I think I have a live one here....

[inde4544]

So the other day my ex starts calling me repeatedly with a restricted number. I was out with my buddies so I did not answer, finally I answered and told her I could not talk because I was out. She than began text messaging me like crazy. I told her I do not want anything to do w/ her and to leave me alone and she is like I do not understand. Now this girl cheated on me then broke up with me so I am just at a loss what she does not understand. Anyways she then begins to say how she is going to give me back all the stuff I gave her blah blah blah. I said go right ahead do what you have to do. She then starts texting me saying how she is in tears and cannot bring herself to get rid of these things. Now this girl has another guy at the moment and broke up with me haha. We dated for 2 years so maybe she is holding on to those moments I dont know. Later on I spoke with her and told her it is not good for me to be speaking to her and that she has another man and to focus on him and leave me alone. She then gets into how she does not know what the future holds but she thinks that it sometimes takes someone to see how things are before they know who is right for them. She also says how she is so confused and I can tell she is not really into this guy. Well anyways she calls me the next night again talking about all this stuff about us but never mentioning anything about getting back together so I told her I am not going to wait around for her but I cannot predict the future and basically I would have to think long and hard if we were going to get back together. I get the feeling this girl is regretting her crappy actions or maybe she just feels guilty. I adopted the attitude of not giving a crap either way. I wont call her but if she calls me and we speak Ill be kind and thats about it. Anyone have any opinions on her intentions and whats going on and also what I should do?

[pricillia]

I would not be mean but if you really don't want to talk to her then don't lead her on and don't answer the phone.

 

Maybe she did make a mistake but you don't have to rub her nose in it, sounds like you are enjoying her graveling... if I were her then I would let you go. You were together two years and you are calling her "this girl"

[superconductor]

She's just another drama queen. Ignore her.

[Stardust06]

It's a classic case of her losing control over you. She figured she could do whatever and you'd always be there - now that you're not - she's freaking out.

 

Best thing you can do is come to terms that it's totally over - cut the umbilical cord and not succumb to her manipulations. Breaking up is easy - making the decision to do so is what's so hard.

 

You sound like you might enjoy her drama and still care about her. It's up to you to decide if you want to drag this out or end it - and move on with your life.

 

Nothing says "it's over!" more than totally ignoring her and refusing to let her play out her drama with you.

 

Stop answering the phone when you don't know who it is (let it go to voicemail or answering machine). Stop answering her text messages (and stop reading them!), stop talking to her and giving her your time. Cut the ties!

 

So many people keep going back, giving second chances and hoping for change but like the saying goes "Screw me once, shame on you - screw me twice - shame on me!".

 

She's GOT ANOTHER GUY!!!! What's wrong with him to where she's still jacking with you? Just think of the guy who was there before you - he was in your shoes saying the same thing!

[penkitten]

she wants what she no longer has.

ignore the crap out of her.

[inde4544]

Yeah I am not mean and there is a small part of me that does enjoy it because she hurt me so bad before but I am not trying to rub her nose in it. I went through hell after she cheated on me then strung me along until she met another dude. In no way am I trying to rub her nose in it I just do not get what she wants from me because she cheated and then ended things. I refer to her as this girl because I am not going to put her name on here it is no slight on her. I just hate these stupid games if she wants to work on things why doesn't she just say it or else move on. I have done nothing to her but keep my distance.

[daphne]

I usually prefer taking the high road in breakups but honestly your ex sounds like one selfish narcissist. She acts like you owe it to her to be nice to her after she cheated on you and treated you like crap. Good thing you're not a masochist.

 

She just wants what she can't have. So give it to her. Don't let her have you.

[inde4544]

Yeah she still keeps contacting me. It is sad but somehow I still have feelings for this girl I guess 2 years is hard to get over, but I cannot let someone crap on me time and time again. I told her that she made a concious decision that I may never be in her life again by going for this new guy. She tried saying that is not true. She also says we could get back together in the future but she does not know and she is confused. I said well you cannot be that confused because you are with the other guy so you must not be confused about that. I am just beginning to think she is nuts. I tell her I am not in her life and she freaks out but yet she wouldnt want to work on things. I am just gonna go strict NC and stay away from her for good. She is 25 I think she needs to grow up a bit. I hate this attachment feeling I just want to get back to my old self. Thanks for the replies any more advice would be great.

[sugarcane05]

Basically you need to tell her to s*&% or get off the pot.

 

If she wants to date you again and drop her guy now let her do it.

 

Obviously you still care about her and want to try again.

 

But make sure your in control this time and don't let her catch you off guard and hurt you again.

 

I should know I'm somehwat in your place...

 

Sounds like I should take my own advice... haha

[Gunny376]

She blew it! Forget her ~ move on!

 

What one would abuse ~ another could certainly use!