Weird - I wanted to leave at one point now that I want to stay I feel insecure

[luvstarved]

OK my husband and I have been having our problems and I was starting to trot out the D word. I felt really fed up and ready to go and had enough and all of that. Even daydreamed about it occasionally. Then, we started working things out and talking and really communicating well, and it's like...well it feels like FALLING IN LOVE all over again to me. And right along with it, I am feeling insecure, a little jealous, can't believe he wants ME thoughts, etc which I hadn't felt toward him in YEARS. I thought I had outgrown that crap but I guess not.

 

Has anyone else had this weird sensation of giddy blush of new love with someone they've been living with for 10+ years? Just kind of an unanticipated twist for me. I'm dealing with it, but it's strange...and wonderful too.

[beriwhit123]

My boyfriend and I lived together 13 years, 5 months ago he had a affair. I made him choose between her or me, he picked her. After being gone 5 months he came back sorry and said he loved me. Said he made the biggest mistake of his life, and wanted us to move to Florida because he was retiring. I packed my house, quit my job, we had those feelings of the love we once had. He went to Florida for a week to get the house ready.

 

He came back to get me and he had changed his mind again. That feeling was gone as fast as it came back. He left for Florida without me. I miss him, but I need to have that feeling of love we had. Take your time, that feeling of falling in love needs to be there. If you are unsure, try to get him to go to counseling with you. I wish I had as soon as he moved back in with me. Good Luck