freakygal78 Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 OK I have recently started to date a guy from work (and there is a concern already) although the main one is that he is 7 years younger than me. We had been pretty close friends for a few months before he revealed that he cared for me. I guess from there I realised I had been slightly physically attracted to him all along (although refrained from acting upon it because of the age gap) and he had a lot of great qualities as a person and things kind of just developed naturally in a romantic direction. We have been seeing each other for two weeks and we have had a conversation about the pros and cons and he is totally unconcerned about the age gap and says he likes me because he is comfortable being around me and we get along really well etc. I guess for a long time I was trying to convince myself that this would be something serious not just a younger guy acting on blind lust and to be honest he has done his utmost to treat me like a lady and make me feel special and cared for. I still have those niggling doubts however. I've already been married before with considerable life experience under my belt, I live by myself and just get by comfortably on my salary. He has had maybe one or two serious gfs and lives at home with his parents who are rather well-off. Like I mentioned we work together in the same position but in different departments and people are treating it like it's some kind of joke (mostly sour grapes from older single guys) but we are getting along and quite happy where we are at the moment. My contract finishes in December and his next April so I would not have to endure taunting for too much longer. I guess I'm worried that if I got involved with him long term the age gap would become more apparent with the plans he has for his twenties i.e. adventure-holidays and travel and me respectively for my thirties i.e. buying a house, building a foundation etc. I would not want to hold him back because I know there's so much to do in your twenties which make the person you are...also there is the chance he'll wake up one day and think 'what am I doing with this old chick, I want to date a young hottie' so he may leave me for someone younger. We enjoy each other's company but he's all like snowboarding and skydiving and I'm more like fine wine and arthouse movies. lol. I guess there is the benefit that we have a lot to learn from the other's interests although I guess I'm just baffled as to whether there is a future here? Has anyone even been in a considerable reverse age gap scenario before with a guy? I know as people get older, age matters less but 21 is still relatively young - I guess I'm just being cautiously optimistic about this one.
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