friend with anorexia

[Phil Mitchell]

Hi I have a female friend that has anorexia, she has admitted a problem and she is seeing doctors etc, but I need some advice on what to say to her, and how to be around her.

 

I have recently been going on bout how good a person she is, ie letting her know looks dont matter, but I think she might be taking this the wrong way, like I'm coming on to her or something so cant do much more of that!

 

I keep seeing her at the gym and try to go over to her and "distract" her from her workout, but again suggesting we quit the workout and go for a drink, is maybe being taken the wrong way

 

any advice of anyone who has been in the situation where a friend has this?

[whichwayisup]

Listen to her, be a friend, but don't be her therapist. She has that covered.

 

You can keep her self confidence up by spoiling her, having fun and making her laugh! Be a good distraction during those times she's feeling low.

 

Why not go see a movie together? Something really funny. Instead of focussing on exercise, do something fun together.

 

And, most of all, be honest with her. TALK to her, I mean, you are her friend, it took alot for her to tell ya about her eating disorder, so give her the same honesty. Ask her to let you know if you say the wrong thing...Make sure she understands you'll never do anything to hurt her, and never to take anything out of context, because you care, your heart is in the right place.