Sounds dumb.. huh?

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Yeah, so figured i might try this... see if i get any good opinions

 

I met my daughter's father almost 2 years ago, we dated and a few months later found out i was pregnant. About the same time I found out I was pregnant, our relationship had ended. Not by my choice though.

 

I decided to keep the child, as keeping her or giving her up for adoption were the only two choices for either of us. After a few months he started warming up to the idea even though he wasnt that thrilled. He was not supportive at all of any of my doctor's appointments, never went to even one. I spent time with him quite often, but mainly for familys sake, not so much that he wanted to be around me. Twoards the very end of the pregnancy he was spending a lot of time with me, and i thought things were going great! Until after she was 2 months old. I had to move unexpectedly, he just told me its not his problem, didnt help, nothing. I moved and he visited occasionally. He then had a career change and left for 9 months. Hes on the otherside of the country now. He didnt want contact from anybody.. but low and behold 2 months into it.. i get a letter.. and then a phone call.. " oh, i miss both of you, id give anything to be with you 2 right now.." "ive been thinking a lot about us" so on and so on. We talked about marriage, everything in between...

 

Now days.. its been about 2 months since then and all we ever do is nit pick at each other. I try to talk to him and tell him in a nice and civil way hes pissing me off, or making me upset, and he purposely says and does things to anger me. He compares me to other women, hangs over my head that im lucky to be with him and that if I dont watch it, he'll move on. He hasnt claimed our daughter.. Yeah, close family and friends know, but he trys to keep her a secret to most people. He went from calling every day, to calling more or less once a week.. used to be excited when his daughter did something new, and now only criticizes me for her weight.. shes almost a year old and 20 pounds.. shes healthy. Do i let go, like i think i need to ? or do i chalk it up to the distance and the fact that his job isnt going as well as he thought it was going to and since im the only one he keeps in touch with hes taking it out on me? Im confused.. it seems so clear, yet so cloudy at the same time. i do know he does care for both of us, and when i get pissed im not the nicest person, any normal guy who wasnt interested in a girl wouldnt stick around me just for the hell of it. and lastly, i know im attached to him because of our daughter for the rest of my life?

 

Any opinions??