Moai Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 I hate my girlfriend's new haircut. It makes her look like her mother--who is an awesome person but I am not attracted to at all, as you can imagine. See, my girlfriend has thick, sorta wavy dirty blonde hair. Her mom has flat brown hair that is kind of thin. The new haircut thinned out her hair a lot, so it hangs down more and makes her face look a little fatter. Luckily, my girlfriend wears pigtails or a ponytail a lot, so I can ignore it most of the time. She also wears bangs, and the new cut took almost all of the bangs away, and they don't look even. They sort of peak up in the middle, so my girlfriend's forehead looks way bigger than it is--another thing that makes her look like her mom. Here's the thing: the woman who cuts her hair is a close friend of hers, and I don't think is that good of a hairstylist. She just got her license, sure, but I don't see much talent there. Moreover, I don't think that she is that good of a friend, as she is very judgemental of my girlfriend (and has no reason to be--my GF is TWICE the woman she'll ever be), and sometimes says mean things, either out of lack of tact or just plain jealousy. My girlfriend knows that while I don't hate her friend, I am not a big fan, either--mainly because she is a hypocrite and mean to the woman I care about sometimes. She is a new-agey hippy chick (the worst). Once she had a dream that she and my girlfriend got into a fight, so she kept picking at my girlfriend until they got into an argument. She is all into everyone doing their own thing, as long as it is what she would do or you think like she does. But I digress. I want to tell my girlfriend how lame her hair looks when she lets her friend cut it, but I don't want it to be part of my issues with her friend. Also, next month there is a party thrown by a club I am in that is semi-formal. My girlfriend is really exxcited about going and getting all dressed up, and mentioned that she'll have her friend do her hair especially nice for the occaision. I am filled with dread. My girlfriend is very, very pretty--I am not just saying that because I love her, everyone thinks so--and she could look so awesome, but her friend will screw her hair up. I can feel it. I dread what will happen. Beyond that, another friend of ours cuts my hair, and I get compliments on my haircut constantly. She cuts my sister's hair now, too, and she looks fantastic. Before my sister got married she made it a point to see my stylist to make sure she looked her best. I want my girlfriend to go to her, but she feels loyalty to her hippy friend. I have no idea how to bring it up without making her feel bad about her hair now, nor do I want to get into a thing about their relationship. Help! I just want my girlfriend to look her best all the time, and especially at this event!
typical Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 and sometimes says mean things, either out of lack of tact or just plain jealousy. of course you must know the the "plain jealousy" part of her took itself out on your poor girlfriends luxurious locks. I have an idea.... how about the next time you take yourself to the friend that cuts your hair, bring your girlfriend along. Have your friend mention how horrid your girlfriends haircut is to your girlfriend....I am not talking about out and out insult here, but something subtle like "wow, what happened to your hair, who cut your hair, the reason I ask is because it is all uneven, misshapen, not a good fit, etc....... Perhaps a proffesional opinion will work wonders and address the issue who she should go to next time she wants to look good. You could also have your sister tell her....in the same method.
blind_otter Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 You could just say, I tell you this because I love you --- you need to stop letting xxxx cut your hair.
reneet Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 My goodness, it's hair. It'll grow back. Come on now!!
norajane Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 You can get her a gift certificate to a nice hair salon, and ask them to put an appointment date on it for the day of the event... But I like blind_otter's suggestion best.
agnf666 Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Yeah I would go with Blind Otter on this one. Then she will get a point, hopefully she won't get nasty.
Author Moai Posted September 14, 2006 Author Posted September 14, 2006 Well, the woman who cuts my hair is also friends with the woman who cuts my girlfriend's hair. So while her opinion would be a professional one, I think that it would still be awkward. My sister going to the woman I go to now hurt my girlfriend's stylists' feelings. And, I know it is just hair and it will grow back. I haven't said anything up until now because I really don't care if my girlfriend decides to shave all her hair off. It's her hair. But she is getting very excited about this event--moreso than I expected--and she really wants to make a good impression. The club I am in is men-only, and this is the only event we have that includes the wives/girlfriends. She will be meeting a lot of guys I tell her anecdotes about for the first time, as well as many of their significant others. And she says she wants me to be proud of her (which I am) and wants me to be able to "show her off". All of which is totally great and makes me care about my girlfriend even more (duh). Everyone there will love my girlfriend no matter what because she rules and is totally likeable, but this is important to her and I want to help her look her best if I can, that's all. Without causing a big thing between her and her friend, or her friend and me.
amerikajin Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Yeah, you definitely have a right to speak your mind on this one. Hair's a big deal for me...I think it has a lot to do with female attractiveness.
HeyYouGuys Posted September 15, 2006 Posted September 15, 2006 Don't tell her you hate her haircut. Tell her things like, "I LOVED when you wore your hair this way...." and describe how GREAT she looked when her hair was a certain style. Tell her her present haircut is OK, but you think style B would look 'totally smoking' on her. Show her pictures of models in magazines and say, "See the shape of her face? It reminds me of yours. That hair style she has would look so awesome on you!" Flattery can work wonders!
Author Moai Posted September 15, 2006 Author Posted September 15, 2006 Great idea about the flattery thing! The problem is that when her friend tries to do it she'll ruin it. I am considering just asking her as a favor to go and see my stylist the day of the event, since it just so happens that my appointment is that day (it's regularly scheduled--happy accident!). I know my girlfriend won't freak out on me at all, but her friend might freak out. Oh well, she'll get over it.
Pink Amulet Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 A few of my friends told me they hated my hair short, and I told them to shove it It has nothing to do with you. If she loves it, leave her alone.
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