Girl Problems/Love???????

[SvR3000GT]

Alright, I am 17 years old and I have a problem. There is this girl who I work with that I like alot. Now, I am not sure if she harvors any feelings for me. Honestly, I think she does. But 1.Shes not telling me and 2.She supposedly has a boyfriend. I say supposedly because I have never seen him and she never talks about him. She just says she has a boyfriend. There is this other girl I met and she's cool and everything and she likes me alot, but I just can't stop thinking about the girl I work with. The girl I work with though seems like shes not into the whole long term or serious relationship thing which is what I want. Shes very different then most girls shes laid back and cool. I just want to be with her so bad. I am really bad with girls and I am doing all that I can to not let her slip away from me. Now, I am being patient and taking everything slow. I don't want to give her the wrong idea and have everything be messed up. I like her alot and I haven't told her. I want to soooooooooooo bad, but I know if I do things will get weird and she'll think of me differently. I am not trying to be her best friend or anything. I give her space and I don't text her or IM her. I let her do it. I think she knows I like her though, but I'm not sure. Now the problems I need advice on is what I should do about the girl I like alot and what I should do about the girl that likes me. I don't want to be mean, but I feel the girl that likes me deserves to know the truth and maybe I should tell her that I harvor strong feelings for the girl I work with. I mean this sounds so bizarre, but I honestly feel like I need this girl. I feel like I have this big missing piece inside of me and I am just so sure If I am with her she will be the missing piece that fits perfectly and completes me. I feel like I need her to be happy because for the past few years I have been so unhappy it's unbelievable. I am very mature for my age so I accept all advice/input. So please tell me what you think I should do.

[norajane]

She just says she has a boyfriend.

 

seems like shes not into the whole long term or serious relationship thing which is what I want.

 

I honestly feel like I need this girl. I feel like I have this big missing piece inside of me and I am just so sure If I am with her she will be the missing piece that fits perfectly and completes me.

 

She's not going to fill the missing piece inside you, and she won't fit the piece perfectly at all. She has a boyfriend and she doesn't want a long term relationship, so she's totally wrong for you and will not give you what you want at all. This is why you're so bad with girls - you pick the wrong ones to fall for, the ones who you can't possibly be happy with.

 

Now the problems I need advice on is what I should do about the girl I like alot and what I should do about the girl that likes me. I don't want to be mean, but I feel the girl that likes me deserves to know the truth and maybe I should tell her that I harvor strong feelings for the girl I work with.

No, you don't need to tell her you have feelings for someone else! If you need to tell her anything, just tell her that you don't have feelings for her. She doesn't need to hear you would rather be with someone else.

 

(And the word is "harbor" not "harvor".)

[DaNziNgQuEeN1]

Wow, dude. haha I don't mean to make fun of you, it's just that your situation seems a little complicated!

 

First, you are right about telling the girl who likes you that you like someone else. You don't want to lead the girl on.

 

Second, you don't "need" the girl you do like to "complete" you. You are setting yourself up for failure if you're approaching the girl you like with a need to fulfill a missing part of you. I honestly think you're very infatuated with her and you'll be happier if you can live your life without NEEDING her. If she likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, then she doesn't and out there somewhere is a girl who WILL like you for who you are.