rbull Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 I'm 18 years old and i been working at this small food service bussiness for a year and a half now. Well, acutally i worked there the first time a year ago for 3-4 months but then i had to leave b/c i wasnt getting the hours i needed and was offerd a better paying job. So, i left there (my boss was upset, he didnt talk to me for the rest of the day.. and even left with out saying bye) then the next day he acted like nothing happened, we were tlaking about the super bull that was like 4 months away.. we started to aruge bout whos gonna win.. then we made a bet.. saying if either of us won, whoever loses must buy them a full tank of gas (lol) then he said.. (since i wasnt goin to be wokring there at that time) "and dont think u can hide.. cause ill call u up and find you and get my free tank of gas!) The only prob. is he was 23 at that time.. We didnt talk for the whole 8 months i been gone... he never called to tell me the outcome of the football game. But, he was going threw a reallllyyy hard time with his family. There was a death. But... the job didnt that i was at didnt work for me... and i wrote him a letter asking for my job back. And he called me back letting me know that i could def. start wokring there he could use my help. So i started about 3 weeks ago.. only a few days b/c my 2 weeks notice is not over with my other job. And... I have only seen him like 2 times!! WHen i first seen him we tlaked alot and everything.. ( he is sooooooo sweet and intelligent i love tlakin with him) But, whenever he is on from a certain time, and im on also.. when i come in hes not there! Its like he just trying to avoide me! I believe he is 24. And im 18. I really like him... i've always thought about him and always do. I dont believe he has a g/f... which he bever spoke of. But, a co-woker says he dosnt and he thinks girls are heart breakers do to his ex-girl friend from 2 years ago (is it possiable hes not over her)? I get the vibe that he is into me... but then again he dosnt make any moves!!!!! Im starting to become really good friends with his friend that also works there. Im not sure if he is just being friendly, and im taking it the wronge way. I just need advice so i no the right thing to do. And i dont no how to act around him. I usally just act normal. I dont even think he has a clue that i like him. Im SOOOO confused! Can you please help me... anyone?! Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 NOT a good idea to date someone you work for....especially if they are in a position of authority. Since he doesn't seem into you, why not leave this person alone and pursue someone who is not only into you, but also not your boss? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 Well he probably won't make ANY move at all since he's your boss. My ex-husband was my boss and I made the first move after feeling a very strong vibe between us. I don't really recommend this but if you're dead set on it, you're going to have to make the first move and also be prepared to look for another job. Link to post Share on other sites
MsArtful Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 If you want to keep your job, don't start anything with him. I know some one who was manager of an entire centre, it was a secure and well paying position, but she blew it by having an affair with a guy further up than her. Your boss is probably into you, but is having respect for you because he is your employer. If you don't care too much about your job (if its only a part time thing while you study for instance), then maybe its worth it. Its your decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rbull Posted September 11, 2006 Author Share Posted September 11, 2006 First off, thanks guys for the suggestions!!! I no that it would be a huge risk in dating my Boss/manager. But he seems to be such a great guy. But, i like him alot. I dont even kno if he is into me. I have kno clue. Maybe i should just ignor it, and just do my job. I heard from a co-woker that he did date one of his employies before, but then she f**kd him over, so that didnt work. I just want to kno if he is into me.. I guess its just one of thoose little crushes which look likei better get over. DOnt you think? Its a sticky situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rbull Posted September 11, 2006 Author Share Posted September 11, 2006 If you want to keep your job, don't start anything with him. I know some one who was manager of an entire centre, it was a secure and well paying position, but she blew it by having an affair with a guy further up than her. Your boss is probably into you, but is having respect for you because he is your employer. If you don't care too much about your job (if its only a part time thing while you study for instance), then maybe its worth it. Its your decision. thanks hun... I just have no clue if he is into me. I would love to, but im not sure if its worth risking my job. I really dont no anything, and i have no clue how to find out. If he hasnt said or tried any thing so fare, maybe he never will. And i should just take it from there? Link to post Share on other sites
MsArtful Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Your welcome It sounds like he likes you, but as you yourself said before, dating an employee was a nasty experience for him. If you think its worth it, and your feelings are strong enough, as they say, seize the day!-- Ask him out somewhere, or for his phone number. Link to post Share on other sites
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