this ever happen to anyone else?

[bina]

i more or less dated the same girl for 6 years. we broke up way back in december and it was initiated by her. we eventually got back together for a few weeks in mid-february, and then broke up again.

 

well during this time, neither of us really put much effort into the whole no contact philosophy, but our communication definitely declined. we'd talk on the phone occassionally, through email and text messages, etc. the longest we ever went without speaking in some form or another was one month.

 

she studied in france for a couple of months this summer. during this time, she called me a couple of times to talk (on one occassion because she had a dream about me where she was in my arms and wanted to know what the meaning was. haha.) and we emailed on a regular basis. i left the day before she got back for a few weeks in thailand, so i really didn't see her for nearly three months. i called her when i got back and we talked on the phone for a long time. she just recently moved into her new apartment and told me i could stay there anytime i wanted (she's still in college and living in another town, so there's not too much opportunity to take her up on this). well, she admitted to me there are pictures of us in her new apartment, and that she still sleeps with the stuffed animals i gave her from way back in the day. that's kind of interesting.

 

anyhow, she came to see her parents on weekend and wanted to go out to dinner. having not seen her in a few months and seeing as how i enjoy being around her, i agreed and we went to dinner and then out afterwards. the whole time we were flirting with one another quite a bit and enjoying each other's company. she asked if i was seeing anyone seriously and i said no. she's not seeing anyone either. she cuddled with me for a little while, and then we gave one another a few pecks on the lips and that was the night.

 

fast forward a few weeks. she back up in school. communication has been sporadic. she'll call every few days, and then we won't talk for a week, at which point she'll call again and text me saying our "song" just came on the radio. well i'm going up to her town tomorrow for an interview and will be there for a couple of hours. so i called her this afternoon and, depsite the really late notice, asked if she wanted to get togethr for a drink early in the evening. she told me she has a meeting around 6, but that she'll be able to find a way to meet up with me. she's also coming down next thursday the 14th (which, coincidentally would have been our anniversary) for a concert that i told her about last time i saw her back in the middle of august. she's bringing some friends with her, so that'll be fun.

 

i don't really know where i'm going with this rant. any thoughts?

[nice1_hurting]

I'm no love guru..

But that seems pretty tame. She obviously has feelings of some sort for you. Love? Lust? Hard to say exactly. I would want to know personally how she feels (deep down and all that..) So maybe it would be good to find a time and just ask her straight up. Not in her face, but just come forward and say you are curious how she feels about you. If she said she loved you, would it sway the way you feel?

[Guest]

i don't know what's going on with her. i met up with her for dinner and a drink last night. nothing special, nothing expensive. she was borderline in my opinion. apparently she now smokes cigarettes, which i'm not fond of (but it's her decision, not mine. besides, i'm in no shape to lecture anyone else about what's acceptable and what isn't). that's a negative point. but she did have on a really low cut blouse which her nipples popped out of a few times during the course of the night. which i am fond of. that's a positive point.

 

but in all seriousness, she's just plain flaky. she just doesn't really have a clue about what's going on. the whole time she was telling me about this and that in an effort to impress me or make me jealous. probably both, neither of which really worked. sure, she's 20 and apparently "dating" some dude who's in his mid-30's who lives a long way from her, and that would probably be impressive to many people. not me. that's just kind of creepy in my book.

 

i have been thinking in the past 24 hours, and i am just about ready to write her off and wish her a good life. it sucks though you know. it sucks to give up and accept defeat on something that was so good for so long, but i guess that's life. it happens, and at least i'm still young, so there's plenty of opportunities that i still don't know about. got to look at the bright side of any situation. otherwise life just brings you down. but that's my own opinion.

 

on another note, a girl i have been casually seeing for a few weeks just tonight dropped a few powerful statements upon me. she said, "i think i'm falling in love with you". that's really cool. it must mean i am doing something right that makes her feel special, that she feels wanted, and that i generally accept her for who she is. however, it definitely got me off guard. she also told me that she wants to be the mother of my children. now this really caught me off guard. slow down a little. let's just see how things go, you know, test the waters before diving in head first.

 

yup, just another random rant. feel free to add any off-beat comments.

[KarlCox]

make sure you use condoms with this new girl since she wants "to be the mother of your children"

 

incase she decides to lock you down with kids and 18 years of childsupport...

 

i know it's kinda flattering.. but your life could potentially be ruined if you dont handle this well

 

 

goodluck buddy

[bina]

no doubt about that. it's flattering i guess to have a girl like you so much that she wants to have your children, but at the same time it is kind of creepy. a little bit early on for that. clingy maybe? yup.

 

on another note, i am going to a concert tonight with my ex-girflriend that has been previously mentioned. she just called and asked me to dinner. at her parent's home. they're having sirloin. awesome. it should be fun, besides, i've never passed up a good steak dinner before. rock on.