fjk82 Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I had emailed a good friend of his asking for his opintion on me driving to see him while i was there in 2 weeks....he wrote me back and said even though it hurts i think you need to let him move on with his life right now and you need to move on with yours too. it will hurt for awhile but if its ment to be it will be u can't force it.. what do i do now?????????? im in tears..........should i not go see him while im there or what do i do?????? people make mistakes..why can't i get another chance..why.........my life is over.........what do i do....... Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hi fjk82, first of all to get faster replies, there is no need to create a new thread. Just re-post under your original post so people can find out your original story, and what comments have been brought on before. I m sorry to say from your original post, I don`t think you are going to get a second chance. Not right NOW, or anytime soon. I think you have to reconsider your future. I believe your ex thinks of you, as his actions show this by still emailing you. I`d continue that, and reply to him, but that doesn`t neccessary mean that it will bring him back. i decided on a wim to move back to FL and to leave him. i was not sure of myself 100% but i did it..there was no goodbye. The fact of the matter is that you up, and left without a word of what problems there were. Now if that happened to me then that in itself would be such a shock. Can you imagine how someone would feel if you just disappeared one day? The first thought would be what had I done? What went wrong? why? Shockingly enough it has to take a friend to tell you this that he needs to be left alone. Its happened to me. I used to text my ex quite a bit, until her friend told me off. I really think you should communicate to him what he wants right now. If its space, then let him have it. There`s no point forcing yourself upon him, after you left. What you need to do is to talk about why you left. Some people don`t get a second chance, because the first time you left him was such a blow to him. He doesnt want that to happen to him again. Let him be for now, and get on with your life. Its no point beating yourself up over your initial reaction by going on a wim. Live with it for now, and give it a few weeks for you to reconsider how to communicate to him that it was a mistake, and you want a second chance. Like I saw in my other posts. Time changes people. Link to post Share on other sites
reb Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Why don't you ask him in an email if he would like to meet for lunch some time while you are there, only ask once if he doesn't reply then leave it be and move on, at least then you can move on knowing that you tried. Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 Hi Reb, Why don't you ask him in an email if he would like to meet for lunch some time while you are there, only ask once if he doesn't reply then leave it be and move on, at least then you can move on knowing that you tried. I don`t think you quite got the grasp of fjk82`s original post. She`s already been told to stay away politely! he wrote me back and said even though it hurts i think you need to let him move on with his life right now and you need to move on with yours too. "you need to move on", is the biggest hint!! So I don`t think asking going out to lunch is going to change anything! If you want a second chance, please read my post - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t98283/ Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 So I see you have posted yet another new thread! Like I said, there is no need to start a new thread. It makes your updates hard to follow. I`m already finding your updates confusing. All you have to do is just re-post on the ORIGINAL thread. No need for a new thread. Anyway, like I said before. His friend has already told you to move on. Getting all desparate now isn`t going to help things. Its just going to push him away further. Take your time over things. If he doesnt want to see you in the next week, or so. Its not the end of the world. He`s still going to be there. He knows where you are, and if he wants to get back with you then he`ll contact you. Trust me, I ve been here before. All this contacting, and harrassing can be stressful for your ex too. Remember you left him, and it will take more than just bombarding him with your attention to get him back. It will take time to build up the trust, and love you had before. He`s still hurting about whats happened. Remember his friend has politely pointed out for you to "move on". If that`s not the biggest hint to leave him alone for now, then then I don`t think you`ll ever know. Give him space, or you will lose him for good. Link to post Share on other sites
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