What do you think? I'll find out Friday

[fishtaco]

Hahaha! Sure, you stick to your machismo-ness. Chicks love it when guys stand around with drinks in their hands looking tough. More power to you if it works.

[stoopid_guy]

You guys need to watch the "Village People" doing "Macho-Macho Man."

 

Now, THAT's macho!

[mental_traveller]

I agree with the other posters that you are being too wishy washy.

 

Ok, damage has been done, ask yourself just how hot is this piece of ass? If you *really* want to have her, then the only thing to do is find out where she works/lives (preferably work, to appear less of a stalker), then go there, then call her up at a convenient time and tell her you are outside, and she'd better meet you at place X NOW, no excuses. If she stalls then just force the issue, tell her you *know* that she wants to do it, then hang up. If she is even remotely interested in you, she will meet you. Then take it from there, and kick this other moping loser into the turf, she'll forget him in a few hours if you play your cards right.

 

If she just isn't into you, then she'll flake out, even with the direct approach. But at least this way you get to *know* how she feels. Acting wishy washy, she might want to bone you every which way but you'll never find out because you are being too indecisive.

[mental_traveller]

That's a good point.

 

I was mostly asking for "did I do the right thing" or "what's the etiquette" as opposed to "Help! I want her! what do I do?!". I have had my share of successes and failures in the past (heh, more failures than successes I can tell you), enough to know that for me, as some one that lacks the game, I have to go with the quantity method. So I'm trying to get as many dates with as many women as possible (in fact I met someone last night that I plan on hitting up in the near future). But with every failure I'd like to know what went wrong so I can get better next time. I think LS is the best thing next to actually having someone there to coach me through it all.

 

With her I already don't expect much, like you said, the fact that she handed out her number to someone else is a bad sign. Plus there are things about her that makes her not a very good choice for a girlfriend anyway (for me, I'm sure she's a great catch for some other people). I'm just going to go have fun tonight, and try to evaluate my performance afterwards; see what I did right and what I did wrong.

 

 

Good attitude. Just treat it like a game, and don't be afraid to play a little or be bolder then you would in "real life" - either she doesn't respond, in which case you learn something; or she does, in which case you learn even more.

 

All of us guys start out chumps on the dating scene, slowly we learn to avoid the stupid mistakes, and maybe pick up a few good ideas here and there from experience. Just keep plugging, have fun, and take notes - before you know it you will be getting more action that you thought possible.