xBroken2Piecesx Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 I met the best thing that has ever happened to me last year at a friend's birthday party. That was the first time we spoke and at the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers. Later, i moved to a different city for study reasons. We started messaging each other on our mobiles. At first,it was more of a friendship kinda thing but soon we got to know each other and we started calling each other up everyday single day. Her voice was the last thing i hear every night and every morning. Due to my packed class schedule i could only go back to my hometown during the holidays. But i found myself booking plane tickets to go back for weekends, just so that i could be with her. She just got out of a ****ty relationship about a year before we met at that party. I wanted us to be together but according to her, she still hasn't full recovered yet and still needs some time to heal. Plus, she thinks it would be hard for us to be in a relationship because she was going to New Zealand to study and i'll be going to Moscow for studies. I was a bit dissappointed but decided to be understanding and give her all the time and space in the world that she needs. That was at the beginning of this year. I just moved to Moscow about 3 months ago. There isn't a time or day that goes by that i don't think about her. To tell you the truth, i never knew that i am capable of missing someone so damn much. We still message each other on our mobiles everyday. But we rarely call as international calls are quite expensive. Plus, we figured that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Here's the problem, we're not in a relationship yet although i really wish we were, however if you had a look at our emails and messages we seem to be in one. She keeps telling me that she wished things were different and she wished that i was hers although i keep telling her that i am. I told her i'll wait for her but she keeps telling me not to as she'll be holding me down. I love her...and there is nothing more that i want then to be by her side...but i don't actually understand what she has in her mind about us...i talked to her about it..and all she said was that she tries not to think about it as it's too painful for her but wants me to remember that whatever that is going on between the both of us now is real and sincere even if we might never be. Any thoughts? I'm really lost here...any help is deeply appreciated. Best Regards Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 She got out of a sh***y relationship A YEAR ago, and still is not ready? I don't mean to be insensitive, however, it sounds to me like this woman is still carrying a torch for her ex, and in the meantime, she's managing to "have her cake and eat it, too" by stringing you along. I know it's hard, but I think the smartest thing for you to do is to back off and see what happens. Either she'll wake up and realize that she does want you in your life in a more meaningful way, or she'll go her own way. You know, sometimes people are *too nice* and don't know how to say "Thanks, but no thanks." Why not try chillin' a bit and see what happens, then? Liv Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Why don't you confront her about it? See what does she have to say? Link to post Share on other sites
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