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[mac007]

Hi, yesterday, my girlfriend end the relationship with me. I am fine with it. It was peaceful (of course we had disagreements).

 

Today, i said that as a friend. I want to show you something. It was a background report on her age.

 

She said that she was 40 when the report said that she is 41. I didn't like her white lies to me. This is one reason why I was also wanting to end it.

 

I told her that I was sorry in giving her the report, but I just wanted to clarify her age again. She said that, "it is a dirty trick what you did."

 

I didn't do this out of being dirty. I need help. I haven't talk to her since this morning. We do work together in the same place. I told her last night that I won't be chasing her nor calling her. She understands this.

 

I hope I didn;t lose a "friendship" because of my stupidity. help please.

[Jane Doe]

I'm confused. Why did you run a background check on her to begin with?

[mac007]

it was public info. it started as something innoncent. just to see if i can find her name. i then saw some info there. I didn't take it to heart. but after awhile her lies and white lies began to add up.

[Craig]

... but after awhile her lies and white lies began to add up.

 

I hope I didn;t lose a "friendship" because of my stupidity. help please.

 

Why would you want to be friends with a person like that (that consistently lies) anyway?

[mac007]

that is a good point. deep down. i do want to be her friend. kind of like offer a palm branch. she does preach christian values. we also do work in the same place. only time will tell. i haven't spoken to her except for some few work related duties. this began on last thursday, and we talked briefly on friday. no matter what i do want to take the high road, and always do the right thing.