Guest Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 We are both late 20s/early30s ... after a 1.5 year + 6 months on/off relationship (which included talk of marriage and meet the parents at approx 1 year mark) she broke up with me. We got back together late last year for another two months and then on and off until July including the last time we spent a weekend together making love 4/5 times as good as it was ever ... RIGHT after which as I am getting ready to goto work, I look at her with the "look" on my face (the look that I want to talk about getting back together) and her reaction was "you know where I stand" .. so I say a casual non emotional good bye .. and that's it. LC since then. Two weeks later I saw a bunch of missed calls on my cell and home phone, so a couple of days later I called her back and we chatted for an hour. general non-relation stuff ... I emailed her a week later to share some info I found at a conference which was related to some work she does .. she never replied to that email .. its been several weeks now. I found out she started seeing someone right afterwards (almost 2 months now) ... can't tell, but seems like a sexual relationship. Knowing her history, I know she will resume contact at some point ... I feel she has cut contact now because of her new fling ... probably wants to spare me the pain, even though I'm not the overly jealous kind of guy. I have to admit, I am still hoping she will come back ... and I'd like to be prepared. Sometimes I wonder that the 6 mos of on-off further ruined my chances as my confidence was completely blown and I turned into a supplicating wimpy clingy sort of guy ... so ... if there is one more time/one more chance then under what conditions do I even discuss the issue? Should we address her fling at all? How can I maneuver our relationship so that it does not go back into the on-off mode that it was the past many months? All advice is APPRECIATED Link to post Share on other sites
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