sugarcane05 Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 My boyfriend and I of year and a half broke up about three months ago. At first we tried to hang out but we started growing apart seeing it was too hard on both of us. After about a month we started talking a little more and seeing each other a little more frequently. It was still very hard on me but I started getting used to being just his friend. It went on like this for a while seeing each other once every couple of weeks. Then about three weeks ago we started going to movies every week, then dinner and a movie. He started coming to my house every sunday to hang out after work and about 2 weeks ago I confronted him and asked him what he was doing. He said he didn't wanna date right now because he hadn't gotten the opportunity to grow. Now just this week he's gotten very close to me. He calls me very regularly... (we're talking like 4 or 5 times) daily. And now that I"m not mentioning getting back together he is getting closer to me. What could this guy be doing? Also the day we broke up he told me that if we did go back out he would want to start all over w/ just the memories but a clean slate. First try being friends and if that worked out try going out on dates and if that worked eventually go back out. I don't know if that's an important detail or not. The other night we were discussing how we tried "breaks" several times to get used to spending sometime apart because we had been fighting so much. And we talked about how the "breaks" never worked and that in order to do that we would need to break up. And he was like "see i told you i knew what i was talking about" It's not hurting me to hang out with him... so I don't want to hear get away from him because it's not putting me in any kind of emotional pain. I love spending time with him. I just want to understand what intentions this guy may have towards me? Oh also important detail.. Last friday we ended up having sex. Not because of him completly it was just as much my intentions as his. We've hung out since then and he hasn't initiated anything. The sex thing hasn't hurt me emotionally at all either. He has really toughened my skin up over the course of this whole break up. I didn't know my own strength Link to post Share on other sites
Author sugarcane05 Posted September 15, 2006 Author Share Posted September 15, 2006 no help?/??????? Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 Hi sugarcane. To be honest, I think you are stuck in the semi friends, friends with benefits, and the ex girlfriend zone. I think you should stop with the sex right now. If you aren`t boyfriend, and girlfriend then sex should happen as you are just - well - friends! I think no one is replying to your thread because we don`t really know what your ex is wanting. We can`t give an opinion because we don`t know him. You need to COMMUNICATE to him what he wants, and what you want. If you are just friends then keep it as that. Friends don`t see each other that often. My best friend, and I sometimes don`t see each other for 1 or 2 weeks. Your ex is basically having his cake, and eating it. He`s also using you for sex when he feels like it. Cut the ties now, and tell him that if he just wants to be friends then he should stop coming over frequently. Only if you are dating, and if he is treating you like a girlfriend, taking you out, and other romatic things then making love can take place. Don`t give in to him, because think about it this way. Wjile he`s hanging around, and tagging around with you. How are you going to meet someone who WILL treat you right!? Link to post Share on other sites
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