Are OW immoral?

[FlyingHigh]

BenThereDunThat;917519]. His W shut down her affections years ago. Again. Not justifying, just drawing a different picture

 

That's usually what MM tell their OW...a whole list of why they're with you.

 

And in case anyone here doesn't know my story, I have walked away, and refused anymore offers of cake.[/

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Good for you! There are so many OW who keeps waiting...sad...sad...

[scaredinlove]

I think there is a lot of detail needed to answer that question. Are you cheating with 1 or many? Were you looking or did it just come on you like an interest in Sushi? I am not trializing this, I'm just saying some people cheat for the thrill of getting away with something debaucherous and some do it because they met someone they truly are in love with at the wrong time. I understand how on the surface - it's immoral. But I also understand that sometimes we find ourselves in situations we did not plan. Make sense?

 

 

I am cheting with one,never cheated before,wasn't looking for it.He persued me for over a year I was/am in a very unhappy marriage, felt/fell trapped .My MM gave the atention I never had from anyone in my life.I truly love him and I know he truly loves me although he is a little f***up at this moment.Because we have a gap When he was single and available I wasn'r born, no chances of have met him before.It does makes sense for me a lot of sense.

[Guest]

Of course OW are immoral. You are dating a MM for god sakes. You are dating a MM that has a binding document that he has became one with a wife. He is not only went out and try to solve a problem with his marriage by adding you in his life but you are meddling in their marriage.

 

You aren’t helping. You became part of the problem.

 

 

I don’t care if he did put himself out there to be available to you. Do you not have any moral respect when it came to the wife? Rather you like it or not the wife is part of the show. When you are screwing around with the MM you are also screwing the wife.

 

 

EMOTIONAL Feelings like Not in love with his wife anymore does not VOID the marriage document nor does it give him or you the permission to be together.

 

 

BINDING DOCUMENT! It means John is Jill’s property.

Like any other binding document like a title to someone house. If you are not invited to be in that persons house you don’t invite yourself in.

 

Which is exactly what the OW is doing. She invited herself in on someone else’s man. He may invited you in but did the wife invite you to? No she didn’t. You were an uninvited guest.

 

Same thing with a MM if you know he is married or you find out he is married later on you have no business starting a relationship or staying in a relationship with a MM.

 

Those who likes to go around posting on this board stating “My MM” he isn’t your MM. The correct wording for that is “The MM I am with” You are not M to the MM and he is not yours!

 

Yes you are being immoral It falls under conflicting with generally or traditionally held moral principles and that means you are conflicting someone marriage!!!!!!!!

[Guest]

Of course OW are immoral. You are dating a MM for god sakes. You are dating a MM that has a binding document that he has became one with a wife. He is not only went out and try to solve a problem with his marriage by adding you in his life but you are meddling in their marriage.

 

You aren’t helping. You became part of the problem.

 

 

I don’t care if he did put himself out there to be available to you. Do you not have any moral respect when it came to the wife? Rather you like it or not the wife is part of the show. When you are screwing around with the MM you are also screwing the wife.

 

 

EMOTIONAL Feelings like Not in love with his wife anymore does not VOID the marriage document nor does it give him or you the permission to be together.

 

 

BINDING DOCUMENT! It means John is Jill’s property.

Like any other binding document like a title to someone house. If you are not invited to be in that persons house you don’t invite yourself in.

 

Which is exactly what the OW is doing. She invited herself in on someone else’s man. He may invited you in but did the wife invite you to? No she didn’t. You were an uninvited guest.

 

Same thing with a MM if you know he is married or you find out he is married later on you have no business starting a relationship or staying in a relationship with a MM.

 

Those who likes to go around posting on this board stating “My MM” he isn’t your MM. The correct wording for that is “The MM I am with” You are not M to the MM and he is not yours!

 

Yes you are being immoral It falls under conflicting with generally or traditionally held moral principles and that means you are conflicting someone marriage!!!!!!!!

 

 

99.99 % of the times MM invite the OW into their Homes, they go after the OW.And no nobady belongs to anybody, people are not pieces of land they are free!

[will2power]

John belongs to Jill?!? I never saw people as property. How about this, if John belongs to Jill and Jill wants to rent John out, would that make it ok? I mean if the guy is just property, then we may as well put him up for rent and make good use of the investment.

 

My MM is a correct terminology for someone with an MM. Just because you call someone my MM doesn't mean he belongs to you, but that you are in a mutually reciprocating relationship. No different than calling someone "my boyfriend" rather than the "boyfriend that I'm seeing". Its nomenclature.

[calalily]

Actually, if people are property, as suggested, then there is no immorality on the part of the OW. That binding contract is made between husband and wife - he is the one contravening the contract. She has not contracted with the wife in any way, and not contracted with the husband for a bigamous marriage - she is a renter.

 

I do however think that the OW is immoral if she tries to widen the gap between husband and wife by pointing out faults. But above all I see these women as foolish as those who marry men on death row - it never goes anywhere.

[Guest]

Did you not just claim that Jack is Jills property?

Excuse me "John is Jill's property"?

MORON!!!

 

If you would think of marriage ties like you would have a tittle to the house you might get it straight in your head that being with that married man is none of your business to begin with and dear! that married man you are with right now does not care about you. If he did he would get a divorce please do not come back with the whole he doesn't have any money. Apparently he does if he has a boat, a little house by the shore plus the home. It's called liquidate the property for money to pay his way out of a marriage!

[scaredinlove]

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Did you not just claim that Jack is Jills property?

Excuse me "John is Jill's property"?

MORON!!!

 

Renee, This posting is my (Scaredinlove) not from guest.It was my answer to her /his crazy posting. Sorry for the confusion I forgot to log in.

 

99.99 % of the times MM invite the OW into their Homes, they go after the OW.And no nobady belongs to anybody, people are not pieces of land they are free!

[reneet]

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Renee, This posting is my (Scaredinlove) not from guest.It was my answer to her /his crazy posting. Sorry for the confusion I forgot to log in.

 

99.99 % of the times MM invite the OW into their Homes, they go after the OW.And no nobady belongs to anybody, people are not pieces of land they are free!

 

Glad that's cleared up now.

BTW, I was not invited into his home nor do I have anything to do with his soon to be ex wife. She has been seeing someone also for quite a while now. Everyone is happy here in this situation. Me, my man, the xw & all the kids.

[scaredinlove]

Glad that's cleared up now.

BTW, I was not invited into his home nor do I have anything to do with his soon to be ex wife. She has been seeing someone also for quite a while now. Everyone is happy here in this situation. Me, my man, the xw & all the kids.

 

At least one happy ending.I am afraid my happy ending will never come...