How can I improve myself?

[jgaz3124]

Ok after having 4 major relationships fail, the latest one about 1 month ago, I was forced to look inside myself and see what is going wrong. I realize that in all the relationships I was needy, jealous, and insecure. Know I am not blaming on them failing all because of me, because they had there problems that contributed to the relationships failing also. The thing is, is that I always start out in a relationship confident and happy and comfortable with myself but then as it goes on I start to get really needy and insecure. I was cheated on in the past with 2 of my relationships so that may account for the jealous part, not to mention it has all left me kinda bitter. So the point in me writing all this is because I know I have to change the negative feelings inside me. And I guess half the battle is realizing that I have problems that I need to change. What I am wondering and welcome any imput is how to properly go about improving myself so that I won't keep making these mistakes and not to mention that I hate when I do act that way in a relationship it makes me unhappy and I feel like I have no control over me. Therapy I realize would be a good option but I have a low paying job and too many bills to be able to afford therapy. So if anyone has any suggestions on how I can best go about this please do let me know?

[Yoohoo]

I'd really suggest looking for alternative methods of therapy, money shouldn't be limiting your mental stability in relationships....does your job have EAP or something similar?

 

Being jealous and getting cheated on can create a miserable cycle, as women are more inclined to cheat on a SO that acts jealous, needy, and insecure, than a confident, alpha male type, then you get jealous and insecure when they cheat on you....You've got to work on this somehow or it will simply perpetuate itself.