Making the time-together count ?!

[rckt365]

What's the best way to make sure, what little time, we have together with our s/o in-person, REALLY COUNTS ?

 

What questions, what topics, what activities ... are necessary to ensure that you make it till the next in-person time avails itself to you?

 

I have a familiar story - met my girl online about 6-months ago ... had pages and pages of email conversations ... talked on the phone ... and about a month ago finally met in-person.

Our first in-person meeting was a week-long trip I'd made (2000miles) to visit her.

It went FANTASTIC ! We discussed ALL kinds of things ... the serious 'relationship' stuff ... and the light-hearted playful-banter stuff too. After 5-days together we were REALLY reluctant to say goodbye! At the airport she cried ... we kissed ... and agreed she'd come to visit me - soon.

 

To make sure that sex didn't become the focus of our relationship, we (me mostly) agreed that we shouldn't pursue anything 'romantic' until we were both sure there was something more - and we both agree that we do see more, and it seems the 'friends-first' policy has only increased our attraction to one another.

 

Fast forward a month - and soon again we'll be spending a week together. Although, she and I, haven't discussed it openly, I'm certain she's (also) thinking "this one is quite likely 'the one' ..." So much so that we are (she in particular is) reluctant to discuss it until we meet again. She's open about a lot of things, regarding opinions, ideals ... but VERY closed when it comes to her feelings.

 

We are heading to the mountains, which I totally LOVE and to where she's never been ... a romantic setting to say the least. At her request we will spend a day in the city where I live, I think she's wanting to see if it's a place that she could live ?

 

So just what is it that one needs to do to make the time count ? Yet not make it so serious that it stifles our passion and the fun we have together ?

 

I'm so lost with all of this - I'm not even certain what the question is that I'm asking, so does anyone have any advice, for a guy that's new to LDRs?

[rina_r]

Everything goes well. Relax and dont sweat it.

[Irishguy3137]

You just need to keep in mind they agree to be with you for a reason, they want YOU. Don't sit there letting your mind run you places you dont need to be when the general consensus is they like/love you for the person you are, they enjoy your company or they wouldn't be giving you the time in the first place. Saying to make the time count means to not let the fact that you can't see each other how you used to be able to effect the good time you should be having; when you can in fact see her. That sounds confusing. Bottom line...dont let small things ruin what you share with someone. Distance is in fact the hardest thing to overcome, but at the same time it is also what can seal the pact between two people. Just make the most of the time, and support them when you can't be there with them.