comoing up and ruining everything.

I love my fiance to no end, and I just feel that we are going to get married, but I don't want to live like this.

Everyday that I feel great, the next day is the exact opposite, and it hurts becasue I can't figure out why it is happening.

[superconductor]

You are suffering from the oft-described (and very common) situation known clinically as the "marriage heebie-jeebies."

 

It's manifested by mood swings, self-doubt, focusing on all those around you whose marriages either failed or are torturous and the occasional bout of good old fashioned depression.

 

This is one of those good news/bad news things.

 

The bad news is that there is no treatment.

 

The good news is that it will end by itself as soon as you finally tie the knot.

[james007]

If you are nervous then the solution is simple. Call off the wedding. If you are having any doubts about this person you are about to marry then don't do it. It's not too late for you to back down. Back out while there is still time.

[ShoeGirl]

What is your fear? Does your finacee know what you are afraid of, does he/she support you? It may help you to talk to your fiancee and see if he/she has similar fears... even if they are not the same fears knowing their fears will make it seem more normal for you to have fears.