Steve The Pirate Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 just wondering in eveyones opinion when it officially becomes cheating constantly thinking about someone else? fantasising about them? chasing them? kissing? folling about? shaggin? or something other? Link to post Share on other sites
kimmillah Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 just wondering in eveyones opinion when it officially becomes cheating constantly thinking about someone else? fantasising about them? chasing them? kissing? folling about? shaggin? or something other? I consider cheating any relationship that you form with another person that you feel you can not tell your SO about. If you find someone attractive or you wonder how good they are in bed, etc. thats only being human. You are not dead. Its only when you start to act on that attraction that it crosses the line. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 It will become cheating for me when either of these options occur: 1) B/f kisses/makes-out or have sex with someone else 2) Goes to a date without telling me and is so secretive, even if nothing happen and they're just friends but if he says nothing about it and gets defensive if I find about it, then I would have the rights to suspects he's up to no good Other than that, I do not consider cybering, dirty talk online, nor phone sex cheating. Now that's normal, I mean don't almost every young people do that nowadays!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Obviously anything physical. Kissing, sexual touching, sex, etc. If you prefer to hang out with a crush or someone of the opposite sex rather than your own bf/gf. I think talking dirty would be cheating too, like if i had a gf but im talking to some chick online about how I wanna go down on her, that just shouldnt be happening. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 1.Boyfriend has any kind of sexual contact what-so-ever with someone esle. This includes sex,kissing,lap dances, and anything esle done to be a sexual turn on. 2.Forming an emotional bond with a member of the opposite sex which is stronger then the one you share with you SO. 3.Talking dirty, describing how you wanna have sex with them, basically any form of sex talk with someone besides your partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Cheshire Cat Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 just wondering in eveyones opinion when it officially becomes cheating constantly thinking about someone else? fantasising about them? chasing them? kissing? folling about? shaggin? or something other? IMO when your partner would consider it cheating, then it's cheating. Personally I wouldn't define constantly thinking about someone else or fantasizing about them "cheating" - at least some sort of interaction with the third part should occurr. It would still be a huge problem, though - and surely not something I'd like my partner to do! Chasing, or looking for people to cheat on your partner with, can be as bad as cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Brkn_Hrt_Bermuda Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 I believe that all of the above is cheating. You are in a committed relationship with one person and one person only. If you find yourself having thoughts or fantasizing about someone else, the you had better examine your relationship with your SO. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 If fantazing about others is cheating to some people, then literary i would have broken the rule many times. At times as I'm hugging my pillow, I imagine hugging another guy or a celebrity such as Justin Timberlake, the kid from "Home Alone" movie, ect. Don't really see how dirty talking can be cheating if you're just joking around, it's not like you really are gonna act on your fantasies. Only time it would be cheating is if you really act on your fantasies and get physical with the person (ranging form kissing-full blown sex). Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 I definantly consider dirty talk cheating. I would be very angry if I found out my bf was telling some chick he wanted to lick her all over and have hot sex with her...(or something dirtier then that but I decideed to clean it up a little:D ) I would just find it disgusting whether it was a joke or not. I think it would show he doesn't respect me or our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 just wondering in eveyones opinion when it officially becomes cheating constantly thinking about someone else? fantasising about them? chasing them? kissing? folling about? shaggin? or something other? Any of these would be a concern to me. However, I'm not sure that I could call it cheating. But I'd certainly be concerned if my partner was constantly thinking about another person. IMO when your partner would consider it cheating, then it's cheating. Anything that would make your partner uncomfortable. To me that's the line. Link to post Share on other sites
kulyok Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 To me, having a sexually coloured emotional bond with someone else is cheating. Wishing for such a bond, even if it's only wishful thinking, is cheating even more so to me - I wish they'd tell me so I'd break the relationship immediately. If my partner has a "just sex" affair and tells me about it, I will respect his bravery - although a 3 month sexual break is necessary to make sure no STDs transmitted. If I see him going dreamy about another girl - well, what do we need each other for, then? I'll either help him overcome it, or we split. Both are cheating, but emotions are the key; sex is just an act. Link to post Share on other sites
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