Dinnj1 Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Long term LD friend (once dated) ended our friendship 3 months ago during her divorce. Ending the friendship with "I no longer want or am interested in your friendship" So I have a myspace account for a long time now. I had a pic of a girl I was dating briefly in the #1 spot as well as other pics of us together. It ended for whatever reasons... I took the pics down. Two weeks ago ,found out the exfriend now has a myspace page. We talked, I initiated contact. She requested my friendship, I accepted.... but felt totally guilty about it. Now of course, I checked out "WHO" was on her page... came across a guy who has both my exfriend AND the girl I was dating on his top 8. Strange??? 107 million members and two girls in my life are on some guys page who lives miles and miles away from both women? Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Dinnj1, Odd -yes, stalkish -may be. It sounds like there is more to this story, than just the synopsis. Was that ["I no longer want or am interested in your friendship"] the only reason as to why she left the friendship? Why did you accept her request? I think she made a mistake. She thought that she wanted to pursue other opportunities in her life, but came to realize she truly did value the friendship. It is possible the guy was filling her in on the details while you were dating girl#2. Once she saw her chance, she contacted you to resume the friendship. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 your being stalked for sure... Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Long term LD friend (once dated) ended our friendship 3 months ago during her divorce. Ending the friendship with "I no longer want or am interested in your friendship" So I have a myspace account for a long time now. I had a pic of a girl I was dating briefly in the #1 spot as well as other pics of us together. It ended for whatever reasons... I took the pics down. Two weeks ago ,found out the exfriend now has a myspace page. We talked, I initiated contact. She requested my friendship, I accepted.... but felt totally guilty about it. Now of course, I checked out "WHO" was on her page... came across a guy who has both my exfriend AND the girl I was dating on his top 8. Strange??? 107 million members and two girls in my life are on some guys page who lives miles and miles away from both women? To be fair some people never change their top friends and have just a random spattering of people in their top friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dinnj1 Posted September 20, 2006 Author Share Posted September 20, 2006 Blind - To be fair some people never change their top friends and have just a random spattering of people in their top friends. Hmmmm... understandable. But when I accepted her request, she only had 7 friends already.... with a top 12 layout. I automatically added her to my 2nd spot, to avoid that I was playing any games. Which brings up another 'redflag' to me... let me explain. From what I've learned and seen... it takes most... MOST people months (2-3) before they start to figure out myspace, layouts, music. Her page was clean, nice, music, background pics... but only two weeks old, which made me wonder if perhaps she had a 'hidden' profile previously. Perhaps? Kmt- I agree.... well, maybe not stalked, but I think she's been wondering what I've been up to Sand & Water ~ Any other reasons?? Not that I know of.... I may have expected too much attention from her during her divorce and TRIED to be there for her.... so maybe it was TOO much for her? I dunno. I don't think the guy has anything to do with it.... Personally, I think she was checkin' out the profile of the girl I was dating and started chatting with him from her page... not sure. I actually spoke to the girl I was dating and asked her about this 'guy' and if she ever chatted with him. She said he would send an email every so often... innocent emails... "How are you? Don't be a stranger..." but then she said she would hardly ever respond cause she doesn't even think his profile is real. He claims hes a bigshot model $150+year, and has ALL modeling pictures, and no realtime photographs to back it up. So we all agree, it's definately 'strange?" Stalkerish strange? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Blind - To be fair some people never change their top friends and have just a random spattering of people in their top friends. Hmmmm... understandable. But when I accepted her request, she only had 7 friends already.... with a top 12 layout. I automatically added her to my 2nd spot, to avoid that I was playing any games. Which brings up another 'redflag' to me... let me explain. From what I've learned and seen... it takes most... MOST people months (2-3) before they start to figure out myspace, layouts, music. Her page was clean, nice, music, background pics... but only two weeks old, which made me wonder if perhaps she had a 'hidden' profile previously. Perhaps? I dunno bout all that. I helped someone do their myspace layout so he had a pretty cool page from the get-go. So we all agree, it's definately 'strange?" Stalkerish strange? I dunno bout all that, either. I mean, on any given page of people I know or have known for a lengthy period of time, we tend to have at least 4-5 friends in common. Anyways how would this be stalkerish? I'm just curious. I've been stalked before, but it was IRL so it was pretty effing terrifying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dinnj1 Posted September 20, 2006 Author Share Posted September 20, 2006 Ok, maybe not STALKERISH.... but .... 'nosey'? As in, she's been snoopin' around my page, wondering whats been going on in my life or who I'm talking too? Just thought it was a little too strange to find an ex on some guys page along with my ex friend, both on his top 8. I actually created another page and deleted my old one, made myself completely unsearchable... cept' for my email addy. Added two friends and have been watching my profile views go up ALOT... It aint the two friends and it aint me. LOL We still talk... but she's very short asnwered.... she use to be all up on me, until 'feelings' came out, then her whole attitude changed. Kinda like... You alway want something you can't have, but when you finally have it, you no longer want it? That attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Dinnj1, It does sound kind of creepy. I don't know. Why would she be be doing that, since it is just light friendship interaction? I have been stalked before in real life, and it was f-ing scary to say the least. Very uncomfortable. So, as long as you are not being stalked in real life then online nosey-ness isn't all that bad. Confort her about it if you want, or just let it slid. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dinnj1 Posted September 20, 2006 Author Share Posted September 20, 2006 Sand & Water.. I kinda wondered if it was anything like you had said... maybe second guessing herselfand her decision. Lurkin' around my page trying to see what's goin' on with me? Cause it was only 2 weeks after I took the girls pic down off my page, that my exfriend popped up on myspace. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Dinnj1, It is possible. I don't the situation, in its entirety. I'm going through a similiar situation. I broke up with a male friend of mine, and am deeply thinking of returning due to a few factors. Maybe she wanted to come back to you, because she still has feelings but why did she have to wait 2 weeks? That is for you to discover. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dinnj1 Posted September 20, 2006 Author Share Posted September 20, 2006 well, IF she wanted to come back to me or get me back in her life, she's goin' about it all wrong. We talk, mostly through email, but since she keeps it relatively short, I keep it short as well. I made the mistake of bringing up 'feelings' in the past year, and it only pushed her away. Then shortly after, we end up reconnecting again. Is it true if one totally 'rejects' another... (another being a person who thinks they got someone wrapped around their finger) that the rejection would make that person's head spin? Cause that's one thing I've never done to her.... flat out reject her. I'm the type who would answer every call, txt and email within' minutes. I'm always available to her.... thinkin' I need to relax a bit with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted September 20, 2006 Share Posted September 20, 2006 Dinnj1, You are willing to have her in your life, is what your saying, just as long as she doesn't treat you like a piece of balogny and doesn't disappear into thin air. I see. Why did she reject you in the first place? This sounds all too familiar. I do believe it would make anyone's head spin. But, it depends on the reason given at the moment of departure. Perhaps it was a silly relationship to begin with; it triggered her to leave -hence no excitement from her end. The turn of events, in your case, ejected a few bad luck trails for you. Don't be too available to any women, now or in the future. It shows that you are too easy going, lame, and uneventful. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
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