Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Ok, here is the deal: My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 2 years. We got engaged very quickly (after 4 months) and ended up calling the wedding and engagement off before it ever happened. Now, I'm ready. I am SO ready. He knows I am, but won't do anything about it. He just says he is waiting until he knows it is right, but this is the thing....I have severe endometriosis. My doc says I have to have children within 5 years or I probably wont be able to have them at all. I want to be a mother so bad....not right away. I want to at least wait a year or more after I get married before I start having children. I know he loves me, but he doesn't understand where I am coming from. He thinks I am just rushing. Any tips....help to get me through this? Link to post Share on other sites
flowergirl Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Hey,girl, what's up? Man, that really sucks about your illness, but there's always the option of adoption, or if you really feel that you want a biological child, getting a sperm donor if it doesn't impinge too much on your values and beliefs. It seems that this man isn't ready, and might not ever be, so you should check these out. Good luck and keep us updated. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 5 years is a long time, so don't stress out about it, and don't put pressure on your bf about it. He might start thinking you only want to marry him because of the baby thing. If you try to push a guy into making a decision about marriage, you're likely to push him away. Try stepping back from the whole marriage discussion altogether for a while (like, at least 6 months without a word about it), focus on enjoying the relationship that you and your bf have, and maybe without the pressure and with the relaxed enjoyment, he'll get much closer to feeling things are right. It's hard for a guy to feel things are right when his lady is unhappy and anxious with him all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I haven't like begged him or anything about this. We talk about it casually and he has been there with me through my surgeries and everything. He says it will all work out and assured me that baby or not....he loves me. It just bothers me that I dont wear the ring anymore. That may be silly, but I feel like if we were engaged at one point....why not now? What has changed between now and 2 years ago? THanks for all the comments!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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