Asking a girl out?

[Scooter]

There is this girl in my ballroom dancing class and I would like to ask out. Yesterday during class, I had a lot of fun with her, talking to her and dancing with her. We teased each other and even though we have been in the same class for over a month now, I felt like yesterday was the first time that we really notice each other.

 

I didn't want to scare her off or anything, so I didn't ask her out or even ask for her phone number. I just played it cool and told her I'll see her next time.

 

My question is did I do the right thing by waiting a little before asking her out? I plan to ask next tiime we meet. Do you think I should have asked when we were having fun in class yesterday or did I do the right thing by giving it a little time?

 

If she is interested or starting to get interested in me, it should be okay if I wait until next week, right?

 

I don't even know if she has a boyfriend or not. How should I approach this? Should I ask if she is seeing anyone first, or should I just ask if she would like to go out without knowing if she is even available?

 

What do you all think?

[flyinghouse]

ask her, do it.

There is this girl in my ballroom dancing class and I would like to ask out. Yesterday during class, I had a lot of fun with her, talking to her and dancing with her. We teased each other and even though we have been in the same class for over a month now, I felt like yesterday was the first time that we really notice each other.

 

I didn't want to scare her off or anything, so I didn't ask her out or even ask for her phone number. I just played it cool and told her I'll see her next time. My question is did I do the right thing by waiting a little before asking her out? I plan to ask next tiime we meet. Do you think I should have asked when we were having fun in class yesterday or did I do the right thing by giving it a little time? If she is interested or starting to get interested in me, it should be okay if I wait until next week, right? I don't even know if she has a boyfriend or not. How should I approach this? Should I ask if she is seeing anyone first, or should I just ask if she would like to go out without knowing if she is even available? What do you all think?

[Tony T]

I think waiting until next week will be just fine. But wait no longer than that because I personally have had my eye on her for a long time...and if you don't make your move next week, I will myself the following week.

 

Waste no more time, young man. I am waiting in the wings if you hasten.

[velvet]

Check for a ring. You have danced together, have you noticed a ring? If not, than you have every right to ask.

 

I once wanted to ask one of my college class instructors out. I was hesitant to ask him at the start of the course. For two months I would flirt with him. I had choosen to ask him out toward the end of the course so that things wouldnt be weird btw us if he turned me down.

 

Two weeks before the end of the course, he started wearing his ring. Turns out he had already been married for years.

 

I'm glad I decided to wait before I asked.

 

I think waiting until next week will be just fine. But wait no longer than that because I personally have had my eye on her for a long time...and if you don't make your move next week, I will myself the following week. Waste no more time, young man. I am waiting in the wings if you hasten.

[BeenThere]

Chances are, if she's attending these classes by herself she has no "significant other," although she may just be dating casually.

 

Perhaps you could casually bring up your question in a conversation...ask her why her boyfriend and/or husband doesn't join in on the lessons. "Doesn't he like to dance?"

 

Could be wrong, but its been my experience that people who attend these classes by themselves do so because there's no choice. Perhaps you could even suggest private lessons with the instructor together...offer to pay for it?

 

Hope it works out...both the lady AND your classes. "J" and I are starting Salsa classes ourselves next week. Figured it was time for my solid-gold-dancer-wannabe to learn some new *moves* that didn't consist of grinding, a$$-grabbing, and making stupid faces!!

There is this girl in my ballroom dancing class and I would like to ask out. Yesterday during class, I had a lot of fun with her, talking to her and dancing with her. We teased each other and even though we have been in the same class for over a month now, I felt like yesterday was the first time that we really notice each other.

 

I didn't want to scare her off or anything, so I didn't ask her out or even ask for her phone number. I just played it cool and told her I'll see her next time. My question is did I do the right thing by waiting a little before asking her out? I plan to ask next tiime we meet. Do you think I should have asked when we were having fun in class yesterday or did I do the right thing by giving it a little time? If she is interested or starting to get interested in me, it should be okay if I wait until next week, right? I don't even know if she has a boyfriend or not. How should I approach this? Should I ask if she is seeing anyone first, or should I just ask if she would like to go out without knowing if she is even available? What do you all think?

[Scooter]

Hi, I posted here about a week ago. I had questions on asking this girl out in my ballroom dance class. And here is the update:

 

We met for class again over the weekend and at the end of class I got her phone number. I checked for a wedding ring as one of you suggested, and she wasn't wearing one.

 

I didn't come out and ask if she would like to go out on a date. All I said was can I have your phone number? She smiled and gave me the number. I told her I will call her in a few days and maybe we can go dancing or do something. She said okay.

 

I guess we can safely assume she doesn't have a boyfriend at this point, right? By asking for her number and suggesting that we go out dancing, am I making myself clear enough to her that I am asking her out?

 

What do you think??

[Tony T]

It doesn't make any difference at this point. Ask her out and take her out dancing. You'll have ample time in a relaxed setting to get her life story and to find out if there's a guy in her life right now.

 

The way you do that is you come right out and ask her.

 

And treat the evening like a DATE, irrespective of what she may or may not think it is. Drive it home that you are interested in her as a woman...because, take my word for it, if she's not seeing anybody she wants to find somebody she can be interested in as a MAN!!!

[Ed]

If she is coordinated enough to learn to dance, she has probably figured out by now that you intend to call her and ask her to go dancing or something.

 

Right now, you have no way of knowing if she has a boyfriend or if she is currently dating other guys. Heck, who knows, she could be married or separated or something, but let's hope not! You are just an innocent guy looking for a date. Just go out with her and have fun.

 

I'm kind of stupid and naive when it comes to stuff like this. I never ask a girl I have just met and asked for a date about her current state of singleness. I do later, but not until I find out if I want to know. I assume that if she is not wearing a wedding ring AND she agrees to go out with me, then there's a reasonably good chance she is not formally tied to another guy. Of course, this has gotten me into some fine messes, but you don't need to know about that right now.

 

Good Luck on your date.

 

BTW: What kind of dancing are learning how to do?

[velvet]

I think your making yourself perfectly clear on asking her out. She could play dumb!

 

You took my advice about looking for the ring.

 

Now the opening moves: Tell her she looks great. Get to know her casually at a slow pace.... or her pace!

 

After the date: Dont knock yourself out wondering if shes thinking that was the best date of her of life. Although you can try and plan on actually doing that. Dont abuse her phone number. Give her plenty of time to digest "date night" before you ask her out again.

 

When you feel the moment is right wheather it's after your first date or your twentyth date, always always ask before you kiss.

 

Have Fun

 

 

 

 

Hi, I posted here about a week ago. I had

questions on asking this girl out in my ballroom dance class. And here is the update: We met for class again over the weekend and at the end of class I got her phone number. I checked for a wedding ring as one of you suggested, and she wasn't wearing one. I didn't come out and ask if she would like to go out on a date. All I said was can I have your phone number? She smiled and gave me the number. I told her I will call her in a few days and maybe we can go dancing or do something. She said okay. I guess we can safely assume she doesn't have a boyfriend at this point, right? By asking for her number and suggesting that we go out dancing, am I making myself clear enough to her that I am asking her out? What do you think??

[velvet]

I think your making yourself perfectly clear on asking her out. She could play dumb!

 

You took my advice about looking for the ring.

 

Now the opening moves: Tell her she looks great. Get to know her casually at a slow pace.... or her pace!

 

After the date: Dont knock yourself out wondering if shes thinking that was the best date of her of life. Although you can try and plan on actually doing that. Dont abuse her phone number. Give her plenty of time to digest "date night" before you ask her out again.

 

When you feel the moment is right wheather it's after your first date or your twentyth date, remember to ask before you kiss.

 

Have Fun

 

 

 

 

Hi, I posted here about a week ago. I had

questions on asking this girl out in my ballroom dance class. And here is the update: We met for class again over the weekend and at the end of class I got her phone number. I checked for a wedding ring as one of you suggested, and she wasn't wearing one. I didn't come out and ask if she would like to go out on a date. All I said was can I have your phone number? She smiled and gave me the number. I told her I will call her in a few days and maybe we can go dancing or do something. She said okay. I guess we can safely assume she doesn't have a boyfriend at this point, right? By asking for her number and suggesting that we go out dancing, am I making myself clear enough to her that I am asking her out? What do you think??

[yes]

Asking before kissing somebody is a huge turn-off for some people. Just move in slowly enough that she has room to avoid the kiss if she doesn't want it - or re-direct it to her cheek or something - that's what I do the first few times.

 

Good luck

 

-yes

I think your making yourself perfectly clear on asking her out. She could play dumb! You took my advice about looking for the ring. Now the opening moves: Tell her she looks great. Get to know her casually at a slow pace.... or her pace! After the date: Dont knock yourself out wondering if shes thinking that was the best date of her of life. Although you can try and plan on actually doing that. Dont abuse her phone number. Give her plenty of time to digest "date night" before you ask her out again. When you feel the moment is right wheather it's after your first date or your twentyth date, always always ask before you kiss. Have Fun Hi, I posted here about a week ago. I had