RKWinters Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Ok, here is the cliffnote. My mother and father in-laws are wonderful, the problem is the sister-in-law. When I came into the family she was busy turning both sons against their mother for almost non-existent abusive parenting. Suddenly getting a swat on the hiney as a child is grounds for hatred untold and forever judgement. She attempted to bring me into the fold by trying to tell me that my mil was horrible. She wasn't, it was the sil that was evil. At our first meeting she announced that she liked my husband's former girlfriend better and how did I feel about her having an abortion. Since I didn't fall in line now she is busy turning her husband and the in-laws against me. Now we've had a really bad turn of events, my husband and I have lost our first baby at 20 weeks, as fate would have it my sil was pregnant at the same time but was able to have theirs. She smoked, took her anti-depressants and never had an issue. The really weird part is everything that I've wanted to do with my life, start a graphics business, decorate my house etc. she has now attempted. Today I find out that she has colored her hair the exact shade of red that I do and have since the day I met my husband. They have also just gotten back from a vacation where my mil happily noted that sil didn't think of her child once in the 6 days they were gone. Has everyone gone mad? She's been in the family longer than I have and also made a point of telling my now mother-in-law horrible lies about me that I have had to overcome. What in God's name do you do with a person like this? If its not me she harping on her other sil, who is now pregnant with her forth child and doing wonderfully, about how she's just having too many children and how awful that is. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 nip it in the bud if you catch her in the midst of a lie, otherwise ignore her because she's not worth the headache she's trying to create. If you're forced to be with her, just kill her with kindness – she makes herself look bad if she's anything but gracious to you, you know. And it's drive her freakin' nuts seriously, try not to let her get under your skin, because that's her goal. Eventually, the evil that she spews will out itself and she'll lose any respect she might have garnered from others. Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 She sounds mentally ill, unfortunately. I'm sure you are not the only family member who is aware of her disturbing behavior. Really, all you can do is distance yourself as much as possible, physically and emotionally. Try not to get engaged in conversations with her. Try to avoid her at family gatherings. Finally, do not ever let her see that she has gotten to you. Sounds like that's what she really wants. Link to post Share on other sites
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