Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Share Posted September 9, 2006 We've dated for 5 months but have known each other for years, after being friends this long we have come to love each other very much & are a monogomous couple now. Too bad trust is the weakest link, he has many exes. I dont communicate with mine, but in the last few months, his exes text or leave vmail for him. It makes me sick. There is no sane reason for them to communicate with him. They even send pictures! I have seen them on his computer. I dont want him to be the villain here bec. i believe he truely loves me, but it seems he always has some great excuse for WHY. Exuces, exuces...He says he doesn't respond back to the females who text him. He hides his phone whenever i am around him. He takes MY phone & looks through it like i'm a guilty traitor, but i don't even talk to my male friends because i dont want him to be mad. There is so much untrust between us it is so sad to me. The bottom line is I just don't believe him. There has been incidents in the past couple months i "break up with him". So he says its none of my business what he does if we are not together. Unfortunately, this happens every other week, so during the 2 days (if not less) we "break up" he says it's ok to call or accept calls from exes & whoever because we are not together. So I catch him visiting his last ex in rehab (he brought her smokes) I know this because still has the hospital sticker still on his shirt, I just know he wasn't gonna tell me. There is so much more stupidness about trust with us. I love him so much, i wonder if there is ANY hope. Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted September 9, 2006 Share Posted September 9, 2006 there is hope. i know how you feel, and its hard to trust someone. especially with all his ex's floating around. its scummy that they send pictures to him. if he claims he doesn't respond back, why doesn't he tell them that its disrespectful to his relationship with you? perhaps you could tell him to say that to him in a subtle way anyway, if you believe you two are lovebirds, he will have no intention to be romantic with any of his past girls. you are his girlfriend now and thats all that matters. its so much easier said than done, but you need to learn to put some faith into him. about the breaking up part, try to minimize that. my friend once told me after the 2nd breakup, there should be no getting back together. i can't really say that for myself because i break up and get back together with my bf often, or at least i did. but yeah if you minimize that he can't play that bs with "you don't have to know what i do when we break up". Link to post Share on other sites
DaNziNgQuEeN1 Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 You and him have to have a serious talk about this! He can try to make up excuses and say it's not a big deal that his exes are contacting him and sending him pictures but that IS NOT RIGHT! It bothers you and you've told him...yet he STILL does this? You two should discuss how you truly feel about one another. Seems like he wants to be with you but he can't seem to let go of his exes...and that's a warning sign that he is not ready to even be with you. Communicate and figure it out. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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