Is it okay for my bf to watch porn and never pay attention to me

[Dragonfly6854]

I recently had to fix my boyfriends computer, the one he never lets me get on, and while searching files, i found a hidden folder with TONS of porn. Checking the properties on it, I saw that it had all been downloaded within the last week. I approached him to talk about the situation, but the only way he could explain himself is that men have a need to spread their seed. Not saying that he wanted to cheat on me, but he needed to see other women's bodies.

 

He watches porn A LOT, and only has sex with me about once every two weeks, and then when i want to have sex every other day, he calls me a nympho. I don't know whether or not to be upset about the issue or not. I obviously am a little nerved over the matter. but i'm not sure what to think. It's like porn is better than me. Should I leave him if this upsets me so much?

[rainfall]

I feel this is one issue you guys have to agree on for your relationship to work. Either you will need to find a way to deal with his porn use or he will have to respect your feelings on the issue and stop looking at porn.

However if he is putting porn above you and not paying attention to you then he has a problem and needs to work on it somehow.

[JamesM]

I recently had to fix my boyfriends computer, the one he never lets me get on, and while searching files, i found a hidden folder with TONS of porn. Checking the properties on it, I saw that it had all been downloaded within the last week. I approached him to talk about the situation, but the only way he could explain himself is that men have a need to spread their seed. Not saying that he wanted to cheat on me, but he needed to see other women's bodies.

 

He watches porn A LOT, and only has sex with me about once every two weeks, and then when i want to have sex every other day, he calls me a nympho. I don't know whether or not to be upset about the issue or not. I obviously am a little nerved over the matter. but i'm not sure what to think. It's like porn is better than me. Should I leave him if this upsets me so much?

 

First off, he is cheating if you do not want him watching porn.

 

If he watches porn instead of having sex with you, then yes, this is a problem. I can understand if he does porn because he gets no sex...but not when he can have it.

 

And yes, if this upsets you, leave. Unless he sees the excessive use of porn as a problem, there will be no change...even if you decide on marriage.