snowflake02 Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 My bf is really close to his family, which is fine...but I think its a little too much and I get really annoyed and irritated sometimes. His family lives in another country. He talks to his parents every single day, sometimes several times in a day...They call him and he calls them equally. He talks with his older brother and sister who also live in different countries nearly everyday as well. He also chats with all of them, does that video chat thing and emails each of them everyday. I think this is abnormal as he is 27. He also talks to me about his family all the time, what they are doing now where they are traveling...Of course I want to hear what his family is up to...but not all the time. He also went on a 3 week family vacation with them and we have never been on any vacation together even though we have been together for a year. I feel like I will always be second to his family. Also he doesnt have any real friends. I think the reason why he was never really able to make friends is because he is always so involved with his family and he doesnt really care about anyone else. I actually told him several months ago that I thought it was strange that his mother called him everyday. She is sometimes really stalkerish..for example when he doesnt pick up she will call over and over..He got really defensive and angry when I mentioned it though so I never said anything again after that. Is it wrong of me to get annoyed by this? My family are not this way at all so I find if very abnormal. Why is he like this? Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 I assume if his family lives in another country than your boyfriend comes from a different cultural background than you do? You might try to understand his culture's views of family. I know I dated a South American man for a while and family was EXTREMELY important to him. He worked two jobs just so that he could bring his family here, one by one. They all pitched in and bought a big house together and they all lived there; a set of grandparents, mother and father, a bunch of his brothers, some nieces and nephews and a handful of cousins. Every weekend they spent their liesure time like this; they set up folding chairs in the backyard, grilled dogs and burgers, talked and played music. On our first date, he took me to hang out with his family. They were, in his words, "My Soul." Obviously for someone not used to that much family togetherness, it can feel very overwhelming! Here I was expecting a romantic date and instead ended up meeting a gigantic family and then hanging with them all evening! It was different. But it was also very special. Try to have some understanding that for some people, family is EVERYTHING. Link to post Share on other sites
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