Author princessa Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 Yup, same here. My man DEMANDS to know. Lol! Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 You know, I'm going to have to try this. My wife frequently leaves her scrapbooking stuff on the kitchen table (the light is good there, she likes to be near the family while working on it, etc.) I have to clear it off on occasion to make dinner (I often get home first, I like to cook, she doesn't) and that can be irratating. So tomorrow night, soon as she walks in the door, I going to bellow "pick up your ****ing scrapbooking stuff. Looking at it makes me want to vomit. If you don't pick it up, i'll throw it in the trash." I wonder how well that would work? LVspecB Lmao! I'd probably slap you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessa Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 So whatever the problem is, maybe you can find a way of refusing to tolerate it without specifically asking him to change...fine, be late, but miss out. Yeah that's true also. I was reading this article about how you should teach the people in your life to treat you. Basically positive and negative reinforcement. This guy used the example of how he trained dolphins and compared that to a relationship. Pretty interesting. http://www.therelationshipgym.com/newsletters/how-dolphin-training-can-improve-your-relationships.htm Link to post Share on other sites
Moai Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 I actually appreciate it when my girlfriend tells me things that will make her happier in our relationship. It is no big deal to adapt my behavior in this area. If it is something domestic, like picking up socks, I adapt to that, too. I am easy-going, I guess. But what I will not tolerate is her telling me who I can and can't hang out with (unless it is a woman with whom she is uncomfortable), what I listen to, or books I read, or my job. I had a girlfriend once who made a list of things that were "wrong" with me and as we were driving to a restaurant she showed it to me and began to read off the list. Eveything from the clothes I wore to where I drank--name it. When she finished I calmly pulled the car over, told her to get out, and never spoke to her again. Not for lack of her trying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessa Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 When she finished I calmly pulled the car over, told her to get out, and never spoke to her again. Not for lack of her trying. LOL!!! Thumbs up to that!! Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hmm, from what I have been told by my boyfriend is this... In his own words by the way... "I do not gawk or want to screw any girl that passes by me. I do notice people who are good looking but all I think is "They are pretty or cute." I do not compare anyone to you or think higher of them than I do you. All I think is 'she is good looking' and nothing more. I do not dwell on her or fantasize about her naked. I would never 'mentally' cheat on you and when I fantasize it's only about you and certain positions of sex." That's what he said to me.. Now I do not know if he is believable especially when he broke a boundary with me twice concerning porn... So yeah, I hope he is being truthful but at this stage in our relationship I do not trust him one bit. And he knows this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessa Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hmm, from what I have been told by my boyfriend is this... In his own words by the way... "I do not gawk or want to screw any girl that passes by me. I do notice people who are good looking but all I think is "They are pretty or cute." I do not compare anyone to you or think higher of them than I do you. All I think is 'she is good looking' and nothing more. I do not dwell on her or fantasize about her naked. I would never 'mentally' cheat on you and when I fantasize it's only about you and certain positions of sex." That's what he said to me.. Now I do not know if he is believable especially when he broke a boundary with me twice concerning porn... So yeah, I hope he is being truthful but at this stage in our relationship I do not trust him one bit. And he knows this. Not to be rude or anything but... are you in the wrong thread? Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Oh wow yes! *embarassed* haha! I got up for a second, and had a thought then posted it on the wrong forum. :x *hides in the corner* Look over there -> *runs* Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessa Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hahahaha Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Ok so for this topic my response is.. lol.. Umm my boyfriend complains about things I do way way way more often than I do. And it is annoying as hell. Like little bs. Nothing major but like "stop doing this" "this annoys me about you" "you make too much noise cleaning" "do this like this" and I blow up sometimes when he does it. I told him to knock it the **** off and he's almost stopped, which is surprising. I have complained about things about him but stuff like... He brushes me off a lot, like if I go to hug him or something. And I complained I was sick of it. Yesterday we leaned in to kiss and after we kissed he wiped his mouth off. He has done this 3 times, that I have noticed. And I got pissed and asked him why he's doing that. He said because you slobbered on me. I said I just took a drink of my tea right before I kissed you. Of course my lips will be wet. And I told him that was rude and disrespectful of him to do that, and I told him the first time I noticed he did that but that didn't stop him. We shall see if he stops now. But yea I don't expect him to become someone different but I do think it hurts the male ego to say this and that is wrong with you just like how women feel hurt when told the same thing. We have had convos where I said I wish this was different about us, and he does get upset about it. I guess he just likes the whole 'leave me alone and I will touch you when I want attention' sort of relationship. I don't get that as seeing I know he wants me to be happy too. Link to post Share on other sites
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