Wife is horrible in bed

[pricillia]

bpax...

 

don't listen to machine and don't get all railed up about that reply it is not worth it.

 

I just have some questions.

 

How long have you been married to each other?

 

You were her first right?

 

What were some of the things about your past experiences have made you excited, what did the other women do for you that you enjoyed so much?

 

Also she may not feel comfortable with the power that she has when you are together, she is after all unexperienced in the bedroom.

[penkitten]

good grief, she sounds like she purposely tries to be a "log" just so she doenst have to do it often.

[justagirliegirl]

What if she is faking orgasms? It sorta sounds like she is!

[pricillia]

What if she is faking orgasms? It sorta sounds like she is!

 

oh that is a thought, either way she is not as experienced as him so how can she tell what is fun and what turns him on, if he just lets her lay there like a log then he is adding to the problem

 

He should ask her to

move her hips, show her how he likes it

ask her for special things

ask her to masturbate in front of him, also please her as well ask her what she likes too.

try another postion, bring out her fun sensual side.

after all it is his job in a way

but some of it is up to her as well, if she is not interested in being sensual and intimate then he can not make her like it.

[JamesM]

Let me give you a warning from a man who has been there...be careful how you handle this or you will be wishing for THESE days back. If you are too critical of her behavior no, she will shut down.

 

My suggestion is to work WITH her. She is inexperienced. Teach her. Love the fact that you can get her going...or coming...so much.

 

I know I am good because I have experience.

 

Boy oh Boy! Do not ever say this to her!

 

I understand your points, but be careful. This kind of talk can shut a woman down. Express yourself here...and not to her. Choose your words carefully with her, and your rewards will be great.

[norajane]

I know I am good because I have experience.

 

 

Why don't you try to woo your wife? Remember when you were dating and you'd take her out on dates and look into her eyes as you talked and laughed over dinner and a bottle of wine? Do that now. Then spend the evening focusing on her and telling her how beautiful you think she is, and how happy you are to be married to her, and how much she turns you on when you think about her during the day. Tell her how much it turns you on when she shuddes and shakes and screams your name, and you can't wait to take her home. Touch her frequently on her hand, her leg; hold her hand when you walk to the car, touch her in the car, kiss her at stoplights.

 

Then, when you get home, give her a long, passionate kiss when you get inside. Crack open another bottle of wine and take the glasses into the bedroom. Light some candles - no need for lights, but you're not in the dark either. Kiss her again and run your hands along her body. Kiss her for a long time before you start taking anything off. Slip your hands under her blouse and caress the bare skin on her back, her waist, her stomach. Keep moving slowly and taking things off and kissing her all the while. Kiss her shoulders, her neck, caress her everywhere.

 

Stop for some sips of wine, and then lick her breasts, her nipples, everywhere. Tell her how beautiful she is, and take her hand and show her where you like to be touched. Show her. Lick her to an orgasm, and if she says she's done now, tell her that you'd like to give her one more. Keep licking her and then go for the penetration while you tickle her clit with your finger. Keep kissing her and look into her eyes when you're inside her.

 

If she doesn't respond to any of this, then you've got other problems in your marriage that you haven't addressed, problems outside the bedroom. Either that, or she has some sexual repression from her upbringing or religion or something.

 

I agree with the others - it sounds like she's inexperienced, has no idea what sex is and could be between a couple, doesn't know how it increases emotional intimacy between two people, and is probably faking the orgasms.

[kaizer0007]

Since she doesnt seem to like normal sex, just surprise her with anal... With no warnings or anything, just slam it in. See how she reacts... She will be so much in shock that she will start appreciating the regular normal sex.

 

I think it's worth a try... and might just get her over all her resistance.

[Ladyjane14]

Since she doesnt seem to like normal sex, just surprise her with anal... With no warnings or anything, just slam it in. See how she reacts... She will be so much in shock that she will start appreciating the regular normal sex.

 

I think it's worth a try... and might just get her over all her resistance.

 

The down-side to that advice is that she might decide to return the favor. Personally, I'd wait 'til he was sleeping and use a broom handle. :laugh:

[JamesM]

Since she doesnt seem to like normal sex, just surprise her with anal... With no warnings or anything, just slam it in. See how she reacts... She will be so much in shock that she will start appreciating the regular normal sex.

 

I think it's worth a try... and might just get her over all her resistance.

 

It doesn't seem that she doesn't like sex...rather OP wants more foreplay and variety.

 

As for surprising her with anal, this would be akin to rape. I am willing to guess that this will NOT break down any barriers but put up new ones.

 

I am not sure that the above post needed any clarification, but I did not think it wise to leave the OP with the idea that this "may" work.

[Bob Dole]

Since she doesnt seem to like normal sex, just surprise her with anal... With no warnings or anything, just slam it in. See how she reacts... She will be so much in shock that she will start appreciating the regular normal sex.

 

I think it's worth a try... and might just get her over all her resistance.

 

To the original poster:

 

I wouldn't necessarily try the above approach.

 

As for the rest, well, frankly for all your claimed "experience," you sound awfully young, with a few maturity issues. In my own experience, men who claim to be "good because they have experience" are generally horrible in bed. They may not think so - but their lovers do.

 

No offense intended, but the first place to start is with YOU. You need to sit her down and ask real questions about what YOU can do to make things better. I suspect that her telling you its "great" is either you reporting what you think you heard, or her telling you what you want to hear.

 

How old are you, by the way? Is late teens/early 20s right? If so, a word of advice: seriously, lose the "I'm great and experienced" line. If you're trying for an imitation of Tim Meadows' "Ladies Man" character, great; if you want to seem a sincere, mature lover, it's not working. That kind of line belongs in a high school locker room.

 

And let's be honest: if you were that "great" and "experienced," you wouldn't be asking your question.

 

I think you got some great advice above. Communicate. Openly. Tell her your concerns. Ask her how YOU can make it better. You can't change her. You CAN change you.

[JamesM]

Ditto Bob Dole's advice.