heyduh Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I posted a small number of messages here over the past 6-7 months. One thing I realized - nothing teaches you more about yourself than the end of a relationship. I read a lot of "relationship" material over the past few months. A couple of e-books by Carlos Xuma (The Dating Black Book, and Secrets of the Alpha Man) are the highlights. Some people say that Carlos has copied material from other "gurus" - whatever, I don't care - he has done an excellent job of condensing and organizing the main points of man-women dynamics. As I was reading his e-books, I realized that I made every mistake possible in keeping her attracted towards me. It was as if these e-books were a case study on MY very own relationship. So uncanny. When we first started dating, I was in a healthy, normal self-confident mental state and easily attracted this woman (who is MUCH better looking than I am) ... she proclaimed her love before I was even thinking about it, we spent every moment (non working) together. And then **** started to happen. Many of the things written by Carlos may be found digging through the archives here ... many things may be found in other relationship books, and e-books, but like I said, he has done a good job of putting it all together. The reason I stopped reading through these archives was the general negativity. Great advice, just not a very healthy environment IMHO. Another good book (on Amazon) is The Way of the Superior Man .. although this is more spiritual so if you're not into that it may be a drag At first I felt a lot of resentment and bitterness towards her, the way she left me, and then kept it lingering on for a while ... I would argue that she was stringing me along, giving me false hope ... But after reading all of these materials I realized that I was the REASON she behaved the way she did. I simply made every mistake that there is to be made in a romantic long-term relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I'm going to hunt this book down, but in the mean time would you care to elaborate on some of the highlights that may cause the situation? My guess is the person that get's dumped starts acting like a whining, boneless, indignified fool to try to plead the S/O into staying. (how unattractive) That was my experience anyway. Regards, Link to post Share on other sites
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