Flirting leading to... vibrator leading to...? Went too far?

[vermont_thrift]

Just some background info before we get into this...

I'm 23 in long term relationship 3 years or so

Good friend of mine is also 23 in a long(er) term relationship 4+ years

 

This good friend of mine (for 6 years) and I always chat about our personal relationships with out bf/gf, but the conversation always ends up turning into a sexual topic (with a joking tone)... I told her i'd get her a vibrator for her bday as a joke and we went and got one... Then we were hanging out in my apartment (looking at porn online and joking about it again)... afterwards, she took out the vibrator and she was placing it on my crotch asking if it felt good but laughing... I kind of did the same thing to her (all w/ our clothes on).. At this point, I knew we were doing something that was definitely wrong.

 

She's also joked with me about going down on me for my bday... I'm curious if she really would or if she's just playing some sort of flirty game cause the next day she'll talk to me about problems w/ her bf again... We speak of sexual things & our sex life so freely and I feel like there's a lot of sexual tension between us, but we resisted ever making any moves on each other. I'm just curious to know what she's really thinking (because I feel like she's just as wrong as I am)...

[Bryanp]

How would you feel if your girlfriend was doing the same thing to you with a good male friend behind your back? You have disrespected your girlfriend terribly. Open your eyes. Does your girlfriend really deserve this type of behavior from you after 3 years? What don't you be honest with your girlfriend and tell her what happened and see if she thinks it is so cute.

[Adunaphel]

Calling your friendship inappropriate would probably be an understatement.

 

Are you happy in your relationship?

If so, and if you care about your girlfriend, you should really stop seeing this friend of yours.

 

Otherwise you and your friend might seriously consider breaking up with your partners and try to understand whether you are both interested in more than a friendship.

[Guest]

I agree with the above posts. What you and your friend are doing is completely inappropriate and disrespectful to your partners. The question is, do you want to stop it? If the answer is no, then you should reconsider your relationship. I'm almost certain your friendship will eventually lead to cheating. Actually, it already has. I don't think it's fair for either of your partners to be behaving this way. If you truly love the person you're with, then you need to have a serious talk with your friend, and stop this "joking" or quit the friendship altogether. If you were in other shoes, it wouldn't seem as funny to you

[SoCalCatman72]

Sounds like an ongoing EA that is rapidly approaching PA status. Be careful grasshopper.

[sillyyou]

if that female friend of yours is comfortable talking to you about sexual stuff... and doing those sexual plays on you.. as a female, i think she might have a little thing for you.

 

b/d there's something missing in her relationship with her boyfriend.. you're filling up that happiness.. you make her smile and vice versa. i say, be careful. you two don't want to hurt all three parties.. you, her, and her bf.

[mental_traveller]

She's partly interested at least. Your behaviour has gone a bit too far, best to put a complete end to it now. I would cool off the friendship for a while. Otherwise next thing you know, it will be your johnson that she's pushing into her crotch, and you'll be posting "I feel so bad, I cheated on my gf with my female friend" in the infidelity forum.