DarkShadows Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Say you or your significant other is walking down the street and every other sex person they see they look them in the eye... Would this be a sign of mentally cheating? Like would they or you be thinking or he/she's sexy and if the other person looks you in the eyes and then away would you feel rejected even if you are already taken? My boyfriend asked me this. He said *On my way to work whenever I look a girl in the eyes they look at me then look away, why?* And my thought is, why the hell are you looking them in the eyes to begin with. That's in a way flirtacious. I didn't say any of this, just wanted to know peoples opinions. P.S. I know people will say wow you're crazy or whatnot.. yea I have very little trust in him at this stage. But that isn't the topic here, so please don't bash me. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 *On my way to work whenever I look a girl in the eyes they look at me then look away, why?* Tell him it's potentially threatening and aggressive to women when strange men on the street look them in the eye. Tell him we're taught to avoid eye contact on the street with men because any of them could be a potential predator. We're not like men - we have fears of physical attack and rape. It's not unlike the reason men don't look each other in the eye on the street for no reason. It's an aggressive move for men to do that with each other. As to the rest of your questions...I won't really reply since I wouldn't immediately jump to the fliration/trust issues. If my guy asked me that question about eye contact with strangers, I would assume he were interested in male/female dynamics, which is what my reply is geared toward. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Does he also look men in the eyes? If so, he could just have a curious nature. Like Norajane said, though, it is not a very (socially) smart thing. Also...is it casual looking, or more like staring? In the second case, it's generally a pretty inappropriate thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Tell him it's potentially threatening and aggressive to women when strange men on the street look them in the eye. Tell him we're taught to avoid eye contact on the street with men because any of them could be a potential predator. We're not like men - we have fears of physical attack and rape. It's not unlike the reason men don't look each other in the eye on the street for no reason. It's an aggressive move for men to do that with each other. WTF are you talking about?!? Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 To try to make eye contact with strangers is odd and uncomfortable. Women look away because it's creepy. It doesn't matter if it's guys, girls, dogs, whatever. If there's no reason to make eye contact and he does, he's coming across as a creep, and if he's doing it to strange women they probably think he's some sort of serial killer. They look away because they don't want to end up chopped in pieces in his freezer. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 WTF are you talking about?!? She meant average guys. Alphamales are out of the equation! Beta-, gamma- and lower-rank males are not supposed to look at you in the eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 wow this is such an interesting question...i do that sometimes. and it's totally curiousity, not sexual desire, but it's like something about the person - their walk, manner, dress, shoes, hair, or even just whatever's going through my own head at the time - catches my attention and i have to look at them. in the eyes. i don't know why. but sometimes it's totally awkward. :laugh: and sometimes i really wish i hadn't looked up at them, because i can see how it can be misconstrued. in fact, sometimes you can almost "feel" it being misconstrued. but yeah...i like looking at peoples' eyes. it's just so honest. you feel like you're boring into them and you feel like you've been "seen". it's a very attractive feeling, not about sexuality but about existence in general. you've been "recognized". okay, i may be getting too metaphysical with this. anyway. the main reason i avoid eye contact on the street is because i know it makes people uncomfortable, and i'm really not interested in doing that on purpose. but sometimes it just happens by accident. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 She meant average guys. Alphamales are out of the equation! Beta-, gamma- and lower-rank males are not supposed to look at you in the eyes. :lmao: Exactly, Alpha. You wouldn't know anything about it!! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 She meant average guys. Alphamales are out of the equation! Beta-, gamma- and lower-rank males are not supposed to look at you in the eyes. I always get and give eye contact to broads. I'm just used to it. Sometimes they even give me a big smile which brightens my day. Must be cause i'm good looking... Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 IMO I think its human nature to make eye contact with all people. However, if he is looking at girls in the eyes and holding that stare, then yeah that might be creepy or even stalkerish, in a way. But to just glance up at someone in passing, is different. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I always get and give eye contact to broads. I'm just used to it. Sometimes they even give me a big smile which brightens my day. Must be cause i'm good looking... Or because you look threatening. If a big hairy thing that looks unstable and potentially dangerous smiles at you, you'd better look as less aggressive as possible. j/k. I'm pretty sure you are quite handsome. You brag way too much for an average looking guy playing the masculine player role. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck234 Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Ugh, my bf does this ALL the time... I guess it's because he does have a pretty curious nature, but I hate it. Whenever we drive past a few girls he will drive past and keep turning around to look at them..... . I always tell him I don't like it and I wish he wouldn't do it in front of me, but it never stops....it must be just habit or something.... I know this is a little different to what the OP posted, but I just though I'd share that...lol Yes, as norajane stated, tell him it is quite an agressive gesture to women. I know when a guy has a hard stare at me, I look away. It's normal. I'm not the type to gaze back or whatever. I hate people who stare anyway, whether it's my bf or a random person on the street.... Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 What on earth is wrong with looking at the opposite sex in the eye??? And no, not all guys who make eye contact with random girls are serial killers, what the heck is wrong with you peeps??? He can just do b/c he likes it, naturally, geez. So ok I'm in a relation also and what if I was making eye contact with other dudes, then what would that make me, a freak????? Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 mentally cheating by looking into opp sex eyes ... you have to be kidding me ... i thought relationships have better things to be worried about than this BS Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 I always get and give eye contact to broads. I'm just used to it. Sometimes they even give me a big smile which brightens my day. Must be cause i'm good looking... And if you look anywhere but their eyes they think you're a perv or something... (Besides, eyes are beautiful!) Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Now if you are going to work with primates (nonhumans) do not look directly into their eyes..... they will beat the hell outta ya for doing so. :lmao: When speaking to a person unless they are focused on something else they should look you in the face. If just in public and you see someone looking at your face IMHO most people will look back. Hell I do.... maybe they were looking at him first???? I also live in a place where we have this unspoken thing that happens.... if you are driving down the road you look at the other driver in the face and do the steering wheel wave (keep hand on wheel and raise fingers)..... this is a given here (mainly those of us that drive passenger trucks)..... (don't ask me ... I just adapted to it) I certainly am not flirting with Farmer Brown...... He may very well feel this way..... ask him. It is a respectful type of greeting?? Like the head nod when passing a stranger on the street? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Now if you are going to work with primates (nonhumans) do not look directly into their eyes..... they will beat the hell outta ya for doing so. :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Now if you are going to work with primates (nonhumans) do not look directly into their eyes..... they will beat the hell outta ya for doing so. :lmao: :lmao: Hey not funny.......you don't know the kinda people I have to work with!!! :lmao: :lmao: poo flingers! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hey not funny.......you don't know the kinda people I have to work with!!! :lmao: :lmao: poo flingers! Oh but it is funny! Well, the way you described it is. I can imagine though. I have seen those suckers fling poo. And what imitators they are too. Some guy at the zoo once shot a monkey the middle finger, the monkey did it back. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Oh but it is funny! Well, the way you described it is. I can imagine though. I have seen those suckers fling poo. And what imitators they are too. Some guy at the zoo once shot a monkey the middle finger, the monkey did it back. See so maybe the OP has a mate who is just looking back after being looked at? It can also show your dominance with other humans..... it does work on some people....or just a habit, or taught to look another in the eye out of respect or acknowledgment. Link to post Share on other sites
SoCalCatman72 Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Now if you are going to work with primates (nonhumans) do not look directly into their eyes..... they will beat the hell outta ya for doing so. :lmao: Even better try smiling at them (showing all of your teeth), I can assure you that they will not take it as a friendly gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 DarkShadows, I do see you have boyfriend. So... just drop it. It is simple eye contact. You can't control someone's insignificant twitches. This, truely, reveals your inner insecurity. It is very evident, and can be a turn off to your boyfriend. I suggest you have fun with the contact. Turn it into a game. Don't take it too seriously. You'll drown if you do. Build up a backbone, and accept that he is with you. He is not going anywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadows Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 Yea he isn't going anywhere... Yet he's cheated twice, and I just found he cheated on me 2 weeks ago. Call it insecurities or jealousy. I call it a trust issue... Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Yea he isn't going anywhere... Yet he's cheated twice, and I just found he cheated on me 2 weeks ago. Call it insecurities or jealousy. I call it a trust issue... May I ask why you are still in a R with him? cheated 2x is not a person with good character IMHO. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Would you women be happier if guys stared into your boobies instead of your eyes then? So now eye contact is a no-no... got it. Link to post Share on other sites
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