BatteredByLove Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 My ex and I broke up for about 6 months now, we dated for a bit over a year... she's currently dating someone, but we talk sometimes and she told me "I would be upset if you dated someone else because I'm so used to having you here"... does that mean anything??? I mean I want to move on... but then again I don't... she was and still is my first love. -BBL Link to post Share on other sites
garnet Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 It means she is selfish and wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to have you ready and waiting in case she things don't work out with the other guy and she decides she wants you back. This is very disrespectful. You need to take a stand and move on with your life. If she thinks you'll always be there waiting she'll never respect you. But you need to respect yourself more and not be someone's "second choice". I know it's hard because the exact same thing happened to me. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BatteredByLove Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 I think I'm going to tell her Friday(since we go to the same school together, we see each other everyday), that she needs to get her feelings straight, that I'm giving her a month of not contacting her, not saying hi to her in the halls, not looking her in the eye, as if she doestn exist, so that she can think about what she wants and I won't have to be a fool in love, because from conversations before with her, it's as if she's stringing me along. I care for this girl with all my heart and soul, and all my friends tell me to forget her, and I've tried, but I can't. But you're right garnet, if I don't take a stand for myself, she'll never respect me, I'm making my stand this Friday. It's nice to talk to someone that's gone down the same path , thanks Garnet. -BBL Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 I think I'm going to tell her Friday(since we go to the same school together, we see each other everyday), that she needs to get her feelings straight, that I'm giving her a month of not contacting her, not saying hi to her in the halls, not looking her in the eye, as if she doestn exist, so that she can think about what she wants and I won't have to be a fool in love, because from conversations before with her, it's as if she's stringing me along. I care for this girl with all my heart and soul, and all my friends tell me to forget her, and I've tried, but I can't. But you're right garnet, if I don't take a stand for myself, she'll never respect me, I'm making my stand this Friday. It's nice to talk to someone that's gone down the same path , thanks Garnet. -BBL You don't announce no contact you just do it. Leave her wondering. She wants to have her cake and eat it to by contacting you and keeping you on a string. If you are happy being her chump, go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 God, this sounds sooooo vaguely familiar! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 She's selfish, self-centered. As soon as you start dating one or more other women ~ she'll be all over you like a pack of dogs on a three legged cat! If you take her back~ you're a fool. If you marry her ~ your a bigger fool! You'll spend a lifetime trying to please that which can't be pleased, satisfy that which can't be satisfied, pacify that which can't be pacified. She'll aleinate your friends and family until you don't have any ~ and if you're smart when your down to your last one, you'll beg him to drive by and shoot you or run over you as your miserable ass cuts the grass to the sound of her never-ending bitching, moaning, groaning, and nagging. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BatteredByLove Posted September 15, 2006 Author Share Posted September 15, 2006 Well, I WAS going to tell her today, but after reading your posts guys... inspiring, she is self-centered and still needs a lot of growing up to do, that's why we broke up, we were both pretty immature. I had hoped the summer break would let us take a step back and realize what had happened, but she, she dated another guy. Now, I know religions isn't a big thing for a lot of people, it's not for me either, but devoted, overzealous christian guy and a hindu girl? It might just be my mind praying for it not to work lol. Thanks for your words guys, it's helped me a lot. -BBL Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 She's selfish, self-centered. As soon as you start dating one or more other women ~ she'll be all over you like a pack of dogs on a three legged cat! If you take her back~ you're a fool. If you marry her ~ your a bigger fool! You'll spend a lifetime trying to please that which can't be pleased, satisfy that which can't be satisfied, pacify that which can't be pacified. She'll aleinate your friends and family until you don't have any ~ and if you're smart when your down to your last one, you'll beg him to drive by and shoot you or run over you as your miserable ass cuts the grass to the sound of her never-ending bitching, moaning, groaning, and nagging. Hmmm let's see! She alienated me from my family She alientated me from my friends She relied on me to do everything around the house I gave gave gave, but did not receive She decides to hand me my hat...... Boy what a pushover I was....Never again! Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 Hmmm let's see! She alienated me from my family She alientated me from my friends She relied on me to do everything around the house I gave gave gave, but did not receive She decides to hand me my hat...... Boy what a pushover I was....Never again! Of course, it was my damn fault for allowing someone to manipulate me like this. Lesson learned. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BatteredByLove Posted September 16, 2006 Author Share Posted September 16, 2006 Ahhh, that's what I am too Rooster_DAR, a pushover. However, I am trying to change my ways . -BBL Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 If you are secure with who you are (in this case we are men, last time I checked anyway), there is no need to put up with any woman's s**t, no matter how much they dish out. Same goes the other way around as well. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 My ex and I broke up for about 6 months now, we dated for a bit over a year... she's currently dating someone, but we talk sometimes why are you staying in contact with an ex-lover? that's idiotic. Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 why are you staying in contact with an ex-lover? that's idiotic. Agreed... kick her to the curb and find a new love.. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 First try to have sex with her one more time, and then kick her to the curb. I did it and it made me feel alot better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BatteredByLove Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 You guys are right, kick her to the curb, hehe Rooster, I would have sex with her... But I can't lol. -BBL Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 she told me "I would be upset if you dated someone else because I'm so used to having you here"... does that mean anything??? It means absolutely nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
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