I am getting more and more jealous

[ShoeGirl]

My boyfriend has many friends that are girls, in fact he lives with his two best friends from high school and one is married, so her husband also lives there, the other and her boyfriend live in the basement. I have absloutly no jealousy toward either of these girls or the others I have met that he went to high school with. The girls I have a problem with are the ones he works with. There are two that I was friends with when I worked at the same place more than 2 years ago, and now that I have moved away (300 miles to go to school) they are constantly getting mad at me for wanting to talk to my boyfriend when they want him to hang out with them, it is like a contest of who can get his attention longer. There are also 3 or 4 other girls who are all still in high school (he is 22), who also work at the same place that write him somewhat sexual messages on myspace all the time, I have had his password with his knowledge for 4 months or so, he told me I can check it whenever I want to (we had some trust issues that lead to him willingly giving me access to his email, myspace, messenger, etc, so that I could see what he talked about with different people)... from what I can see he does not respond to their messages very often and when he does there is no sexual connotation to them at all, and yet they all continue to send him messages at least once a week, sometimes more.

 

Am I being jealous for no reason or do I have some right not to like the fact that these girls are constantly messaging him, and that the other two that used to be my friends, get mad at me when I want to talk to him or when I ask for one Saturday that he doesn't go hang out with them.

[whichwayisup]

You can't control what they do/say to him...And it seems he isn't falling for it and has no intention of letting those women 'get' to him. He loves you and has given you access to his email/IM/myspace etc., so try not to worry.

 

Tell your friends, that are his friends that you two want some alone time. Plain and simple, and if they don't like it, it's their problem!!

[megnog]

he is being a good boyfriend and while theres no reason to worry about him, i would be worrying, as you are, about those girls. if its not wanted he should tell them directly, hes not interested. he has a girlfriend. he doesn't like that they send these sexual messages to him. maybe at some point you could suggest him say that to these girls in a non-pushy manner. he seems willing to please you and make sure you don't feel threatened so i'm sure he'd be happy to do that.

 

other than that, those girls aren't your friends. they are mean. i'm sure they've been in relationships before at SOME POINT in their lives and can understand from your point of view. tell them (if you can) flat out that hes YOUR boyfriend and you should be the one girl that is getting the most attention from him. they need to understand that .. good luck

[ShoeGirl]

I have told them that I want some time with him, well the two that I was friends with... their reaction was "it's my turn now, he's hanging out with me and I'm more important!" I just started yelling at her... mind you this was over the phone and they were a little tipsy.

 

My bf and I got in a huge fight over this situation tonight. They wanted him to go to a bar and hang out (same thing that always happens), he instant messaged me (because we don't have a lot of minutes on our cell's so we IM until free minutes start) to ask what I thought. I said "no I want to talk tonight". He defended them saying that one of the two is going through a break up and wants moral support (she has been on again off again with the same guy for 3 years or more... it's always the same story!!!) I still told him no (mostly because we haven't had a lot of time to talk in the last few days)... She has sucessfully made him feel guilty for talking to his girlfriend. How can I compete with this living 300 miles away?? He says he loves me that he wants to talk to me but that she need some friends to talk to. Why?