Vanquish Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 So i went with strict NC and it worked, and she called me and all we talked about was family and how our lives were going right now, no relationship stuff at all on my end other then the fact that the ex brought up being single still. Now comes to today, the fact that its my turn to break NC and wish her a happy birthday. I want it to come off like old times but without any of the relationshipal bull****. I thought about calling her and playing her happy birthday on my guitar or something cheesy like that but maybe just a call and a happy birthday would do the trick. The fact that she broke NC with me makes this a hard thing to do, other then the fact that when she broke nc she told me she has gotten a ton of voicemails and she thought that she was single, so NC seems to be working like a charm in my case. I just don't want to give off the wrong impression by wishing her a happy birthday, even though it must be done. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 Uh, maybe I'm missing something here, but why must it be done? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanquish Posted September 15, 2006 Author Share Posted September 15, 2006 To not come off as a jerk and totally disinterested. Theres still that feeling inside but im not portraying any of the obvious signs to her and inside i truely want her back. Not to mention the fact that the dumper (her) broke NC with me first. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 OK, fair enough. Maybe sending an e-card would be more appropriate. It lets her know that you remembered, but isn't too personal. As well, it avoids a phone conversation that may develop into something uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 OK, fair enough. Maybe sending an e-card would be more appropriate. It lets her know that you remembered, but isn't too personal. As well, it avoids a phone conversation that may develop into something uncomfortable. This is great advice. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 This is great advice. That's why I get the big bucks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanquish Posted September 15, 2006 Author Share Posted September 15, 2006 E-card, text message all the same? She doesn't have an email. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 I'm not that familiar with text messaging technology, so I don't know if you can send an e-card that way or not. But if not, then maybe a quick "Happy birthday (her name), have a great day" or something like that should suffice. Link to post Share on other sites
Parky Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 Just buy a birthday card and post it. Thats all you need to do. She will most probably break NC by texting you or even calling you. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 Personally, I'd send her a photo of the stripper I'm banging at the present time, but that's me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanquish Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 Hmm thought i concluded this. Went to her party at her request through a friend of mine even though i saw her earlier and she wouldn't even say hi to me or make eye contact. Was my normal self and had the entire party in stiches while talking to her numerous girlriends to the point of her having to call her girlfriends over to another table to get them away from me. Ended up talking to her dad and he was in tears telling me im a great guy and he wish things woulda worked out. It was tough but you know what i made some great friends there in her parents even if i didn't through her. And in the end i shook hands with everyone close to her in her family, her sister, dad, neighbor, everyone and i went inside staired at her and brushed her off, hugged her mom and eveyrone else and just left. On my way out i texted her and said goodbye, no hard feelings. Then i got a call at 1:30 in the morning with her asking what that means and i told her i had a deep conversation with her dad and then started to say something else and broke it off and shes like yeah life is tough and i just kinda laughed and said yeah no **** life is tough. And she said we can still be friends and i just kinda eh sure i guess. I said i called her and wished her a happy birthday earlier and she said her phone didn't get the voicemail (yeah right) and then told her happy birthday again and then goodnight and that was that. Honestly i am done with the lies and bull**** she put me through, maybe ill contact her in a few years and see if shes changed but i doubt it. Maybe oneday she'll realise just how bad she ****ed me over and how good i treated her. In the end it doesn't matter anymore. Thanks for all the sound advice you guys gave me, but it just wasn't ment to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 This is usually the outcome, that's why one shouldn't waste ones time on someone in this disposition. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 so NC seems to be working like a charm in my case. I just don't want to give off the wrong impression by wishing her a happy birthday, even though it must be done. Why must it be done? Will the sky fall if you don't acknowledge her B-Day?? DO NOTHING! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vanquish Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 I think i already answered that, superconductor beat you to it. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 To not come off as a jerk and totally disinterested. Theres still that feeling inside but im not portraying any of the obvious signs to her and inside i truely want her back. Not to mention the fact that the dumper (her) broke NC with me first. You want to come off as a guy who has a life and has too many new girlfriends to be bothered with saying Happy Birthday to a woman who dumped him. You should be totally disinterested in her, and more interested in a new girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 You should be totally disinterested in her, and more interested in a new girlfriend. Superb advice GFTO...but this guy obviously does not get it. Link to post Share on other sites
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