i need hep ..

[fjk82]

Such a long story I dont even know where to begin..I was with him for 4years we had moved down to Florida together from PA 2 yrs ago..We were doing great but last November his father asked him if we could both move back for him to take over the family business..I didn't want to go at all but it was such an amazing oppturnity he had to take it..I stayed in FL for almost 5months with him BEGGING me to hurry and get back to PA. We never broke up at that point we were still together but for some reason i couldn't bring myself to go back there i hated it there..

 

well i finally went in march..i only stayed for a month..i went up there with a negative outlook and i couldnt snap myself out of it..i decided on a wim to move back to FL and to leave him. i was not sure of myself 100% but i did it..there was no goodbye..i got my stuff and left..it was the biggest mistake ive made in my entire life..i had the best man that loved me more then anything in this world and i blew it. i made a mistake i am human..well he does not talk to me right now this happend easter weekend and then in june his mother died...he wont speak to me wont answer my calls etc.

 

he sometimes emails me but it never says much at allll..he is very aware that i want to get back together but when it first happend he said that is not what he wants..he had told me before i left that if i left there was no getting back together..i should have known better i just tho9ught if u love someone so so much like i know he did how can u not try again...well im going up to PA n 3 weeks to visit family and i want to drive the 3 hours to his house and see him and talk..i mentioned to him that i was going to be there the end of sept thru a voice mail and email and he wrote me back the next day and said NOTHING about my visit..

 

i had said ill be waiting for him on the side of the road hoping and praying he will stop and talk to me..so i believe if he didnt want me there he would have said dont come but instead it was not brought up at all..please help me u guys..we had a great 4yrs..im human..people make mistakes..if this man loved me so so much how can he not talk to me at all..how can he not want to give it one more try..i know i broke his heart..i hurt him so bad..but all i want to do is fix that..i can not be without him..i cant...please help me i really need the advice...

[Island Girl]

I think he is ignoring what you are saying about the visit because he wants to see how much you want him back. If he didn't want to see you, he would tell you not to come.

 

I think he wants you back too. But he is so hurt. He is feeling like 'I was WITH you, I LOVED you, and you walked out one me". Plus he said no getting back together. So he is also feeling like he has to stand by his word because you won't respect him otherwise.

 

You guys have to talk. Somehow you gotta get him talking to you. He stuck with it for 4 years just like you did. That is a lot to invest so he does still care, he's got to.

 

The problem is just getting him to open up to you again. Try anything and everything if you really want him back. Just be willing to make a lot of concessions, like possibly moving back to PA.