Bs And Ow's

[Sami_D]

I am just trying to make you see that you are falling into the same situation again.

 

Enough said. I will be there for you when you need to pick up the pieces. I hope that won't happen, but I will be there for you.

 

I understand your fears for me.

 

But.. you are operating from assumption.

 

What do you know of my conversations with MM?

[Walking away]

I stand corrected then. I DO advocate tough love. It is the basis of respect. Sorry I must've gotten you confused with someone else.

[Sami_D]

I will leave you alone.

 

I hope it all works out for you. I really do.

 

WA

 

Well that is your choice.

 

This is a forum for discussing affairs.

 

I am absolutely sure I don't know everything. In fact, I know nothing. I am as willing as the next person to lay things on the line (within reason.. and I would prefer to discuss them at LH).

 

So... you don't want to discuss.. that is up to you. I am. MORE than willing. But as you know, I would rather discuss them in another place.

[Walking away]

We are just two people who disagree about the whole "going back into the affair" debate.

 

I agree that we disagree.

 

Nuff said.

 

All my best.

 

WA

[Sami_D]

I don't have the energy.

 

Sorry.

 

So, you tell me I'm being inconsistent with things I said before, but can't quote me on that. Well... I don't think I am being terribly inconsistent. I remember in my first thread, almost a year ago, I was very much on his side about leaving the children.

 

So... I'm tempted to believe that, 'don't have the energy' means something more like... you are wrong. Sorry... but if you don't have the energy to back up a serious criticism of someone, then you are really making a point out of ignorance or assumption.

 

Why would you remember, more than I do, what I wrote and believed a year ago?

[Walking away]

I give up...

 

You are hopeless.

[Sami_D]

I stand corrected then. I DO advocate tough love. It is the basis of respect. Sorry I must've gotten you confused with someone else.

 

ouch.

 

And yes, perhaps you have. And perhaps I have made a change. I have no way of knowing... because people like you have suddenly become rather snotty and decided that I smell of poo and wee.

 

Whatever happened to rational debate..? lol

 

TALK to me.

[Sami_D]

We are just two people who disagree about the whole "going back into the affair" debate.

 

I agree that we disagree.

 

Nuff said.

 

All my best.

 

WA

 

I'm sorry, WA, but I'd like to know how in Hell you disagree with me?

 

I am absolutely SURE that the discussions I've had with MM since Friday have been overheard by NO ONE.

 

So how could you know what we're discussing?

[Walking away]

Sami

 

All along I have been compassionate in telling you how concerned i am about you and you are fighting me and insulting me. I won't have it.

 

I respect your decision but disagree completely. I would not be a friend if I just enabled you in your decision.

[Sami_D]

I give up...

 

You are hopeless.

 

Since you've not responded specifically to anything I've written, and know nothing of my current situation... how can you even say this..?

[Sami_D]

Sami

 

All along I have been compassionate in telling you how concerned i am about you and you are fighting me and insulting me. I won't have it.

 

I respect your decision but disagree completely. I would not be a friend if I just enabled you in your decision.

 

How have I insulted you?

 

I cannot help 'disagreeing' with you, when you keep stating things as fact when you know nothing!

 

We are not even discussing anything of any factual basis! All you know is the bare outlines! I am sticking with this because I'm sure you have a good heart... but... really... what do you know? How can you comment..? Can we not talk on the other side because there I am more prepared to talk about details! and in pm too.

 

WA...

[Walking away]

Are you or are you not meeting him tomorrow and ecstatically happy about it?

 

Is that not the truth?

[Sami_D]

And I am NOT going to talk about anything private on this forum. Its just not the place.

 

And YES, of course I am willing to debate any thing and every thing... I want the best for ME... why are people assuming that that is not on my mind..??

[Sami_D]

WA ... have you membership of LH?

 

Come and talk there. I don't share personal information on this forum.

[Walking away]

Perhaps you shouldn't have attacked me here, then?

[Sami_D]

Perhaps you shouldn't have attacked me here, then?

 

How did I attack you? Did I..? I'm truly sorry if I have.

[Walking away]

All is forgiven, but, yes, Sami, you have attacked me.

 

Read back on your posts.

[Sami_D]

All is forgiven, but, yes, Sami, you have attacked me.

 

Read back on your posts.

 

No, I've asked you to quote me, which you haven't. I am willing to apologise IF you can quote me as attacking you. I haven't seen one example of that.

 

And as you've dragged something I said on another forum back into this one, I think you're the one at fault.

[Walking away]

Calling me snotty is NOT a compliment.

 

Maybe where you are from, it is, but where I am from, it is an insult against my character.

 

I'm done Sami.

 

Carry on.

[RealityCheck]

No, I've asked you to quote me, which you haven't. I am willing to apologise IF you can quote me as attacking you. I haven't seen one example of that.

 

And as you've dragged something I said on another forum back into this one, I think you're the one at fault.

 

SAMI!!

 

I have been reading and reading and reading your posts today and I can honestly say that you have totally insulted and attacked a good friend in WA.

 

I believe how you have spoken to her is disgusting and I can say that you SHOULD be in a position to appologize for the sake of a friendship.

 

I give much credit to WA with her patience and mature attitude!

 

That says alot to the character in WA which is not what I have seen in you!

 

You have spoke in circles and nothing you have brought here has had much to do with the Thread as much is it is to your current state of mind.

 

You should re-evalute you situation with your MM, because he seems to be doing more damage to your well being then you can cleary see for yourself.

 

When you can jeopordize a good friendship for an AFFAIR there is something wrong with this picture!

[Walking away]

Sami,

 

For what I have done to harm you, I apologize. Information from another forum should not be shared here. I am in the wrong.

 

Forgive me.

 

WA

[BenThereDunThat]

SAMI!!

 

I have been reading and reading and reading your posts today and I can honestly say that you have totally insulted and attacked a good friend in WA.

 

I believe how you have spoken to her is disgusting and I can say that you SHOULD be in a position to appologize for the sake of a friendship.

 

I give much credit to WA with her patience and mature attitude!

 

That says alot to the character in WA which is not what I have seen in you!

 

You have spoke in circles and nothing you have brought here has had much to do with the Thread as much is it is to your current state of mind.

 

You should re-evalute you situation with your MM, because he seems to be doing more damage to your well being then you can cleary see for yourself.

 

When you can jeopordize a good friendship for an AFFAIR there is something wrong with this picture!

 

I agree with RC. If I'm out of bounds here, tell me. But Sami, you helped me SO much when I was in that dark place in getting over the xMM. When I started reading your posts on this thread, I became worried. This isn't like you AT ALL! I'm worried you're going through something terrible and you seem to be taking it out here on WA.

 

Are you okay????

[Walking away]

She is hurting and scared.

 

We have all been there.

 

WA

[Sami_D]

SAMI!!

 

I have been reading and reading and reading your posts today and I can honestly say that you have totally insulted and attacked a good friend in WA.

 

I believe how you have spoken to her is disgusting and I can say that you SHOULD be in a position to appologize for the sake of a friendship.

 

I give much credit to WA with her patience and mature attitude!

 

That says alot to the character in WA which is not what I have seen in you!

 

You have spoke in circles and nothing you have brought here has had much to do with the Thread as much is it is to your current state of mind.

 

You should re-evalute you situation with your MM, because he seems to be doing more damage to your well being then you can cleary see for yourself.

 

When you can jeopordize a good friendship for an AFFAIR there is something wrong with this picture!

 

Well, RC... if you want to talk about specific things to do with Affairs, rather than generalities about my debating technique, or my 'mature attitude' or not, let me know.

 

I have no idea what you imagine my state of mind to be, since you have no clue of my present situation. I can only assume it's based on assumption. So.... um... that's interesting, then.

 

And, you say I should 're-evaluate my situation with my MM'... without really knowing what my situation was, what I would like, or indeed what either of us has said to the other.

 

I'm not quite sure what the 'good friendship' is that I'm jeopardising for the sake of 'THE AFFAIR'... perhaps you will enlighten me, as you seem to know an awful lot about me and my recent conversations and relationships that I'm not even sure of myself.

[Sami_D]

Sami,

 

For what I have done to harm you, I apologize. Information from another forum should not be shared here. I am in the wrong.

 

Forgive me.

 

WA

 

Well of course I do. Things get heated. But it's really bad form. One hopes when posting somewhere that the information is not going to be shared by a third party. Thanks for apologising.