Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Im a MM have been for 20 years. For the last 2 1/2 years I have been in a relationship with a MW. We started as friends, then became embroiled in a passionate love affair. It got to the point where we both were ready to leave our spouses to be together. Then late last year she decided that she didnt want to leave her H. What followed was a roller coaster of continuing the A, then trying to be "just friends" to N/C. She says that she is trying to live up to the commitment she made to her H but at the same time she calls me all the time, she emails me all of the time, and we share many things together. We have such a powerful connection but she refuses to admit it. She knows that we love each other very much but she tries so hard to ignore it. When I say something even remotely romantic she ignores it. When I tell her that I love her she does tell me that she loves me. She says nothing to me about her relationship with her H. They just celebrated an anniversary and had a big party. She called me the next day to tell me how the party went and to tell me she was thinking of me that night. She says she doesnt want a sexual relationship with me anymore but when I see her and were alone, she kisses me and tells me that she wants me. We have tried N/C several times but it never lasts. What do I do with this??? its killing me. Thanks so much for your help Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Either: 1) She is afraid of upheaval and change or 2) She loves both of you and wants her cake and eat it too. What she says and what she does are two different things. She says she doesn't want a physical relationship but does when she is with you. She sounds confused. You have to decide if you are ok with how things are. If you want more - I don't think it's going to happen. If you are satisfied with a piece of her - let it go and keep up the A. Link to post Share on other sites
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