Jealousy???

[unsafe]

My boyfriend and I are happy. We've come to a place where we choose each other and let the other things roll off us.

 

I say this because my boyfriends brother's fiance has some issues. She was friends with my man and I think had feelings for him she shouldn't have. And now that he is with me she has become jealous, rude, down right miserable to be around. My boyfriend's brother and his fiance are really his only friends. I think he had a problem in picking friends.

 

A question what does that mean if a person picks bad friends.

 

Because the thing is if this soon to be sister in law was really his friend she would just be happy for him that he found someone he really cares about and wants to spend his time with. He still hangs with her they work together. Yeah it bothers me that it bothers her so much. But I would never tell him what to do or what he can't do. Its his life he will have to learn who his true friends are. And this one..the soon to be sister in law has some feelings she needs to deal with. In the mean time she is planning a wedding to her fiance in less then a year. But she puts up blogs about how unhappy she is. How the transition of friends is causing a big knot in her stomach.

 

I've gone over and over and over again about this with her. that my man is still her friend. But she demands more in his friendship then a frienship should. She wants him to pick her over me. She wants him and her to do things all the time with out me. Which they work together they spend all day together and we all live together I know scary..So she gets to see him all day and all night unless we have other plans. I trust my man so there is no issues there. But I want her to stop throwing a pitty party for herself because in reality the only reason he and I have distanced ourselves from her is because she is rude, and mean and excepts way to much.

 

Should I talk to her again or just leave it alone?

[norajane]

Is this the guy who had the threesome with his brother and his brother's gf, and also had separate sex encounters with the gf?

 

No, you don't need to keep talking to her. You need to talk to your boyfriend. He's the one who can change his behavior to keep her at more of a distance, out of respect to both you and his brother.

 

And, as I believe was said before, you need to MOVE OUT.

 

As for what you can tell from how he picks his friends, well, he hasn't really picked any friends, has he? His brother was not a choice, not a pick, and neither is his brother's fiancee...she comes along with the brother. So yes, you can tell a LOT from that. A guy with no friends and a sexual past with his brother and his brother's fiancee and no other friends is bad news, IMO.