So what if you're a player

[judith_xxxo]

Well what can I say? I say you all are gonna be placing all lables at me. Don't think I'm stupid nor a low life person by the way, I'm not. Believe me I have good qualities just like you all have, different ones, but still. At least I don't do drugs nor do stealing nor do crimes. And last but not least, before you all starting saying the word "slut', nope, in my case it's only making out and cybering at random, nothing comparing to sex (VIRGIN by the way as I can never get intimate).

 

It's always say "Oh how awful didn't you told the him/her how sorry you are for cheating", "Oh you're this and that, etc.". But what about the other qualities, there's always something more than just being in a relationship with the so called soulmate you called (there's is no such thing as a soulmate, there is no such thing as being in love and there's definately no such thing as true love, it doens't exist), there's being punctual to work, helping friends when they need you, 3.8 G.P.A. at college, respecting your parents, etc.

 

Don't you all know by degrading the person doing the cheating, you are all wasting your time and energy here. Obviosuly those writing don't really wanna hear about your darn emotions and about how you were cheated. All they were asking is helping them, not listening to your boring stories.

 

I guess I'm venting at the same time, not really what I intended, but I couldn't bottle it up esp. when everyone thinks you're always content and full of enery when you're not, you're just a shadow.

[Guest]

You've been drinking. And thinking, too much. Thank your parent(s) for paying your tuition, they're totally getting their money's worth.

You have some really good points, but get off your high and mighty daddy's paid for it horse. Get a job.

[Adunaphel]

But what about the other qualities, there's always something more than just being in a relationship with the so called soulmate you called (there's is no such thing as a soulmate, there is no such thing as being in love and there's definately no such thing as true love, it doens't exist), there's being punctual to work, helping friends when they need you, 3.8 G.P.A. at college, respecting your parents, etc.

 

Would you be in a committed relationship with someone who is punctual to work, is a hard worker, helps his friends, loves his parents, sisters, and brothers, is nice to strangers but treats *you* badly?

 

Of course there are other qualities, and different persons will appreciate different qualities. You can be a great friend and a very bad gf or bf. And vice versa. Your friends might regard you as a great person even if you cheat on your SO (they do know you are otherwise a great person) but on the other hand be sure that they would drastically chang your opinion of you backstabbed them repeatedly, no matter if you have been faithful to your SO your whole life.

 

 

Have you been in a situation where people who should know you better decided you are a despicable person because of a something you did that did not touch them directly?

 

If anyone who knows that you have a lot of great qualities, whom you never hurt or damage in any way and that you have been a good friend to decides that you are a bad person because of a single episode in your life, well, you are *much* better of without them.

[MsArtful]

You don't have to explain yourself to us. At the end of the day, your judgement of yourself is the only one that really matters.

[Pink Amulet]

*waves* Hi Judith- welcome to LS!

[Island Girl]

there's is no such thing as a soulmate, there is no such thing as being in love and there's definately no such thing as true love, it doens't exist

 

Yes there is. Just because you have never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

 

I was like you. I never experienced "true love" and dated a lot. Guys wanted to get serious and I didn't feel it. Over and over. So I thought it didn't exist.

 

Then I met my husband. And it was different. It is so incredible and keeps getting better. 5 years now.

 

It is out there but I wouldn't say most people have it. There are a lot of people out there who date or marry because of security, or misplaced values and ideals, etc.

I got lucky.