Love_and_Respect Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 One of the top managers at our corporation just recently started acting really unusual around me - whenever we happen to run into each other, he quickly looks or turns away, and often starts walking in a different direction. And he does it in such an obvious way too. It puzzles me because we used to be pretty civil and friendly in a professional kind of way up to about a month ago. I just don't get it. I can't think of anything I've said or done to make him feel uneasy/ uncomfortable towards me. I shared that with my husband and he said that all the signals indicate at that either the guy, for some unknown reason, is trying to avoid me because he somehow finds me intimidating, or because he has a crush on me (???). If the first assumption is true, I hope it doesn't affect my job security due to some silly misunderstanding on his part. If the second is true, that might be just his way to avoid temptation... Anyway, it just makes me feel abit uneasy as well. I pretty much try to stay away from him as much as I can, finding the whole thing kind of strange and uncalled for. Link to post Share on other sites
MsArcadia Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 I had the same exact thing happen to me by a co-worker friend that I am close to. If he saw me in the hallway, he would turn and go the other way or just turn his head like I was never there. Then, slowly things would go back to normal. I consider it one of his personality quirks. Sometimes people do things that are strange and illogical. As long as he is civil and professional when you guys are working together, I wouldn't worry too much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love_and_Respect Posted September 16, 2006 Author Share Posted September 16, 2006 I had the same exact thing happen to me by a co-worker friend that I am close to. If he saw me in the hallway, he would turn and go the other way or just turn his head like I was never there. Then, slowly things would go back to normal. I consider it one of his personality quirks. Sometimes people do things that are strange and illogical. As long as he is civil and professional when you guys are working together, I wouldn't worry too much. I don't worry at all. But I do wonder, though... He's my boss, you know, and I don't want to think I made somebody mad at me. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 I shared that with my husband and he said that all the signals indicate at that either the guy, for some unknown reason, is trying to avoid me because he somehow finds me intimidating, or because he has a crush on me (???). why don't you sleep with him? you may find yourself in a cushy corner office as VP of Whatever fairly quickley. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love_and_Respect Posted September 16, 2006 Author Share Posted September 16, 2006 why don't you sleep with him? you may find yourself in a cushy corner office as VP of Whatever fairly quickley. I knew I could NEVER trust a bird's advice. Especially the one's with those long yellow feathers... Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 It might be easier to deal with if you keep reminding yourself that his behavior is not your responsibility. (Unfortunately, I understand that it may be your concern.) Let's hope he's just having an attack if shyness and it's nothing directed at you. Still, it's a great time to focus on your work, produce some really great results, and make sure that other top amnagers know about those results. Also, it never hurts to freshen up your resume as an antidote to worry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love_and_Respect Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 It might be easier to deal with if you keep reminding yourself that his behavior is not your responsibility. (Unfortunately, I understand that it may be your concern.) Let's hope he's just having an attack if shyness and it's nothing directed at you. Still, it's a great time to focus on your work, produce some really great results, and make sure that other top amnagers know about those results. Also, it never hurts to freshen up your resume as an antidote to worry. I know that all my supervisors value me as an employee. I always get great evaluation feedbacks from them, good raises and often verbal appreciation. Last week, for example, I was recognized for the way I handled an important project, but this time someone else was asked to thank me while usually he would be the one to do it. Like you and MsArcadia said, I'll just hope it's a personality thing going with him that hopefully will be soon resolved. Link to post Share on other sites
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