Broken up over Break up. Cheating Bf?

[Altaira]

I was getting along lately via email (long distance) with my bf (or someone who was a bf at one time) but then I saw that he had contacted my "fake dating profile that I put up months ago when I briefly thought of it to confirm my suspicions of him pursuing others while we were supposedly in a relationship.

 

I'd forgotten all about the profile, but out of curiosity checked back and saw he contacted me and gave his email address, so I emailed him to see if he'd still pursue the the decoy and he did. My decoy profile has NO PHOTO, NO ESSAY, and I state that I'm seeking friends. Why would a guy be so friendly with a profile like this?

 

The information on this decoy profile is almost the same as the info on my real profile, except age by a few years, city location where he works in, and astro sign.

 

Also he contacted the decoy profile during a time when we weren't getting along, although this doesn't make it right. A couple should break up officially before they pursue others, do others agree?

 

I know noone could know for sure, but which is more likely: that he suspected it was me or that he thought it was someone different?

 

So our real email exchange went downhill because I was (secretly) upset over this, and he thinks I blew up at him over something minor when really I was upset over this. He responded that he hasn't been calling me as much because of my "emotional issues" (my temper tantrums) but I think some of my temper or anger is justified.

 

I officially broke up with him via email and hinted at the reason without coming out openly. The break up email expressed sadness at the phoniness of our relationship and at not receiving the courtesy of a breakup before he pursued others. And I wished him the best.

 

Meanwhile the decoy had tried to get info from him like "why do some guys cheat" and he responded he himself doesn't so couldn't answer. I sent sort of mean emails, no name calling, but I conveyed distrust and disinterest.

 

And I hinted that it was me, using a phrase that he'd use to my main email account. At one point he had written "is there another reason why you don't send a pic.

 

He got pissed off and sent an nasty email back saying not to email him further, when I'm the one who was indirectly telling him not to email me further.

 

I'm so sad over how my ex bf possibly was so eager to pursue others, the fact that he kept our affair going in the meantime, and that it got so ugly (with the decoy email exchange at least). What's so sad is that he's t he one who chased after me in a way no other man has, he got me over my other ex bf who I had trouble getting over. And when things were good, it was like a romance novel.

[Altaira]

Is it likely he knew it was me or not?

 

What do you think about how the fake profile was almost the same my real profile except for

city, age, sign. Plus it had no photo and not much of an essay. Why would anyone respond to that and be so friendly.

 

what does "emotional issues" mean, he used it as a reason why he doesn't calls.

 

And if looking means he no longer loves me or never did.