need input more then anything right now

[fjk82]

Such a long story I dont even know where to begin..I was with him for 4years we had moved down to Florida together from PA 2 yrs ago..We were doing great but last November his father asked him if we could both move back for him to take over the family business..I didn't want to go at all but it was such an amazing oppturnity he had to take it..I stayed in FL for almost 5months with him BEGGING me to hurry and get back to PA. We never broke up at that point we were still together but for some reason i couldn't bring myself to go back there i hated it there..

 

well i finally went in march..i only stayed for a month..i went up there with a negative outlook and i couldnt snap myself out of it..i decided on a wim to move back to FL and to leave him. i was not sure of myself 100% but i did it..there was no goodbye..i got my stuff and left..it was the biggest mistake ive made in my entire life..i had the best man that loved me more then anything in this world and i blew it. i made a mistake i am human..well he does not talk to me right now this happend easter weekend and then in june his mother died...he wont speak to me wont answer my calls etc.

 

he sometimes emails me but it never says much at allll..he is very aware that i want to get back together but when it first happend he said that is not what he wants..he had told me before i left that if i left there was no getting back together..i should have known better i just tho9ught if u love someone so so much like i know he did how can u not try again...well im going up to PA n 3 weeks to visit family and i want to drive the 3 hours to his house and see him and talk..i mentioned to him that i was going to be there the end of sept thru a voice mail and email and he wrote me back the next day and said NOTHING about my visit..

 

i had said ill be waiting for him on the side of the road hoping and praying he will stop and talk to me..so i believe if he didnt want me there he would have said dont come but instead it was not brought up at all..please help me u guys..we had a great 4yrs..im human..people make mistakes..if this man loved me so so much how can he not talk to me at all..how can he not want to give it one more try..i know i broke his heart..i hurt him so bad..but all i want to do is fix that..i can not be without him..i cant...please help me i really need the advice...this man really did love me more then anything..he did everything to keep us together and im the one that broke it off..people make mistakes..please help me u guys..im goin there in 2 weeks and i dont know what to do..by him not answering my calls or ever calling me does that really mean its over and he wants nothing to do with me? he emails me sometimes but i just dont get it..i really think if he did NOT want to see me he would have said in the email reply back for me not to go ..but he didn't..he said nothing about it at all..

[Free_To_fly]

Sounds like you really hurt him, honestly I don't blame him for being angry, leaving without telling him is pretty low. He probably feels like he can't trust you. And no one can be happy in a relationship where there is no trust. However, you are human and people make mistakes. The fact that he occasionally emails says that you are atleast still on his mind. I would go and see him. If he doesn't show up or rejects you than you will just have to let him go at the point. Maybe he is waiting to see if you love him enough to put some effort into it. But, keep in mind that with some people no matter how much they may love you, when you hurt them bad they will not give you another chance to do the same thing. Regardless of how sorry you are. Best of luck I hope things work out for you.

[swirly27]

I agree, you are human and people make mistakes, but you've probably, no definitely, shattered the trust and foundation you guys had built. He does still email sometimes, which actually shows alot.....I think if he is worth it to you, you need to really work at it. Don't stalk him, but I would just show up at his place if I were you, definitely need to put in the extra effort....but you can't force him to do anything either. If he tells you he needs space or needs to think or whatever he needs, you will need to respect that.....but if its worth it that much to you to win him back, you're gonna have to really really try and prove you're not going to flee again.

[daphne]

i just tho9ught if u love someone so so much like i know he did how can u not try again.

 

How about if you love someone so so much how can you leave them without a word? I'm sorry that you're grieving but you are responsible for your own unhappiness right now and I hope that you've learned better how to handle relationships. I know it's unkind to kick someone when they're down but I imagine that your ex has experienced a much harsher pain by you leaving like you did than you are now that you can't take him for granted anymore.

[ANUEME]

he's probably hurting...from his loss(his mother) and stressed...from his gain(his business). The only thing you can do is make yourself available. You already know what you did wrong (don't dwell on it). Just try to be as understanding as possible and try to assure him as much as possible that you care and that you are here for him. Just dont push him. Good Luck:laugh: